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hi anita - i\'ll send a backchannel email. greetings! daniel
dear Metta--- i\'ll reply backchannel to your email -- and see if i can help you. i do know icarus folks, and also am willing to donate films, but shipping costs a lot!! maybe we can work something out about shipping! all the best to you! daniel
Dear Daniel, Greetings from the Davao, Philippines! My name is metta and I found out about your website, writings and documentaries through your youtube video called CHILDHOOD TRAUMA AND THE ART OF HEALING. It is very helpful and we are very grateful to have it as a resource for our plan to form a mental health collective/support group this year 2014. As for now we are in the process of studying or learning more about alternative approaches to various psychiatric issues. To be honest, our group is not expert and we don\'t have any experiences but we hope to be successful because this will be the first grassroots alternative/radical mental health collective in the Philippines. Another is that we want to ask you if there is a chance that you can donate any of your DVD or books helpful for our group? Besides, we also have a community library, so we also accept donations or resources as we are just poor activist trying to make solutions to many complex problems created by this madness-driving capitalist, patriarchal system. Another question is, do you have a friend or do you know someone from ICARUS Collective? They are also doing great actions dealing with mental health. Anyway, thanks for all your works and contribution! best wishes, metta
Hi Daniel, So glad to find your site. I am a mental health professional and find that the current system of drugging clients and not providing healing to be against my morals and ethics. I\'m glad to know that there are others who seek a way to heal mental illness not just cover it up with \"Medications\". Peace, Love and Light, Tony p.s. captcha are a pain. 🙂
Hi Daniel A second message, to say I\'ve been reading a number of your essays, and I watched your video on confronting parents, and listened to your \'bullshit\' song. I\'ve just been very moved reading your \'The Traumatised Are Safe\' essay. You are a very unusual person, in your capacity for fearless truth telling, even when this will mean triggering people into their fear, with possible nasty consequences for yourself. Although, as you clearly appreciate, what first appears nasty, inevitably is liberating, if it helps you to know the truth more deeply. I feel the same way you do about taking responsibility for healing myself, rather than passing on that burden to a next generation. And my husband has spent his life trying to work out how to help the children who already exist, rather than creating any of his \'own\'. I am hoping we can connect via email (though that obviously depends on your time and inclination). In addition to the docos I mentioned in my last email, I have a couple of long documents about my confrontation of my mother which you may be interested in (a nonviolent action involving a peaceful vigil supporting my request for financial reparation, which landed me in prison for over three months for conscientiously breaking a domestic violence restriction order, and resulted in me defending myself in front of a jury). It was an amazing experience - we felt and learned so much, about my parents, the legal system, humans generally, and, of course, myself. Having been through all that, I resonated with many of the points you made in your video. I like the way you tell people what to expect, but don\'t discourage them from doing it. Obviously, every person needs to deal with their parents according to their own situation and inclination, but it is so often the case that I have to go into a situation, even knowing intellectually what the likely outcome is, to really access the feelings deeply enough to come to a clear and powerful understanding that really changes my sense of self. Anyway, I\'d love to hear where you are up to with your own \'terrifying\' journey foward. Cheers; Anita
Hi Daniel, I\'m a nonviolent activist and independent psych researcher from Australia. Your site is really informative - I had a similar experience of having middle class parents and being supported academically, while suffering abuse that led to me having to end my relationship with them. I enjoyed your lively and insightful interview on Open Paradigm. Your anger (fully justified) at the current mainstream psych system is palpable, as is your commitment to change. Good on you for genuinely caring so much for yourself and others. Thought you might be interested in the following article: Fearless Psychology and Fearful Psychology: http://anitamckone.wordpress.com/articles-2/fearless-and-fearful-psychology/ and The Peoples Charter to Create a Nonviolent World: http://thepeoplesnonviolencecharter.wordpress.com Lots of love; Anita
i am glad that i broke contact with my parents. when i was together withs them in a room, it was THERE thoughts, beliefs and espacially there need for denial, what counted. i could not stay for some months constantly in contact with my personal feeling (or hopefully inner wisdom), as long as i was in contact with them. there are big problems with that decision of me too, but i would not know a better solution so far. i find it very well explained by you, how the emotional need of parents as well as the young adult having learned to be dependent on them makes the emotional healing impossible. There are surely many exeptions of this rule, but as i don´t belong to these exceptions - thank you for your videos, which encouraged me to this step.
