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Dear Daniel, I've been inspired by you, thank you. I'm interested in relationship in particular. We all carry wounding and health. I agree, be in a good place, love from surplus. I'm thinking at the moment that I/ we can only get to this through relationship(s). We need relationship(s) to grow and mature in relationship and heal. I know it's been transformative to end a relationship, to say no. But right now I'm staying put in something that feels grim a lot of the time and has done for a long time. But growth can be like that, (horse chestnut buds look so violent around the time they split the sheath to emerge) so why not in relationship? We don't know if we're transforming to die, or to blossom anew. If I don't learn what I'm learning within relationship, can I learn it? I could leave, take the iron out of the fire to let the heat sink in, and start again more whole. I think that's a wise path. But I'm not convinced it's the only one, though I have no idea if that it wisdom or fear! I can grow, do it in this one and then review. I think Rilke talks about the conventional path, obviously at a time when divorce/ separation was less easy, was to numb, or find some arrangement, at least that worked for the man. But he saw even then, that to leave and split up, is the same. So I'm curious what you think about transforming relationships from within. And navigating the subtleties of growth and turmoil and toxicity. Turning lead into gold means handling lead. Warmly, Amanda
Hi What a breath of fresh air your website is I quickly browsed through some of your essays they are very interesting and all go back to speaking at truth the mainly unspoken truths especially within families Many taboos are coming out now in the media but the emotional abuse that is carried out within families and continued within sibling abuse is still an ongoing taboo. And the denial. Because if all siblings are in denial it normalises their behavior If one would speak out and acknowledge your feelings and validate your words they will all have to hold a mirror up to themselves which none of them are prepared to do. This pathologises them as stated in your homosexuality essay. I never wanted children and made a concious descision and never regret not having them For I knew it would only make me a highly anxious parent worried that I will continue consciously or otherwise that cycle onto those children. Instead I work with children and as it happens have a particular strength in looking at emotional abuse within families which is often difficult to evidence and raise within families Regarding sexuality if two people can Unite and form a healthy loving respectful trusting relationship then that can only be a good thing. I know of too many heterosexual dysfunctional damaging relationships. Why aren't people talking about that and raising children within same sex relationshipsr. Should that not be the concern. Isn't it these unhealthy relationships that have the biggest impact on future society. It is within these dysfunctional relationships that children grow up and repeat the pattern
Daniel, I came to your blog after having seen your "Why I stopped being a therapist" video. I am a senior executive coach with many years of experience. I practice in Japan, and across culture. I, too, am leaving 'the field', and owing to a system that no longer permits me to hold my client's interest first. Your transition from your former field inspires me. Well done! I look forward to following your blog.
Hi Again - Shoot! I was watching your anxiety video and was so inspired to contact you that I paused the video and sent my previous comment. Then I finished the video and now I have one more thing to say. Any way, I too feel like the world is some kind of messed up cult. Those of us outside the cult need each other. It helps us feel better (saner, less lonely) in this dysfunctional world. So yeah, again, keep being you! The non-cult members need you : )
Hi Daniel - I just discovered your videos. They are so intellectually rich and emotionally deep. I wanted to say thank you and keep going! I so relate to many things you say including the bit about anxiety and having it after you be yourself in a strong way. That is my life experience too. Just know that when you put your videos out there and feel vulnerable that there are many of us out here watching and getting it and appreciating it on so many levels. Keep being you!
Hi Daniel, your ideas are very thought-provoking. I'm still considering and re-considering a lot of my opinions on the topics you discuss. I think I disagree with a lot of your content but I value your eloquent expression more than someone I would agree more with because you challenge the convention and a lot of my preformed (or casually formed) opinions.
Hi Daniel, Just wanted to share that you inspire me in a Betty Dodson kind of way. Of course I know you are not a radical sex activist like Ms. Betty, but you are taking a radical stand for discussing something so natural, (sex, trauma, abuse, bad parents) that makes so many people uncomfortable yet is the complete and utter honest truth. Thank you for being so courageous. It's people like you who give me the strength to continue my inner work and go against the grain. Those of us striving to be healthy are a minority!
