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I love your blogs because you are so authentic. I am 65 years old. I have been working as a nurse for about 45 years. I am proud and happy that I have spent almost every day loving people trying to make their lives little more bearable. BUT I should have been what I wanted to be, An artist.........As I have always been obsessed with Philosophy and the search for understanding this thing we call reality. — Now I am retired and unfathomably depressed that I did not do more with my life. And that nobody understands my existential crises. Would you mind if I lived vicariously through yours?
thank-you for the much wisdom you share,I also have a great passion to see more people come free from the medications they take and still arent well,,Medication truly is abused big time in america,,I for one have started taking a pure full spectrum cbd oil with great results,,There has got to be a better way!
Thank you very much for your work Daniel especially to give voice to the victims of the mental health system god bless you!
Hello Daniel, Just found you on YouTube, such a delight to listen to you talk, especially on childhood trauma and how it disconnects you from yourself, how it silences you. So many things you talk of, I have personal experience of working through and coming to the same conclusion. So keep talking, keep making videos, keep shining... a great many silent ones may come out and be seen and heard, as a result. Kate xxx
Hey Daniel Just want to say thank you. I love your reflections and hounersty in your videos. So relieved hearing your views on therapy, what works and what doesn't work in your personal opinion.. It brought some really quality reflections to my own perspective across the sea.. Thanks for beeing yourself! Now I know, that there is someone out there like-minded within the therapeutic field, or well, not anymore, but your reflections on the topic brings value. Thank you.. and Merry Christmas very soon
Thank you for putting up your videos. Having watched a healthy portion of channel, your surgical breakdown of the mental health system, your courageous expounding of parental relations and surrogate partners symptoms, down to the conscious downshift of a lower register use has paralleled my life almost to a T. Thank you again for putting your videos up. You're not alone.
you certainly were tested. this is a superb video! confirms what l know confirmation the grand finale being Grace. truly rich video
Daniel, thank you so much for sharing your intelligence and your brave, wild heart ❤
Hi, I want to say Thankyou Daniel for sharing your personal struggles and work and staying true to yourself. I am breaking from my family partly at this time, there is much anger fear and backlash coming my way. It is strange because I know that I am simply establishing boundaries. I’m not trying to hurt anyone. I am on the path to wellness and wholeness but my family insists it can’t be if they’re not included/the ones directing it. God bless you, you are a beacon of light when it feels very dark and alone.
Thank you Daniel. Wild Truth is a valuable and generous resource. Much appreciated.
Dear Daniel! These last days as I found your website I am watching your videos with great pleasure. They help me clarify more what goes on in my own process of growth and gives me support I surely need. My experience as pretty much close to yours, for example I am a trained psychotherapist, though I did not work much as one. And I can totally relate to your experience as a psychotherapist. But I really don’t want to overwhelm you with my thoughts and my experiences, I think you have a lot of people who write to you, you have enough of it :)) My real motivation to write to you is to share with you something that helped me a great deal. I am currently in the process of separating from my parents. I can relate to your observation that it’s incredibly difficult and not accepted by the society. And that we have our own parents inside, we’ll, I still do. I’d like to share what helps me tremendously to heal, to see things clearly, to become my true self and to separate myself way easier from my family. 1. Understanding that at least one of them was a narcissist. And it is a common suggestion for children of narcissistic parents to go no contact with the narcissist. Have you ever read/watched videos about NPD. I really recommend you give it a try. 2. Some methods of meditation help me tremendously. I’d say these three: Emotional release, Metta meditation and Vipassana. I don’t want to write too much, but if you’re interested and ask me questions, I’ll gladly tell you why exactly i think they help and can give you some guided meditations that help me, for example. I any case, I give you a real big hug and I’m glad that you exist. May your life be inspiring and healthy and full of growth! Inga
I stumbled across your work on YouTube the other day. Watched The 'Critique of Jordan Peterson' Video. I find your 'Environment inducing behavioral dynamics' theory to be correct because it was a thought I had always had myself. I study Mathematics from home which led me into doing a lot more research into Clinical Psychology and The Neurological Sciences. If you ever have the time to discuss the topic further I'd appreciate hearing someone else's opinion. Thank You for the Work,
Hi Daniel. I stumbled upon your block and your work when I was searching for Alice Miller on YouTube. I must say your critique of Alice Miller, especially the interview you did with Martin Miller, has caused my faith in Alice Miller's preaching to crumble. I was abused severely by my parents and paternal relatives for the first 15 years of my life and they continued to try and control me for the next 15. My therapist has been working with me on my trauma by referencing to Alice Miller's work. After reading your critique (which echoed with my own thoughts greatly at various points), I am growing more and more afraid to go down this path. If Alice lived a dubious life, could I really trust her? I cannot deny I have been feeling better but this shadow of fear is growing to cloud me more and more. Thank you
Writing again here just to say loving your new set videos. Truth thank you! Maybe a decade + after I biding your content, you continue to provide actual help, however variously defined.
