Sally 10/25/2011 8:12:41 AM Just came across your website. Exploring it still but so agree with you about unrecognised child abuse. Children are such precious, malleable beings and they are often treated as second class citizens by their own parents. It is so conditioned and accepted - I even have to catch myself when I do it to my 5 year old and I am aware of it! Martin 10/18/2011 11:08:49 PM Daniel, I think you are deserving of great praise and admiration for your efforts. I too have come to many of the same conclusions you express in your writings, through many years of experience. I look forward to the day when I can be as open in expressing them as you are today. My father was diagnosed schizophrenic before I was ever conceived. In my life I have witnessed my older sister subjected to relentless emotional abuse by him with our mother facilitating this abuse by minimizing and covering up for him. My sister, as the years of abusiveness took their toll, suffered from anxiety. depression, OCD, and ultimately full blown schizo-affective disorder. She has suffered under psychiatric \"care\" with medication for over 25 years. I find myself quite alone in the extended family, as the only person who recognizes the profound importance, to us as a family, and the future of humanity, in coming to grips and fully airing the consequences of what has transpired and committing to ending its propagation. The \"old guard\" in the extended family will have none of it, past attempts to put a focus on it have been met with hostility and being walked out on. But the old guard won\'t last forever. I have survived the onslaught, emotionally battered, but spiritually intact thanks in large part to the 12-Step Program of Codependents Anonymous (www.coda.org). I fear retribution from the family and the long term consequences to myself, my sister, and to my potential to play a significant part in the great healing project humanity so desperately needs, should I imprudently speak out too publicly, too soon. Thanks for what you do, and keep the faith. Anne-Marie 10/17/2011 5:34:33 PM Hi! I just read your critique of Alice Miller and I totally agree! I am reading \"Thou Shalt Not Be Aware \" (well I believe this is the one but it\'s in french so I\'m not sure it\'s the same one). I read \"Prisonners of childhood\" and \"For your own good\" already. My therapist made me read her and I love it, even if this is so scary. When I read and realize how we repeat our patterns on our children, I realized like you said that it would be wrong to have children before being healed. I totally agree with what you said, that we should heal before having children, or we WILL repeat the abuses on our child. I don\'t have children, but I have cats and I realize that I repeat some patterns on them. I also repeat a lot of patterns on my boyfriend, and I can\'t have children before being healed because I know that my relationship with him won\'t survive. I have anxiety disorders when I am in couple only, and when I\'m not in couple I look to find a boyfriend to repeat the patterns all the time. I can\'t have children in these circomstances! Now it\'s so obvious to me! I believe everyone in the world needs to go see a therapist (with Alice\'s philosphy and yours) and heal themselves, right now! We should consult therapists like we go to the doctor for physical problems. About self-therapy, I haven\'t read your book and I just watched your first part video of self-therapy, but what I\'m wondering is: Isn\'t it dangerous to do a self-therapy without any outside help? I am doing a therapy witha therapist and we\'re working with PNL techniques and talking about Alice\'s theories, but sometimes it is so terrifying... like, I can have panic attacks sometimes, and I need someone to tell me I\'m not crazy and that I can trust, someone that can give me that compassion I never had in my childhood to go through my healing. I don\'t think I can do this alone. You believe we can do this alone? I\'ll continue reading and watching your stuff, thank you for sharing all of this. 🙂 Paul Boulton-Bland 10/15/2011 2:16:06 PM Thanks for making this site,I am currently writing about the buse I suffered as a child and the effect it has on my life now.Best wishes Paul Jailen 10/13/2011 12:21:21 PM #Which female professionals do you know out there to help work with women on their trauma issues? #My fear is recommending Somatics and CBT too early in the process or a professional, who in her own struggles with countertransference would unconsciously promote decompensation. #We are definitely going to stay away from hypnosis (like you mentioned), and over-fetishsizing the unconscious world, prior to stabilization of factual surroundings. #Laymen\'s terms for everyone here-I don\'t want to recommend someone who has too many unresolved problems to work with a traumatized woman just because she needs trust and stability to begin soon. Which women in the field have books you could recommend? #I realize that you are a man, and that perhaps your trauma was RA from a female \"role model\", esp. in light of this, she wants to know who you see would be a rational choice and why? #As an anecdote, I can think personally how men have been failed and in this world. P.S. The \"How to Love\" by Lil Wayne is how her life was/is going, and she needs a change. Thanks, J Marian 10/10/2011 2:16:51 PM Daniel, I, too, am working to heal childhood trauma and wish us both success in that effort. Do you know the Tao de Ching? (I like Stephen Mitchell\'s translation/interpretation.) I\'m guessing you will not take to it at first, but might over time. FWIW, I have experienced a Kundalini awakening, offering Grace for days at a time, which affirms for me every word in the Tao. Blessings on your journey... Garlena 10/10/2011 1:07:50 AM Hi Daniel, It is very obvious that there is a higher power working in your life and you are listening. I am on a journey based in faith, moving into new and exciting things. Working on my PhD as a Counselor Educator & Supervisor, focusing on what I can do to make a difference. I always look for the good in others and know whatever path I walk down God will bring people into my life to assist, encourage, motivate and love. Keep up the good work. Pat 10/7/2011 1:17:49 AM \"My goal, after all, is not just to heal myselfâ??but to change the whole world.