I’ve recently encountered your YouTube videos. I wish I could actually talk to you. I do not know if that is an option. I am a new therapist (almost 4 years) and have encountered so much toxicity in this field I don’t know how I can manage to stay in it. I am at an impasse and do not know what direction to go in. I’ve never had good supervision and unfortunately got a cookie cutter education. The one thing that is good is that I have been doing my inner work which makes me a more aware therapist at least. I am disheartened though and I’ve really just begun. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I resonated with your video on why you got out of the field.
I very much like your honesty and courage. No masks just you being YOU. People either like that or they are afraid of someone who is able to be unmasked and comfortable. That shows real strength of character.. Me? I like you a lot and would love to have a coffee with you one afternoon.
I've just watched your video on "Why I Quit Being a Therapist" I did also for very similar reasons. A lovely lady (a sectioned patient) in a secure locked hospital) said to me, on my first day at work; "Don't be afraid of us Honey but be afraid of them (the Doctors and Psychiatrists!) She was absolutely right !
I`d like to contact you and tried your "hire" section to ask you for details, but the form there doens´t work ( maybe some of my settings? but i just get an empty emailform with your adress missing...) so if you are still up for that please contact me via email. i´d be cery curious about your feed and if i can affort to have a conversation with you! 😀 either way, thank you so much for putting yourself out there,...i´ve already gotten a lot from your ideas.
I am writing in response to a youtube you did on why you discontinued working as a Therapist. I left the mental health world here in my City, point for point, about 10 years ago. I was trained , interned, received my post-grad ed from a wealthy county on the east coast and then moved to the city whre I live currently....sometimes I worked around the system to do real counseling/therapy with positive results while constantly battling insurance/case management. this must be a systemic problem throughout the U.S. and was simply trained in an exception-to-the-rule system where I was trained to take take a whole person approach to treatment and diagnosis. I left mental health to work in the allopathic medical system which morphed into an interest in natural medicine due to the same broken approach to physical health.
I love your blog profile...we are like thinkers...
blessings, peace, and all the best,
Love your videos... you have so much common sense.... your real...... honest.... thoughtful
I am blown away having inadvertently found the explanation for why you stopped being a therapist. I too am an LCSW but stopped practicing in 2013 when I turned 65. Ii am so with you in your observations straight across the board. I feel you spoke for me, Daniel - I am and was so aligned with you. I can't write it all out but it would be awesome if we could talk. I am a New Yorker but have lived in VA for a long time now. (My hubby rescued me from NY and all my triggers there and brought me here. My background is in graphic arts and I was a photographer for 25+ years before returning for a masters. I got my MSW in my early 50's and trauma was/is my area: wounded healer stuff.
I am just now finishing an essay (long in coming) on therapeutic writing in jail based on my experience with non-violent drug offenders -often with co-morbidities- over a period of years. I have no website; I'm an anonymous nobody but having finished a memoir not to long ago, I feel liberated from the s***storm of my life in the FOO. It's taken a lifetime (of living and therapy) to gain my distance- my chosen modalities are ISTDP, Trauma-focused CBT and Somatic Experiencing (I'm and SEP). I use them on my own body-mind and as a lens through which to find understanding of the people who cross my path on a day to day.
It would be nice to hear from you but I suspect you are very busy doing the good work you do and I truly commend you for what you've done so far. i will listen to your music, etc and follow your blog.
With best regards,
YouTube algorithms have a odd way of introducing you to some really great channels. Bonus seeing you interviewed by Stephan Molyneux from 2010!
Hi. I discovered you on youtube from childhood trauma. I did watch your films and i am happy that your films are making a difference in the world as far as people knowing their are different alternatives to taking anti anxiety and anti depressants. I have seen first hand people who have no resolved childhood tramuas how it affects their confidence how they arent in healthy relationships. I did agree with you some therapists not able to help their patients because they are too deattached to help their patients or are simply not have the empathy to help them. I look forward to more of your videos on youtube.com
Dear Daniel, I just watched your video about Healing Homes in Sweden. I truly love those videos because I believe that genuine care for one another is the only believable answer to present day problems. But it is Europe. Europeans have a different emphasis and put finances into projects other than in the USA. .
Have you ever watched the comparison about German and American prisons on 60 Minutes CBS. I was speechless.
I have to say that coming to the USA has shocked me finding the inner situation of this country in such unbelievable desperation.
Though I have written a book, I have no income yet and money is needed to start something.
What are your thoughts on practicable ideas?