Thank you Daniel for your great video on forgiveness and your other videos! I am on board with what you said about forgiveness. I will never forgive my parents and my cousins sexual abuse of me growing up. Telling someone to forgive is another form of gaslighting and tyranny. I agree with you that those who push forgiveness refuse to deal with their own trauma. Why would someone want to forgive those who people committed heinous crimes? My parents had no remorse for the damage I suffered.
Just a question: I watched your video on why you quit being a therapist. And I am one of those clients you spoke of who, though in the most pain, have been rejected by therapists because I have the least money (on Disability). So, after two psychiatric stays, I've been delivered right back into the hands of my family who harmed me in the first place. Terrible, terrible irony. So my question: How do I keep from jumping out a window?
Hello Daniel, I appreciate your pure music and fabulous videos, and your courage and honesty in challenging and illuminating the injustice, ignorance and confusion to be found within the mental health arena. Lots needs to change, and I see you as a peer leader. I hope that you will continue to have many many followers and collaborators, and that lasting change for the better will also follow you - indeed, catch up with you. As for me, I hope that I will find the courage to continue my struggle to be open, honest and courageous. I hope to continue to look to your web resource for encouragement and support. Best wishes, Fi
Hello! I just listened to a podcast on Mad In America where you were interviewed by Will Hall. You spoke as to why you worked with people who were labeled psychotic or schizophrenic. I've always struggled to answer that same question when asked during a job interview. I, like you, can relate to the underdogs, the rebels, and to the one's that have been put down and stepped on. I recently graduated with a Master's in Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies, which is a very progressive school. My last year as an intern I worked in a step down or transitional home for people with "Severe and Persistent Mental Illness". I loved it and hated it. I hated seeing how the system created a revolving door for the community's most vulnerable. I hated seeing people given two options, take your meds, or get out. That was abuse, and I actually filed an Elder Abuse claim against the supervisor. I too was not popular at this site. Most of the people I worked with were homeless, so they’d end hospitalized, medicated, "stabilized/ tranquilized", then released back out on to the streets, all to repeat again. What I loved about the work was developing a connection with the residents. Basically the only "technique" I used was empathic listening, along with believing them. I didn't tell them that what they were experiencing was not real. I invited them to describe what they were seeing or hearing. I remained curious and open. The feedback I received was profound and precious. Most said the same thing, that they had never felt more heard or listened to. After listening to your experiences in that interview, I knew I had to try and contact you. I want to do therapy with people who have "psychosis". Do you know of any organizations where this can be done? I am willing to travel! Or maybe a private practice? I have very few hours towards licensure, and as I write this, maybe the best thing to do is work for the least re-traumatizing organization so that I can get my license and start my own private practice. I know you got burnt out doing the work. I expect that may happen to me as well. Thanks for doing the work you did, and for also sharing your experience. It's been inspiring. Warmly, Matthew
Daniel, I am inspired by your brave, mental clarity. You are a gem. I feel so lucky to have happened upon your YouTube channel. My best to you, Kellie
Daniel, I can't thank you enough for your output of work. Can I ask: when a person is feeling pains in the body clearly due to the surfacing of trauma, what is the best way to sit with this pain? Do I simply observe? Do I ask it questions? Do I find the questions through writing? After a lifetime of neurosis, in this past year I've been able to let discomforts expand without necessarily seeking, enclosing, emphasizing, and analyzing them. If context helps to flesh out my question: yesterday I was juggling--practicing in front of a mirror, and I looked into my eye's own reflections, and asked out loud "what is it I really want?" Not long after, I started to cry, and utterred "to be out of this pain." Not simply was "something" surfacing, but dormant awareness of something was surfacing. Since then I've felt a discomfort in my groin (to be blunt, as if my penis has been cut [nothing testicular, however.]) The pain has been highlighting itself on and off today. I can tell some shift has taken place, and I want to approach it in an appropriate manner. Any insights would be greatly appreciated.