Hi Daniel. I like your music! Stupid people having children, lol
Daniel. You are an amazing human being. I applaud the Universe for your existence! 😀
Hi Daniel, I just watched your video about why you quit being a therapist, and it feels a bit weird, but I just spontaneously wanted to say something I felt I see there: I see anger and frustration on your face, in your being, towards "the system". I also see something very deep and beautiful in your eyes. It looks as though and old, heavy identity is dying on your face (have seen this fenomena before in spiritual gatherings), and I´m shure something light, loving and better is in the process of being born. I wish you all the best, love &light on your way. Greetings, Riikka from Finland
Hi Daniel I think you may benefit from listening to Peterson ..and I would love to hear your take on him. I can't find your email to send it directly! https://youtu.be/XD6qeWSA6rA https://youtu.be/h194kSmK3SQ
Dear Daniel, Please tell me how we can discuss further "hiring" you We are not currently in the states Thanks JM ELIE MD
I’ve recently encountered your YouTube videos. I wish I could actually talk to you. I do not know if that is an option. I am a new therapist (almost 4 years) and have encountered so much toxicity in this field I don’t know how I can manage to stay in it. I am at an impasse and do not know what direction to go in. I’ve never had good supervision and unfortunately got a cookie cutter education. The one thing that is good is that I have been doing my inner work which makes me a more aware therapist at least. I am disheartened though and I’ve really just begun. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I resonated with your video on why you got out of the field.
Hello there, I very much like your honesty and courage. No masks just you being YOU. People either like that or they are afraid of someone who is able to be unmasked and comfortable. That shows real strength of character.. Me? I like you a lot and would love to have a coffee with you one afternoon. I've just watched your video on "Why I Quit Being a Therapist" I did also for very similar reasons. A lovely lady (a sectioned patient) in a secure locked hospital) said to me, on my first day at work; "Don't be afraid of us Honey but be afraid of them (the Doctors and Psychiatrists!) She was absolutely right !
Hello Daniel! I`d like to contact you and tried your "hire" section to ask you for details, but the form there doens´t work ( maybe some of my settings? but i just get an empty emailform with your adress missing...) so if you are still up for that please contact me via email. i´d be cery curious about your feed and if i can affort to have a conversation with you! 😀 either way, thank you so much for putting yourself out there,...i´ve already gotten a lot from your ideas.
Hi Daniel... I am writing in response to a youtube you did on why you discontinued working as a Therapist. I left the mental health world here in my City, point for point, about 10 years ago. I was trained , interned, received my post-grad ed from a wealthy county on the east coast and then moved to the city whre I live currently....sometimes I worked around the system to do real counseling/therapy with positive results while constantly battling insurance/case management. this must be a systemic problem throughout the U.S. and was simply trained in an exception-to-the-rule system where I was trained to take take a whole person approach to treatment and diagnosis. I left mental health to work in the allopathic medical system which morphed into an interest in natural medicine due to the same broken approach to physical health. I love your blog profile...we are like thinkers... blessings, peace, and all the best, Eli
Love your videos... you have so much common sense.... your real...... honest.... thoughtful
Hello Daniel, I am blown away having inadvertently found the explanation for why you stopped being a therapist. I too am an LCSW but stopped practicing in 2013 when I turned 65. Ii am so with you in your observations straight across the board. I feel you spoke for me, Daniel - I am and was so aligned with you. I can't write it all out but it would be awesome if we could talk. I am a New Yorker but have lived in VA for a long time now. (My hubby rescued me from NY and all my triggers there and brought me here. My background is in graphic arts and I was a photographer for 25+ years before returning for a masters. I got my MSW in my early 50's and trauma was/is my area: wounded healer stuff. I am just now finishing an essay (long in coming) on therapeutic writing in jail based on my experience with non-violent drug offenders -often with co-morbidities- over a period of years. I have no website; I'm an anonymous nobody but having finished a memoir not to long ago, I feel liberated from the s***storm of my life in the FOO. It's taken a lifetime (of living and therapy) to gain my distance- my chosen modalities are ISTDP, Trauma-focused CBT and Somatic Experiencing (I'm and SEP). I use them on my own body-mind and as a lens through which to find understanding of the people who cross my path on a day to day. It would be nice to hear from you but I suspect you are very busy doing the good work you do and I truly commend you for what you've done so far. i will listen to your music, etc and follow your blog. With best regards, Cassie (Arnold) Alexandria, Virginia
YouTube algorithms have a odd way of introducing you to some really great channels. Bonus seeing you interviewed by Stephan Molyneux from 2010!