Hi Carol, Greetings! I\'ll reply backchannel -- but you can purchase it on this website under the DVDs (English) page with Paypal. All the best -- Daniel
I would like information about purchasing a DVD copy of Take These Broken Wings. Thanks
Thank you so much for sharing your story and also all the work you do on documenting alternative treatments such as Open Dialogue and Healing Homes.
A beautiful work and very innovative. Something very important to have in mind (and in the body ...or this is the same)! Congratulations!
Hi Daniel. I have not read any of your work but I have seen your youtube clips. I am intrigued by this form of caring therapy and hope to access something similar in Australia. .... xif it exists. I am a young. Female and have been suffering at the hands of my doctor\'s for too long. I hate them and am at the point of relinquishing their care but its sad that I know its only a matter of time before they send the police to bring me in. I live in brisbane queensland Australia. If you have any contacts near where I live I would greatly appreciate the help. Thankyou very much. Maddy
Dear Daniel, first of all, let me say I\'m truly grateful for your videos on YouTube, I watched all of them and a lot of them 2-3 times (and I probably will buy some of your books when I have more money). I\'m VERY attracted to \"finding my true self\", growth, healing from childhood trauma etc., and I do want to go this way. Unfortunately, I had a discouraging experience lately; it was when I moved to a different city, away from my parents and acquaintances. In the second night, I smoked some pot (never smoked it again since), when suddenly an intense anxiety came up, which was hard to endure, it stayed for days, till I decided to move back, because I felt so damn isolated, helpless.. it was just too much horror, and I feared that I now have lost my comfort forever.. Now I\'m again preparing to move, now to a nearer city... I see that coming again, and it will (I\'m still not completely free of it, after 2 month)... Now I\'m again full of willpower to go through this, but I know all this will vanish again when such a horror comes back.. It was like I was losing myself, I had nothing to hold on to, my usual phantasies, pleasures etc. vanished, replaced with anxiety, fear of losing happiness forever, ending up in suicide.. *sigh* I don\'t know what to write, I just hope you have any tips, you could provide any information, I don\'t know.. It\'s messy. With best regards, Sepehr
Daniel, Have you seen the video yet? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BX6WTL88j4
I received your documentary \"Open Dialogue\". Watched it today. Very intriguing to see how those family therapists and doctors are baffled by your question \"are you personally at risk by not medicating?\" The only thing that is missing from the film is to interview some policy makers at the municipality level or perhaps the next-higher-up level of governance.
Hi All -- thanks for commenting. John -- I\'m actually in Melbourne right now, and I\'ll write you a backchannel email. wishing you the best, Daniel
Hi Daniel, are you coming to Melbourne, Australia this month? Cheers!
Hi Daniel, I am currently reading your book Toward Truth. It makes REAL sense. My whole life I have been existing through eyes of dissociation. A horrible never ending hell of nothingness if it wasn\'t for a brief collapse of the false self I was convinced that this existence was reality. The veil of illusion lifted I finally could SEE for the first time in my life. The internal voice was gone everything was in 3d. I felt true feelings not pretended ones. I was a part of everything . Next day it was gone hell returned I wanted to commit suicide as a result of this. One day of true living in 3 decades of living?. Your book is revolutionary. How separate I am from myself a walking zombie damaged a monster. The ego reminds me incessantly. An optimal life of a human is living thru the true self.
Just found your website having been reading Alice Miller for some time. Thank you.
Finding the road back to liberation from suffering is no mean feat, but once achieved i can see the individual can bring so much hope and love to many others. Its a life time work. Your clip on healing suffering shows much wisdom. How refreshing to see someone who is prepared to do the ultimate in hard work to be real and stay real. A message of hope. When i became a mother and watched that process of control unfold from all the adults around my children and even observing my own behavior, i know this negatively effected my children\'s unique spirit - my intuition knew what was right but circumstances impact us more profoundly than we can ever predict.
Daniel, I am so glad to have been able to buy all four of your DVD\'s. You are doing good work and are a true inspiration. I am glad to have found your blog - I just read some of your writings about dreamwork and agree - I have done minimal dreamwork but find it fascinating. Dreams can be one way to deepen our understanding of ourselves. I have found miraculous physical and emotional healing through nutrition, supplementation, Energy Medicine and Energy Psychology, and feel truly blessed in that sense. It is something I want to share with the entire world, but unfortunately, there are those who just don\'t want to believe that if it isn\'t in the form of an FDA approved prescription, it can\'t possibly work. How frustrating!! Thanks again.