I just listened to you video on forgiveness, and honestly Daniel, what you are describing is a form of denial with a "righteous" label put on it. God forgives us but never without dealing with the sin that alienated us from Him. To be reconciled to God does not just mean that He does not count our sin against us, but that He fundamentally changes us to be like Him. This is a great mystery. God vented all His just anger at our sin on Jesus to make a way for our forgiveness, redemption and restoration. When some one hurts me, I need to honestly acknowledge that and process it. When it is tempting to demonize some one for hurting me, I remember my own sin that hurt God so much. I remember how terrible His wrath is, and I think, I am hurt and angry, but I really do not want to see them suffer that much. Then I see them hurt and broken like me. I accept that God has allowed the pain that they caused me for a good reason. Then I am ready to seek a healthy reconciliation, but it takes two to reconcile. If they do not accept responsibility and respond in a healthy manner, that has to have consequences. Even God who forgives those who trust in Him disciplines them as a loving father that they might become holy as He is holy, without sin. Daniel, I am so sorry for the pain that you have had in your life. You are right to sever you relationship with your parents ( they killed it ). Thank you so much for staying true to the truth and for giving sacrificially of yourself for the healing of others. Your authenticity is a miracle. Not because it is easy ( which it is obviously not ), but because it is so rare and beautiful. Isaiah 63:9 If you have questions about what I have written, I have lots of time. Thank you for your kindness. ~Karen
Your work is so relevant, needed, original and inspiring.
Hi Daniel A friend of mine shared two of your videos with me and I'm really resonating with what you're sharing. It is great to hear someone else talk about some of the stuff that I've been talking about (I've just written a book about the dark night of the soul, or the process of becoming real.) I look forward to watching and listening to me and would love to connect at some point if you're inclined to. Warmest wishes Fiona
Hi Daniel, Been enjoying and benefitting from your content for a few years. Allow me to return the favor and offer a book recommendation. Next to Alice Miller, the most influential author in my growth/healing journey has been Robert Bly. I have read “Iron John: A book about men” and “The Maiden Kind: the reunion of masculine and feminine.” Both are excellent. He synthesizes brilliantly, in his own gorgeous mythopoetic style, insights from depth psychology and mythology. Come to think of it, I don’t care too much for the term “mythology” anymore because “myth” is associated with “unreal”, where the Truth is that “mythology” is a living, breathing phenomenon. Interesting. Anyway, Take Care.
I recently watched your video "why I quit being a therapist" and it helped me in terms of being in the process of quitting my job-though I am not a therapist, I have worked for 13 years in homeless shelters/domestic violence, supported housing for "chronically" homeless, and briefly in mental health, with people who have experienced extreme and often chronic trauma. While not in a clinical capacity I have often been in the position of crisis worker as I was often on the 'front lines". I agree with what you said about the MH field, the liability focus and drudgery of many people in the field. Overall I have loved the work I've done but am taking a break-perhaps for good. Stomach problems, feeling too drained, etc. now I am going to do all the yoga I want, backpack and hike and eventually find a way to do something that feels meaningful again. But it is a bit of a loss of identity which is king of ridiculous. day three of unemployment! in a coup;le weeks ill prob start cleaning hotel rooms or something. Here's to breaking free! "let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pool of what you really love, it will not lead you astray"-Rumi
Just came out of social work school and started working in the city... your video "Why I Quit Being a Therapist" is playing as I write this and it's ringing a lot of bells for me. Your comments about parallel process w/r/t supervisors simultaneously pathologizing supervisees and clients is exactly what I've been experiencing, from my field placements to my current job. It's recently been "suggested" to me by my supervisor to 1) teach one of my clients about boundaries because he's "creepy", 2) consider that one client who is personable and likes to talk with other staff is actually just manipulative, and therefore has a personality disorder, and 3) to find a way to medicate a client who doesn't want it, but insurance won't do X if he isn't participating in psychiatric services so... It's an iron hand in velvet glove industry - no surprise there - but I'm actually less confident about being able to navigate this game than I was when I was working outside social services, in a more "cutthroat" line of work. Thanks for being on the other side and open about your experiences. Helps me to see that the current tunnel I've entered doesn't necessarily have to go on forever!
