I am only now beginning to watch your videos and delve into your work. I can tell right off the bat that this is what I have been seeking for a very long time. I have always thought I am a terrible person for being an only child and wanting distance between myself and my parents.....but I can see I am not a bad person. I will be writing more as I dig further into your work. It's not even a coincidence that I'm studying for my master's in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. Thank you for your candor and courage!!

Having suffered several traumas, received multiple diagnosis and taken meds that never help, all i can say is how refreshing it is to see a (former) therapist be so honest and touch upon rarely discussed topics like you do! I never had a therapist i really connected with and it made me wish that , somehow, you were still working in the field. I have had very expensive therapists and they were even worse than cheaper ones. Now i cant afford much, and the fact that you wouls accept people who couldnt pay much, touched me really deep. sending love from Brasil ?

Thank you Daniel for your youtube work and sharing your journey. Just bought Breaking From Your Parents as that is the most important issue that I am dealing with right now (early 30's). It is incredibly tough too because they are ill. Sometimes, I imagine that I should just wait a few more years and hopefully be at peace. I guess we will see if my plans change after viewing and watching your video on it. I wish the best for you and other commenters.

Thank you for everything that you do.

I love you, so much. 🙂

Thank you for sharing. I have a bit better perspective on my responsibility as a father for my children's childhood.

I get it.

Hello Daniel, I really appreciate your videos. Could you one day do one on psychology of one-uppers? Especially in family settings? Also, parent favouritism of specific children? Many thanks, Ewelina.

Hi Daniel, Would you be able to do a video on the following topic. My brother is very verbally abusive and cold to his wife. Our parents raised us basically like livestock. I told her that I believe he treats her so badly because she must prove her love for him. If he treated her well and she loved him, that would prove nothing, but if he abuses her and she still loves him and does not abandon him, she must truly love him. It's the only way he can truly be sure. He will not put on what he sees as an act like he had to get a few morsels of "love" from our parents. In essence he is saying to our parents (and maybe himself) that they must have been wrong to not love him or think he was good enough because even at his worst, his wife still loves him. At his best, his parents did not, so he's not going to try that tactic again. It's a win-win for him because even if she leaves him, he will be able to blame it on the abuse, not on him being unlovable, and he can keep on denying his childhood trauma and pain.

I appreciate your existence Daniel. You remind me so much of Peter K. Gerlach. In ways where your purpose lets me know that despite my emptiness, I still have myself.

Also, i would like to add to my previous comment, by Dianne, as u will see my previous comment below, Schizophrenia and diseases like cancer do not actually exist. They are a Construct, created by the medical system. Because when we take it back in time, disease like schizophrenia and cancer barely used to exist. They were created by big pharma and the medicalization of every day Life. People were healthier during the Renaissance . What does a Pet Cat do if it has Cancer? It goes and dies underneath a Tree. Theres no reason why humans cant be the same. Its all because Big Pharma wants to make money. Sociey has more than enough abaility to deal with peoples health problems without any medicalisation. The medical system had a ripple down effect on all the other industries in society, causing them all to become more corrupt, and cause climate change aswell. It was not the medical system that caused people to get taller and healthier at the end of the 20th Century... It was Evolution Itself. As the longer humans have been allowed to live and procreate on the Earth, the taller and healthier they tend to get, over time. Alas, we have seen huge numbers of small and poxy children being born in the last few years. Really weedy and small. With the prolification of the medical industry. We live in a world where someone without any pre existing mental health condition can enter the psychiatric system and get whipped on to loads of drugs, and MADE to have sever Schizophenia and get given all sorts of bad treatements. No it did not end or get better with the closures of the asylums. Iatrogenic Abuse is the Apple of a Doctors Eyes. It was when society started putting control of human peoples health in other humans peoples Hands, that society started to become less healthy overall, and weaker health patterns emerge.

Just passing by to say hi! Ana, from Brazil.