Hi everyone! I\'ve been responding to these guestbook messages backchannel. Thanks for posting!! all the best to you-------- Daniel
Hello Daniel, how are you? I am sorry,but my sister ordered the wrong DVD without german Subtitles,could she send you the DVD back? And trade it to a DVD with german Subtitles? It would be nice. The name of the DVD is \"Take these broken wings\". Greetings, Alex
Your site is amazing.I would like some input from you on my troubled relationship with my mother,and I love the work you have here.I left most details on a comment under \"good enough mother\" blog entry.I would appreciate at least your thoughts on my situation.Anyways,thank you for the remarkable work.
Hey Daniel, I tried ordering the 4 DVDs from the DVD page but couldn\'t get the purchase to go through. Wanted to see if you were having problems with paypal or anything. I can also send a check. Lemme know what the best way is, thanks! j
hi, Daniel, My name is Katie Kach, im a kinesiologist, soul therapist, painter and poet from Slovenia. I read your articles and watched your videos and fully agree that medication is no solution to mental and soul problems and only helps in supressing the real roots of the pain that always originate in ones childhood. I studied all the books by Alice Miller and widened my understanding of the effects of child trauma and abuse early on in ones life experience. I have been a healer for 20 years and specialize in cutting the ties with parents and significant others. I feel that in case of severe mental illnesses and personality disorders no other system that i use for healing has had more beneficial results than energetically and vibrationally clearing the energies between child and parent, so that all negative and deeply supressed emotions can be cleared and karmic patterns released as well. I was abused as a child by both parents and luckily i had a compassionate witness ,my grandparents living with us till i was 5 years old, that is perhaps the reason im not in some mental institution now, but it took me decades to heal my own pain and feelings of guilt, low self worth and other problems including depression, perfectionism and self harm which in my case was subconsciously brought on ( broken bones, accidents, vicious attacks by others causing me serious harm, plane accident, severe mold poisoning that almost killed me and took a year to recover from, etc.) I lived in London for ten years and studied healing, energy medicine,kinesiology, Psychology of Vision,Diet and nutrition, Spiritual response therapy and i hold ITEC Diploma in Anatomy and Physiology. As a healer i have developed my own healing methods over the years and have been most successful in helping peope heal from childhood traumas and psychological illnesses, partly i attribute this to high sensitivity i have developed as a child to help me survive, i have studied Mediumship at the College of Psychic studies in London and am a professional medium also, but i feel that the main ingredient in my being able to assist effectively in healing journeys of my clients comes from deep compassion and understanding of the level and causes of their pain and is a result of my personal suffering. I have a strong desire to help others find solutions quicker than i did. I was so ill during period of my life in London that my marriage broke down and i was unable to walk a flight of stairs for years due to chronic fatigue syndrome and severe yeast infection.Then i embarked on an innr healing and spiritual journey and studied alternative methods of healing and that changed my life(i was an english teacher and art historian by original education from Slovenia). My CV and other details about me and my work can be found on my blog which i do not use for communicating with people but more as a bit of initial information about my work, energy paiting and spiritual poetry. If you would like to write to me and exchange experience and ideas it is best you write to my email address and i will be very happy to return any emails. Thank you for all that you have been doing to heal self and others. I see immense value in that effort and from my heart i wish you love, joy, freedom and creativity. Much love, Katie
Hi Daniel, i thank you for your work in looking for cures for mental illnes without any medications. My sister has been at the hospital for schyzofrenia, just 1 month ago. i\'m sure this desease has causes in the childhood, and not (only) in biological system of anyone of us. Hope science grows up in resolving mental illnes just with psychology! tahnk you.