Withdrawing from the system brings up the question what one is looking for instead.
Many spiritual groups were on my way when I was on such point 30 years ago. All these groups had something good. But my \"dilemma\" was, that I couldn\'t belong to all at the same time and neither to one exclusively. I was looking for what brought them all together.
One day when the pain got to me I asked God to give me a sign. I did. Right in that moment my phone rang with a woman being on the other end of the line who held the answer. She introduced me to revolutionary knowledge.
We all feel in one way or another that the world as we have come to know it is declining. While we are separating and dividing more and more - either within our selves, in marriages, between generations, nations etc. and feel the pain that is coming with this - we, at the same time, are filled with the longing to come together in a new way.
For this unity to come about we will need a new road map. We need new knowledge, or, to say it with Einstein\'s words: We can\'t fix a problem with the same mindset that created them (problems).
After my withdrawal from society 30 years ago I searched intensely. Many spiritual groups were on my way which I liked all. Whether Buddhism, Hinduism, Mystical groups, etc.... each of them had something good to offer. My dilemma was I couldn\'t belong to all at the same time and neither to one exclusively. I was looking for something that brought them all together.
I asked God to give me a sign. which I could read as a sign. I was really on the edge at that time. And right in that moment my phone rang with a woman being on the other end of the line introducing me to The Head Wing Philosophy and the Divine Principle.
This knowledge is of revolutionary nature given to mankind in this particular period in history for us to master the challenges upon us.
Humanity as a whole is ask to outgrow its comfort zones. With more and more war zones emerging, with nations declining and people feel increasingly pushed to the edge, it is our challenge now as the only alternative to what doesn\'t satisfy us any longer, to go beyond anything we have know so far and create a world which has never been before. It will come about through us changing as individuals, as families, generations, societies and nations.
Will it be easy to take on such work? No it won\'t. It is pioneer work. To be precise, it is very difficult. It feels as having to climb a mountain we didn\'t know existed as the only choice to get out of our misery.
In case you are intersted, there are organisations which in a step by step way build on this knowledge for a better world to emerge:
WFWPU Women\'s Federation for World Peace and Unification
UPF Universal Peace Federation/Interfaith Dialogue
FFWPU Family Federation for World Peace and Unification.
Have you ever listened to Teal\'s videos? I thought you might like them.
Much love to you.
Your a breath of fresh air to a women who has been in the Mental Health System beast for 25 yrs. Currently social worker at the VA. Nice to hear someone who can think for himself. I want to leave the va because I just can work in such a confused, bob down system.
Lieber Daniel vielen Dank für die guten Videos es ist sehr wichtig dass ich sehr viel zum Guten ändert
I show your film, Healing Homes, in a mental health class that I teach. When I showed it, the students asked for \"evidence\" that it works, and what happens long term to the people who receive this services. I also show the video on Open Dialogue in another class and a lot of research is cited in that video, and I include articles on that approach in their reading list. Can you point me to any \"evidence-base\" for the Healing Homes approach? What\'s the research?
Thank you for giving me some insights into Open Dialogue. What a refreshing change from my experiences with the psychiatric system in Canada! I thought you might like to learn about my focused listening music therapy for healing mental illness, including schizophrenia. It comes with a novel neurological paradigm that explains how the therapy produces left-brain dominance in the integrative processes of the cerebral hemispheres. Over at Mad in America a number of people are reading a brief summary of a therapy that could be drug-free in an Open Dialogue context. If you would like to copied in on \"Awakening Normal\" just email me and I would be delighted to do that. It provides an introduction to my ground-breaking discoveries while healing our son Daniel of schizophrenia. I hope it will make a \"hand in glove\" fit with Open Dialogue supporters.
Thank you for what you are doing!
I just saw your video \" If I Had Kids How Would I Want to Raise Them? -- 36 Ideas from a Former Therapist\" Sounds wonderful.
Have you ever heard about Waldorf education. My son was in a Waldorf School. I think it would meet your ideas and expectaions. They are all over the world.
Here is a video about a school in Nairobi. One of so many.
Love your honesty!
Lots of love to you.
These days I\'m spending time watching your videos and I find a huge wisdom in them... I can apreciate the effort of self-knowledge that you did and are still doing and how, from your proces, you explain it to us in a tremendous useful and direct way.
I can only be greatful for such a generous website, youtube channel, etc....