Hey Daniel. I have come across a video, The two things that deeply psychologically change a person, this afternoon on YouTube. It was suggested to me because of algorithms of course. My "therapy" has been done alone, never any professional help with the exception of a brief sitting with a counselor because of domestic violence. I have cried nonstop. You have given me the first resource that I truly understand or feel checks most of the boxes in my life. I feel like I am forever apologizing for how I am, for being wrong, for hurting others and myself, and disappointing, for leaving, for running, for overreacting, or not reacting at all. My "symptoms" are and have always been all across the board, one extreme to another. I have always done this and for most of that time, I had no clue why and I was just stupid, ignorant of facts. I did not know how what was done to me and what happened to me and my family, what LIFELONG sad consequences were in store for me. I will be 51 years old in two days, I too was born in 1972. I have only begun to learn all of this cause-and-effect stuff deeply damaged me. My story, what I am about to tell you, I never said to anyone until I was in my mid 40's except to my best friend. She and I have been friends since we were 10 years old and I told her only "I was molested by my Papaw" with no other details. That is the extent of my sharing and acknowledging anything that had happened to me. When I was 7 years old my Dad come in after my Mom caught him cheating, he was on something and drinking. She was packing to go to Granny's. He started a fight, got a gun, and waved it around carelessly. My Mom had my 5 years old little sister in her arms, asleep. He shot my sister in the head and killed her. My sister was dead, my Dad went to prison and my Mom, well she survived the best she could. She worked two jobs to raise me and she was not emotionally available anymore. We never spoke of this again. From this point on, at 7 years old my Dad's Dad, my Papaw started molesting me. He did this until he died, I was 15 years old. The next things I am gonna tell you all happened before I turned 18 years old. Following the 8 years of being molested, my first boyfriend I had was that same year at 15, just turning 16. He hit me for the first time just before I turned 16, breaking my nose. He did this many times. I did and said nothing. He terrorized me once I did break from him after he kidnapped me. He and his cousin strangled me, puncturing three holes through my neck causing me to hemorrhage. Thinking I was dead they were planning to throw me out and leave the state. He broke into another car before this final incident and had a gun and two bullets for himself and me. He rigged my car to blow up in the courthouse parking lot that malfunctioned and did not burn me and my Momma. He drug me through a department store, and forced me to buy the shotgun shells he said he was gonna blow my brains out with. There is more but you get the point. This went on until I was 17, and he went to prison finally. Then at 18, I went to a party with my bf and I was raped. I never said anything again. I have been abused by most of the men I have been with. Looking back now, I can see how I created a "fake" Angie, She was in survival mode and everything was ok. I never spoke up or wanted to stand out, Never knew who I really was, and still don't, I can honestly say, even when I was little and this is often asked at school, I couldn't see the answer. What do you want to be when you grow up? I have never been able to see my future, where, or what I want to be. When I broke, I broke. My family doctor who tried for years and knew my life and knew the women in my family all of their lives, predicted what would happen in my late 30's or 40's. He told me I will not be able to "handle it" being my traumas without help. He nailed it. I wish I had believed him and trusted him enough to get some help in my late teens. I have major trust issues and in both extremes, I have issues with trust. I give trust and love easily and without caution and I shut it down and stay closed off. After 18 I have had some life-altering things happen that have messed with me majorly. Being short about one of those, at 42 a kid pulled in front of me and changed my life in a devastating manner that not only broke me physically but played a huge part in the breaking in my mind and life. I was internally decapitated, my head severed from my body, C1 & Odontiod shattered at the base of my skull, and my back broken in two places. The independence I held on to fiercely was gone in the blink of an eye, 97% of the people with my injury, die. 2% survive and are paralyzed, 1% survive and walk again. I am in that 1% and I am walking. Being told by NC State medical people "I would never be a contributing factor to society again" after "surviving" all I have, I started a downward spiral. You mentioned having a closed circle that you allow to see the real you. I have only done this for myself in the past five years. I have all but 100% isolated myself at this point. No one deserves to or should want to put up with my bs. I get that and I stop it now. Im sorry for rambeling on. I just want to say thank you for making me feel somewhat understood and not so crazy. I feel having both of you factors that deeply change someone happen at the same time for me and at a critical developmental young age, I have many more layers I am not looking forward to revealing but maybe I can do it. Your talk about trauma and when being continuously violated and not feeling noticed or heard affects a child is something I will be learning more about. This feels like what "split" that 7-year-old little girl that I was into the many I had to become. This gives me hope. I have resided my heart and mind. I will never be ok, this is just who I am. I can't be fixed and I will be alone. Leaving little room for hope but maybe I see a glimpse of some tonight. Thank you, Angie B.

Thanks for all your work; I’ve found it very helpful. Regarding “The Downside of Being an Attractive Woman “, I’d like to add to your notion that many don’t know they’re attractive is the fear that you’ll be considered vain if you acknowledge your beauty and the problems that come with it, or even if you wonder if you’re attractive. Then there’s the problem of mechanics, carpenters and other men one needs to do business with who ghost you because their wives/girlfriends might get jealous. It doesn’t necessarily decrease that much with age. Sinead O’Connor said she shaved her head to keep less attractive girls from beating her up out of envy. I’m glad I can comment here as I don’t want to create a YouTube channel just to comment.