Dear Daniel, thank you so much for sharing your valuable experiences! Like many others here, i also found a lot of things i could relate to in your story. What an intriguing and interesting journey this Life is! Though i have to say that there is something that is deeply bothering me in your approach. The way you manifest about breaking up with your parents almost gives me the feeling that you will never obtain the goal of your journey, your final peace of mind, until you turn back to actually face your past instead of trying to seemingly block your parents of your life. I say seemingly because you seem to be processing them a lot and even working on a book about them, so this is clearly THE topic on the agenda of your inner journey at this stage. You say: * * * It’s about the subject of breaking up with one’s parents. (...) I think it will be groundbreaking, because I don’t know any other books that address this subject in remotely as much emotional depth and intensity. * * * Does \"emotional depth and intensity\" here mean the same as bitterness about your past? For me these strong emotions are a sign that you still identify yourself strongly with your feelings of bitterness and your role as a victim. As long as you do that you will not be free. I have always understood that the way to Enlightenment goes through Compassion, Love and Forgiveness. How about trying something different, a true journey inwards with the aim of letting go of the past and giving up the role of a victim and the hatred and bitterness towards your parents? Would it be possible to find a way to accept and live with the past, to cherish all the good things that your parents have given you, and even the seemingly not-so-good things they gave you at least lead you to an interesting journey and career path so in my opinion that is something to be sincerely grateful, too. I am saying all this (maybe with a slightly provocative tone) because for years and years i was also on a constant inner battle against my parents. For my own well-being i am extremely happy to have let it go, to have been able to accept the past, to forgive them their lack of perfection and to move on. It´s still not always easy with my parents but a lot easier than before. Keeping my parents in my life, facing them with all their imperfections, provides still valuable lessons for my inner journey and forces me to handle my own traumas, a process that i am grateful for. I do not want to escape the problems but to face them, to learn and to develop. I want to keep my parents at a certain distance (i have chosen to live far away) but still have good terms with them WHILE they are still alive. There will be a day when it´s too late to talk to them. Perhaps that is the way Mother Nature has designed it, a natural break-up is inevitable anyways when our parents will die sooner or later. All the best for you, Daniel!! * * * Love and Light * * * Heli
Hi Daniel, your website and truth has had a profound impact on me. The other day my wife brought home the book \"The Body Never Lies\" by Alice Miller. I\'d never known of her before and upon looking her up online I came across your review of one of her books which is how I happened upon your website. Thank you for your courage to self heal and your transparency in your writings. This site has been hugely grounding and enlivening to my soul. The truth found here regarding the insidiousness of the parental dynamic makes sense to me on gut level and resonates in every way with my personal philosophy and life journey. The stance you take with regards to having children prior to fully healing is the exact reason I got a vasectomy prior to marrying my wife (though I wasn\'t fully aware at the time). Your the first voice of reason I\'ve heard that has made that decision of mine not seem so crazy afterall. Your also the first voice of reason that resonates with the truth of my soul that I\'ve always know to be true from the beginning but had been conditioned to deny because my very survival depended on it as a child. At 17 yrs of age I was involved in a form of chi gung, a kind of breathwork. I began to experience my true Self again but also began to prematurely awake to the traumas of my child within. It was overwhelming and I went through a nervous breakdown as a result. Because I was living at home with the perpetrators of the trauma, the twisted power plays and manipulation kicked into full gear. The pain of the trauma became a literal living hell to me that my parents took full advantage of to further their manipulative and sick agenda. They in essence made it very clear to me that my real Self was not welcome in the family and only the charade of denial and self hate would be adequate if I were to be welcome or accepted. It is so wild to me now to see the role I played in my family as the proverbial dumping ground. I was coerced into wearing a cloak of shame that perpetuated itself because it was the only way I knew to be. I\'m 37yrs old now and have gone through extensive psychotherapy and bodywork over the last 7yrs. I\'m on a healing journey but only because I\'ve learned it\'s ok to have permission to call bull shit on the cult of family; to grieve and process the pain of the deepest, most wounded parts of myself. Learning to feel acceptance and what real love actually is. The Spirit in me Is Unconditional Love! Your message, Daniel, has been a windfall for me because it deftly summarizes what my instincts and heart have been trying to tell me all along. I feel permission to feel more fully now in ways that just weren\'t being accessed before because of the limitations of therapy (and limitations of the therapist). Your message to \'go inside, take back what is yours, mourn and grieve over the evil that was done to you and alas deliverance will begin to unfold\' is the most damn refreshing thing my heart has taken hold of since my healing as an adult had started it\'s course. This tiny shift of pointing out the real root of all insecurity and realizing to what extent the motives of my parents were, has been a windfall for me. It\'s brought clarity of mind and continuity to my philosophy that had been, up until 6 days ago, still rather fractured and segmented, despite how far I thought I\'d come. My deepest appreciation and gratitude extends from my heart to you, brother.
I resonate deeply with your thoughts presented on your videos. I have found a great deal of value in reading Alice Miller also. I find it so refreshing that you can critique her humanness, which does not minimize her ideas at all. I have noticed similarities with other authors that I greatly value. My one question is: what do you think of regression therapy? I know Alice Miller seems to support it at one point and then maybe reversed her support. Do you have any thoughts that might be helpful as I explore it? Thanks so much, Brad.