My greetings from Spain
Hi Daniel. I\'ve bee a fan of yours for a few years now. I stumbled upon your YouTube videos a few years ago and spent a very fair amount of time listening and absorbing. I can honestly say that you have made me think and have challenged me to ask myself some hard questions. For that I thank you and can report that you have provided me with a great deal of support and validation. Thank You!!!
For the most part, I agree with much of what you say, almost all of it. Even much of the stuff I don\'t fully agree with, like the stuff about having kids, I probably agree with somewhat but to a much lesser degree than you. I am a married man with four kids, I am also an Orthodox Jew and my Judaism, which reflects the Torah, which is understood by Orthodox Jews to represent the revealed will of G-d in this world, explicitly demands that one do all that one can to have and raise children.
I think you make some very valid points about people having and raising children, but I am unable to reconcile your point of view with that of the Almighty\'s, whom I, for one, believe created the world and all that is in it and continues to recreate it and influence everything that happens in the world day to day, moment to moment.
Who am I, and for that matter, and please forgive me for being presumptuous, who are you to contradict G-d who is perfect in all ways? If he prescribes the pursuit of having and raising children to be an absolute good, how can I (and for that matter, how can you) with our very limited, finite, and small minds (in relationship to The Almighty\'s \"mind,\" if you can actually say such a thing) think that we know better? I just can\'t get on that bandwagon, even though you make some very salient and valid observations!
Although I could absolutely discuss this subject in greater detail, such as how to then incorporate the mandate to have children and remain a therapist, this is not the point of my correspondence here today with you.
My intent here today is to connect with you, introduce myself, perhaps even begin a dialogue with you. Mostly, I wanted to communicate my support to you and admiration for who you seem to be. And really, to just say thank you!!
I am about your age, I received my LCSW in 2012, but I have been an MSW since 2007. I agree with so much of what you say about being a therapist and just wanted you to know that I am listening closely and appreciate your perspective. I share, as I said, just about all of it.
As an Orthodox Jew, I suspect that politically, and socially, we likely diverge on many of our perspectives. I tend to favor a more conservative approach. Which is fine, I can tolerate and consider another\'s perspective. But it is interesting how much of your perspective on trauma, parenting, mental health, and relationships I feel that I agree with you on.
So please keep at it! Your efforts are much appreciated.
Oh yeah, thought I\'d mention this to you. I find it threatening to refer my clients to your videos although I often have the impulse to do so. I guess I fear that my clients will then have more of an edge on me and will more easily be able to see through me and through the veneer that I apply to my relationship with them (which is only the result of my own insecurities and years of trauma). But I think I am going to start to do it. I am going to start to send them in your direction and que sera sera. It will be good for me.
All the best!!
PS-My website really stinks! I know it. I\'ve put about zero effort into it. With all of my work and responsibilities I just haven\'t put in the effort it requires to be any good. So if you check it out, please don\'t judge me by it. Thanks again!
I\'m a Brazilian guy from Florianópolis and it\'s said that I have schizophrenia or schizoaffectivity.
When I had my first and unique episode, the psychiatric hospital didn\'t show me any options of treatment with no medicines. They forced me to take medicines. If a treatment without medicines is possible (even if it\'s hardwork), they should make it available.
After watching your documentary, I felt I was disrespected and violated.
I hope the best for you and keep your work.
Luiz Paulo Brüggemann.
Oh yes Daniel you get the criticism from those who are like your parents and from those who wish to break free but can\'t. You make yourself very vulnerable. I would like you to know I was a teacher and the children gave me their trust. That was what mattered most to me. But now I am a mother and I find myself feeling guilty towards my child. It is hard for me as a parent to find out that all what I have learned in my life was not enough. I still make mistakes and my child shows me. I am truly sad about myself then and disappointed. I believe this is what every generation has to go through. Less or more. Much love to you Daniel,
Hi Daniel, I\'m so grateful I\'ve found your Youtube videos and films. Your theories about self-healing and self-development is unlike anything I\'ve ever heard of. The truth in your videos about the corruption of the mental health industry and psychiatry is so rare. I watched your recent videos on \"Healthy vs. Unhealthy Love\" and \"Is My Therapist Good or Not?\" and they\'ve given me a lot of insight on projecting \"neediness\" onto someone else and how that can be mistaken as love. I\'ve been struggling with unhealthily needing my therapist and being far too reliant on her that it is getting out of hand. I\'ve been so entirely emotionally strained from this issue so I want to talk to someone that understands and I don\'t know anyone else in the world who even partially understands my attachment to my therapist other than you(perhaps). I\'ve spoken to my sister and some other counselors and they understand it on a surface level, but they don\'t understand how emotionally straining it is. I tried to say to my therapist that it is just painful without her and she has failed me in recognizing my pain. I honestly don\'t know anymore if my therapist is good or not. There were past moments where I simply saw her as a god and idealized her, but now I understand that that was just me seeing things in the lense of my neediness. She is far better than most mental health people I\'ve met, but recently we\'ve had a setback in therapy and I can\'t seem to tell her things. I would be so happy to hear what you have to say about this. On another note, what projects are you working on lately? I was glad to see your recent videos and I watched them so many times already. I aspire to get involved in mental health research and becoming a doctor, and you’ve been a great inspiration to me. Best wishes,
To your Dec. 27th 2017 video...