Hi. I discovered you on youtube from childhood trauma. I did watch your films and i am happy that your films are making a difference in the world as far as people knowing their are different alternatives to taking anti anxiety and anti depressants. I have seen first hand people who have no resolved childhood tramuas how it affects their confidence how they arent in healthy relationships. I did agree with you some therapists not able to help their patients because they are too deattached to help their patients or are simply not have the empathy to help them. I look forward to more of your videos on youtube.com
Dear Daniel, I just watched your video about Healing Homes in Sweden. I truly love those videos because I believe that genuine care for one another is the only believable answer to present day problems. But it is Europe. Europeans have a different emphasis and put finances into projects other than in the USA. . Have you ever watched the comparison about German and American prisons on 60 Minutes CBS. I was speechless. I have to say that coming to the USA has shocked me finding the inner situation of this country in such unbelievable desperation. Though I have written a book, I have no income yet and money is needed to start something. What are your thoughts on practicable ideas?
HI Daniel, Withdrawing from the system brings up the question what one is looking for instead. Many spiritual groups were on my way when I was on such point 30 years ago. All these groups had something good. But my \"dilemma\" was, that I couldn\'t belong to all at the same time and neither to one exclusively. I was looking for what brought them all together. One day when the pain got to me I asked God to give me a sign. I did. Right in that moment my phone rang with a woman being on the other end of the line who held the answer. She introduced me to revolutionary knowledge. We all feel in one way or another that the world as we have come to know it is declining. While we are separating and dividing more and more - either within our selves, in marriages, between generations, nations etc. and feel the pain that is coming with this - we, at the same time, are filled with the longing to come together in a new way. For this unity to come about we will need a new road map. We need new knowledge, or, to say it with Einstein\'s words: We can\'t fix a problem with the same mindset that created them (problems). After my withdrawal from society 30 years ago I searched intensely. Many spiritual groups were on my way which I liked all. Whether Buddhism, Hinduism, Mystical groups, etc.... each of them had something good to offer. My dilemma was I couldn\'t belong to all at the same time and neither to one exclusively. I was looking for something that brought them all together. I asked God to give me a sign. which I could read as a sign. I was really on the edge at that time. And right in that moment my phone rang with a woman being on the other end of the line introducing me to The Head Wing Philosophy and the Divine Principle. This knowledge is of revolutionary nature given to mankind in this particular period in history for us to master the challenges upon us. Humanity as a whole is ask to outgrow its comfort zones. With more and more war zones emerging, with nations declining and people feel increasingly pushed to the edge, it is our challenge now as the only alternative to what doesn\'t satisfy us any longer, to go beyond anything we have know so far and create a world which has never been before. It will come about through us changing as individuals, as families, generations, societies and nations. Will it be easy to take on such work? No it won\'t. It is pioneer work. To be precise, it is very difficult. It feels as having to climb a mountain we didn\'t know existed as the only choice to get out of our misery. In case you are intersted, there are organisations which in a step by step way build on this knowledge for a better world to emerge: WFWPU Women\'s Federation for World Peace and Unification UPF Universal Peace Federation/Interfaith Dialogue FFWPU Family Federation for World Peace and Unification. Best wishes, Insa
Hi Daniel, Have you ever listened to Teal\'s videos? I thought you might like them. Much love to you. Insa https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZ_DU8gLgQ8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dy10f1CVhhc
Your a breath of fresh air to a women who has been in the Mental Health System beast for 25 yrs. Currently social worker at the VA. Nice to hear someone who can think for himself. I want to leave the va because I just can work in such a confused, bob down system. Thanks
Lieber Daniel vielen Dank für die guten Videos es ist sehr wichtig dass ich sehr viel zum Guten ändert
Hi Daniel, I show your film, Healing Homes, in a mental health class that I teach. When I showed it, the students asked for \"evidence\" that it works, and what happens long term to the people who receive this services. I also show the video on Open Dialogue in another class and a lot of research is cited in that video, and I include articles on that approach in their reading list. Can you point me to any \"evidence-base\" for the Healing Homes approach? What\'s the research?