\" I have no doubt you\'ll have a major influence. It\'s wonderful that you have the opportunity to explore the possibilities (esp. with all this varied experience behind you) - and your own potential further at a relatively young age. Wish I had started earlier (I\'m 70) but let\'s not waste a minute on regrets - or others\' not \'getting it\'.... Thanks for all you\'ve done so far! 🙂 J. T. Turner 10/6/2011 4:37:04 AM I was intrigued by your film \"Take These Broken Wings\" and produced a film myself called \"Crazy Art\" about three schizophrenics in California who use their art to help them cope with their symptoms, perhaps even take some steps on the road of recovery. If you want to find out more, check out www.crazyartonline.com Lorre Mendelson in Nashville,TN 9/17/2011 8:41:13 PM LOVED your song on the Wellness works site- very creative, best, Lorre Mendelson Katy Tomlinson 9/17/2011 2:34:55 PM Are you anti-abortion? I just read in your critique of Alice Miller that you say abortion is murder. I have had an abortion. You are in essence calling me a murderer. Are you a vegetarian? If not you are just as much a murderer as I am. meg chadwick 9/15/2011 4:00:29 AM I found your \'dissociation mimics enlightenment\' section very helpful, thankyou 🙂 You may be interested in the following site http://www.clarity-of-being.org/index.htm Goddard also produces music and has lots to say about psychiatry.... Regards, Meg Maximus Peperkamp 9/4/2011 3:03:05 AM Dear Daniel, thank you sharing your insight about Alice Miller. I would love to talk with you and share with you something I have found out. My skypename is limbicease I am a 4rd year Ph.D. psychology student and I think we have a lot in common. I look forward to hear from you. Katty 8/20/2011 3:25:55 AM This is way more helpful than atnyhnig else I\'ve looked at. Martin Camden 8/19/2011 9:53:40 PM All of your words could have come straight out of my mouth. I have recovered from \"bi-polar disorder\" through self-therapy and through teaching myself life skills. I think that we could both take each other to the next level. We really must have a conversation. +44 (0)20 3551 8688 Skype=optimaxim. Andrea 8/18/2011 12:19:02 AM What you have to say is true about childhood trauma. But, you do seem to have extremely high standards for parents such as a child strapped in a stroller is abuse. Do you have children of your own? How do you raise these children in your perfect world and still get all the chores done without a fuss? Sandra 8/16/2011 8:15:03 AM I basically completely agree that people should work on themselves a Lot before having children. i have two children and I have worked on myself Some, still in process, and I am doing it for them, because I want them to at some point be free. It is my hope, though the problem is even if one person clears out traumas, there are many people in a child\'s life. Only so much can be done at a time, at least for me. Though healing children and people and then raising healthy children is probably the absolutely BEST thing! I love it, I hope someday it is the new Norm! I am hopeful. One thing I wanted to suggest though, is that on the therapy level alone it is probably impossible to clear out all trauma, it is not a powerful enough method. i know this is a not accepted yet, but energy healing works, and can get to the trauma on its most subtle level. Even so it takes time and effort. But I think even with the most strict personal examination it is impossible to clear All the Trauma and not carry some to children!!!!!! As I said i am not clear yet, but I am still working on it. I recognize that, and I know I probably should have done better, I am sorry to my children for that. Michael Goldfield 8/14/2011 3:18:24 AM Daniel, you have a superb site. I would love to see you add a link to www.nospank.net Thanks! You degenerate. 8/10/2011 4:29:44 PM Omg, you are so fucking retarded. I just read the article about Van Winkle. If you think science is not big of a proof about findings for personal trauma and inner sight is and thinking or whatever than you should make Winkle your guru because no one have lived more traumatizing thing than her. Omg, go suicide yourself and stop reading only pathetic american authors. Omg,omg. DionysusVictorious 8/10/2011 2:35:43 PM Life is a tragedy itself, those who seek to make it normal are fighting the roots of life itself and that\'s the only reason they are..sick...decadents. Affirm life as horrible as it is in it\'s deepest roots and relieve yourself from the pathetic lies of modern normality. Thus Spoke Zarathustra. Michael Goldfield 8/10/2011 4:18:54 AM Loved your \"Brief Nutshell of your POV\" Katrina Masterson 8/10/2011 1:33:24 AM Hi Daniel, One of our Facebook members from Project NoSpank shared your link on our wall - he posted your short essay and you got a lot of \"likes.\" Your journey is commendable. You broke the intergenerational cycle of abuse and now you offer a path of healing for others. And your introspection is giving others permission to do the same. And, I like that you\'re marching to the tune of your own drummer. We grow and change over a lifetime so it makes perfect sense that your career path no longer fits you now. I\'m sorry for your painful, early path. But I\'m grateful for the insights you\'ve learned, and which you\'re sharing with others. I\'m writing my own survivor memoir and learning that contact with my family is becoming more and more difficult. It\'s ok. Your advice makes perfect sense and it\'s synchronistic I should find your website tonight. Thank you for your insight and guidance, here. I wish you the very best! Sincerely, Katrina Masterson Sandra Stanley 8/9/2011 9:40:59 PM I am an ally....:)) thx! san and \'lil san Stephen G. Boren 8/9/2011 5:37:09 PM Thanks for standing up and speaking out for many who can\'t speak for themselves. I find you ideas very interesting and agree with most all of them. I can\'t stand what Big Pharma is doing to, not only the American people, but what they\'re attempting to do all across the world. Such greed as theirs has never been witnessed before!