You are doing the right thing in a world that it totally off. You are fighting the right battle. But fighting it alone that is what creates the anxiety. I am with you Daniel. It is important to create a support system.
Much love to you Daniel.
Hi, I\'m Australian and was wondering if there are any organizations here which support coming off antipsychotic meds? Thanks, Claire
I found your website and think you are essentially living your life in a good way. The type of things you do--making music about the most important issues, writing frankly and clearly about what concerns you, taking action once you\'ve identified an inner problem (not being afraid)--are some of the deepest desires I hold. Currently I am a college student growing more disillusioned by the day. I yearn to be free. To challenge myself. To throw my kite to the wind and finally embark into the ocean. My parents were not abusive and my childhood was very happy... But I still mirror them. It was not difficult emotionally to become who I am today. I have been blessed with advantages and I desperately want to break from my fear, the traps that will keep me in inadequacy like my parents. My life is following their exact pattern and I face a crucial moment where I break free and become myself or fail and become a copy. There is a deep well of curiosity and acceptance within me. I want to learn about everything. I want to learn from everything. I want to experience music and art and movies and make them as well. I want to meet people: good people, terrible people, weak people, strong people, those who are all that and more in one.
I am studying for finals at top-ranking college in the US. My major is worthless. I have such a fortunate position and yet I think what I am doing is almost worthless...
Here is something I wrote today~
All I want is a good job.
All that I should want is a good job.
All that matters is having a good job.
Everything may be sacrificed to achieve the ultimate goal, which is of course having a good job.
Lying, cheating, stealing, deceiving, hurting others, foregoing happiness, and moral failure are acceptable means to the end of a good job.
We should lie, cheat, steal, deceive, hurt others, forego happiness, and fail morally in the uncertain pursuit of a good job.
Hope should be chiefly in the aim of a goo djob.
THE moral system is a good job.
I have read about 2 essays, 2 blog posts, and watched 1 video of yours about hitchhiking. Yet I already understand you well enough to know that you will react to that piece the way I want people to react. Read, let it hit you, accept what it is. Accept.
Thank you. I hope I break my fear.
I\'m on a painful, yet gratifying journey of discovery into what I suspect may be some significant, yet well covered childhood trauma... and it behooves me to do this work before I join others on their journey (I\'m pursuing a license to practice psychotherapy). Anyway, the work Daniel had done here contributes to this project, and I\'m grateful to him for sharing his wisdom and his voice.
Quick shoutout - Thanks for this brilliant and helpful website.
Off the bat, I don\'t agree with everything you say, but I certainly respect the pairing of bravery with tenderness that comes through in your writing.
\"A soft heart in a cruel world is strength, not weakness.\"
Hope all\'s going well for you off the grid.
I have watched your youtube videos. I love your insight. You are very good at being who the universe has called you to be....
Hi Daniel, just want to say thanks so much for your YouTube clips and writings. In November this year I celebrate 1 year of going no contact with my entire family system (except one aunt) with no hope of reconciliation. When I hooked my car up in my garage to gas myself and drunk a bottle of vodka in November last year, something really switched in me and I then fought back... I\'ve come in leaps and bounds from Complex PTSD. It thanks to several people such as yourself who go public with their ideas and give validation of others experience and existence that has helped me get through. I tried the nonduality approach for years constantly working on myself, changing myself to fit in the system. It didn\'t work. I have lots of loving non family relationships in my life and I\'m following my truth and passions in my work and personal life. Thank you!
In few days I have seen threw lot of the videoes you published in 2009 and also some of your documentaries. You really bring forward some good and important perspecitves. And you do it in an excellent way.
Hi I\'m from Singapore and I really love your message. Its truly remarkable and inspiring.