The song video of The Seeker’s Ballad is really lovely and that song will stick in my mind along with the image of the walk that turns into a dance. It was very interesting watching your vid about stopping being a psychotherapist too. Thank you! I mainly stick with comedy these days but I’m glad I happened on your channel. Have you seen Martin Shaw of the Westcountry School of myth annd storytelling? He would love you cos he is wild truth too.
Daniel: I have some thoughts I'd like to share that I feel are very relevant and fundamental to overall human development and self-mastery. Perhaps one of the most overlooked, or at least underrated, aspects of human life and behavior is "socialization." Social identity precedes self-identity. Social consciousness precedes self-consciousness. To master and fully realize self-identity and self-consciousness, social identity and social consciousness first have to be mastered and fully realized. All living animals in nature are similarly endowed with a certain degree of social consciousness. But, unlike humans, they do not have the capacity for self-consciousness or self-identity. Before self-consciousness and self-identity can be fully realized and mastered, the deepest realities and truths of human socialization and human social existence must first be fully comprehended, internalized, experienced, emotionalized, and then ultimately mastered and manipulated in the service of self-realization and self-consciousness. As far as psychology is concerned, "social psychology" is one of the most important, fundamental, and relevant realms of psychology to be explored. The profound, universal, and historical process of socialization that an evolving organism is subjected to on its path toward sophistication and superiority is, for whatever reason, marginalized and diluted as an object of analysis of human behavior and human nature. The modern experience of "individuality" is historically novel, and we're most likely just barely scratching the surface of human individuality and emotional independence. Again, I believe that most, if not all, natural human "pathologies" are, directly or indirectly, related to the issue of socialization. If I permit myself a dramatic and speculative example: Take Jesus Christ, and his doubtless complex relationship with his Jewish people at the time. The Jews were (and still are) the most "socialized" group of humans in history. For reasons that perhaps aren't entirely clear, and that are much better suited to a scholar or expert on Jewish history or Jewish life, the Jews' long history is such that they collectively subjected themselves to a profound, severe, and even pathological degree of social cohesion and social connection among, within, and between themselves as Jews. And I think this process (of "socialization") finally culminated in a social convulsion and rupture within Jewish life, and that social convulsion and rupture was Jesus himself. It was almost as if the Jewish people had reached some kind of social limit or social boundary, or some kind of social cliff edge, among and between themselves, as the product of their long and self-imposed hyper-socialization. A type or personality or character like Jesus could only have emerged from a community of people like the Jews. Why? Because he could only have emerged from a place and reality and experience of profound, severe, and pathological socialization, of "over-socialization", whereby some element of natural "individuality" was repressed, suppressed, or constrained (and which, remember, can only be constructed on top of socialization, even perhaps at the expense of socialization). The connection and relationship between human psychology and human socialization is, I strongly believe, so deeply entangled, that it's almost impossible to separate them as processes. There are so many different dots to connect here that I simply don't have enough time right now to go through it all. But, I'd like to again restate the most fundamental point here, that hopefully partially reveals and exposes the nature and truth of human self-identity, self-consciousness, and self-realization: Technically speaking, socialization and social identity and social consciousness form the natural basis and foundation of self-identity and self-consciousness. If the former aren't fully mastered and seized, the latter can't hope to be.