Hello, Daniel, Thank you for giving me some insights into Open Dialogue. What a refreshing change from my experiences with the psychiatric system in Canada! I thought you might like to learn about my focused listening music therapy for healing mental illness, including schizophrenia. It comes with a novel neurological paradigm that explains how the therapy produces left-brain dominance in the integrative processes of the cerebral hemispheres. Over at Mad in America a number of people are reading a brief summary of a therapy that could be drug-free in an Open Dialogue context. If you would like to copied in on \"Awakening Normal\" just email me and I would be delighted to do that. It provides an introduction to my ground-breaking discoveries while healing our son Daniel of schizophrenia. I hope it will make a \"hand in glove\" fit with Open Dialogue supporters. Thank you for what you are doing! Laurna
Dear Daniel, I just saw your video \" If I Had Kids How Would I Want to Raise Them? -- 36 Ideas from a Former Therapist\" Sounds wonderful. Have you ever heard about Waldorf education. My son was in a Waldorf School. I think it would meet your ideas and expectaions. They are all over the world. Here is a video about a school in Nairobi. One of so many. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=upmMD4JnCus Love your honesty! Lots of love to you. Insa Rose
Hello Daniel! These days I\'m spending time watching your videos and I find a huge wisdom in them... I can apreciate the effort of self-knowledge that you did and are still doing and how, from your proces, you explain it to us in a tremendous useful and direct way. I can only be greatful for such a generous website, youtube channel, etc.... My greetings from Spain
Hi Daniel. I\'ve bee a fan of yours for a few years now. I stumbled upon your YouTube videos a few years ago and spent a very fair amount of time listening and absorbing. I can honestly say that you have made me think and have challenged me to ask myself some hard questions. For that I thank you and can report that you have provided me with a great deal of support and validation. Thank You!!! For the most part, I agree with much of what you say, almost all of it. Even much of the stuff I don\'t fully agree with, like the stuff about having kids, I probably agree with somewhat but to a much lesser degree than you. I am a married man with four kids, I am also an Orthodox Jew and my Judaism, which reflects the Torah, which is understood by Orthodox Jews to represent the revealed will of G-d in this world, explicitly demands that one do all that one can to have and raise children. I think you make some very valid points about people having and raising children, but I am unable to reconcile your point of view with that of the Almighty\'s, whom I, for one, believe created the world and all that is in it and continues to recreate it and influence everything that happens in the world day to day, moment to moment. Who am I, and for that matter, and please forgive me for being presumptuous, who are you to contradict G-d who is perfect in all ways? If he prescribes the pursuit of having and raising children to be an absolute good, how can I (and for that matter, how can you) with our very limited, finite, and small minds (in relationship to The Almighty\'s \"mind,\" if you can actually say such a thing) think that we know better? I just can\'t get on that bandwagon, even though you make some very salient and valid observations! Although I could absolutely discuss this subject in greater detail, such as how to then incorporate the mandate to have children and remain a therapist, this is not the point of my correspondence here today with you. My intent here today is to connect with you, introduce myself, perhaps even begin a dialogue with you. Mostly, I wanted to communicate my support to you and admiration for who you seem to be. And really, to just say thank you!! I am about your age, I received my LCSW in 2012, but I have been an MSW since 2007. I agree with so much of what you say about being a therapist and just wanted you to know that I am listening closely and appreciate your perspective. I share, as I said, just about all of it. As an Orthodox Jew, I suspect that politically, and socially, we likely diverge on many of our perspectives. I tend to favor a more conservative approach. Which is fine, I can tolerate and consider another\'s perspective. But it is interesting how much of your perspective on trauma, parenting, mental health, and relationships I feel that I agree with you on. So please keep at it! Your efforts are much appreciated. Oh yeah, thought I\'d mention this to you. I find it threatening to refer my clients to your videos although I often have the impulse to do so. I guess I fear that my clients will then have more of an edge on me and will more easily be able to see through me and through the veneer that I apply to my relationship with them (which is only the result of my own insecurities and years of trauma). But I think I am going to start to do it. I am going to start to send them in your direction and que sera sera. It will be good for me. All the best!! Loren Ecker Queens, NY PS-My website really stinks! I know it. I\'ve put about zero effort into it. With all of my work and responsibilities I just haven\'t put in the effort it requires to be any good. So if you check it out, please don\'t judge me by it. Thanks again!