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Rach Rach from Toronto wrote on March 7, 2024 at 11:42 pm
Daniel, I recently found your videos on YouTube and am so glad I did. The way you speak is the most authentic I have heard and I resonate with many of your experiences. While my parents always appeared great to everyone on the outside, I was struggling and I was so confused as to why. However, I felt deeply unvalued and as a result have an extremely hard time opening up to others, social anxiety and anxious attachment. I was often told I was a terrible and ungrateful child, as I always had food and shelter and a great life. It was not until my 20s I realized my family was maybe slightly abnormal and many parents and children actually hug and say they love each other. On some level I assumed most others were as disconnected from their parents as I was. I love what you say about having a spirit to rebel, as I feel that was me. I was always angry at my mother especially, and I believe it was unconscious - I was angry she didn't tell me she loved me or accept me. But of course, I wasn't able to connect the dots at such a young age. Just want to say thank you so much for your videos, they are seriously the best and I'm having a great time going through them. I'm so glad you still post new videos as well! Much love
Josiah Josiah from Roseau wrote on March 1, 2024 at 5:47 am
Hi Daniel, thank you for sharing all the wonderful videos. I've really gotten help from each and everyone I've watched so far. I'm all the way in the Caribbean, I mean that's not too far from the States but I'm just so happy some how your page landed on my YouTube recommendations. Your work will definitely pay off in many ways. So much has gone on in my life leaving me confused and making me feel worthless, and I've struggled to find who I really am, life has taught so many lessons the hard way. I can definitely relate to the feeling of putting down yourself to be what others want, however your guidance will definitely help light my way. Thanks again Daniel and keep up the good work.
Presiyan Presiyan from Sofia, Bulgaria wrote on February 21, 2024 at 1:04 pm
Hello, I hope this message finds you well. I'm currently going through the first fighting steps in a dark chapter of my life. The youtube algorithm suggested one of your videos to me today and it's been almost addicting to listen to them. I find it funny how life throws things at us when we're ready for them, because if I found out about you a couple weeks earlier, not gonna lie, probably would've missed you. Thank you. Thank you for saying all those things that I've been craving to hear from my parents, family and partners. Thank you for doing it, not in a way that blinds me to my faults, but helps me look at them with an intent to fix. With hope. I hope you reach what makes you happy in music, movies, travelling and so on. Sincerely, Pres
Diane Diane from France wrote on February 18, 2024 at 8:06 am
Hello Daniel and All, Daniel, in one of your videos you defined drinking alcohol as dissociation, and it lead to a breakthrough here. My drinking was an utter mystery to me: in the morning I'd swear off, but by evening, I was off to the corner store again. Mystery. If I reframe this mystery, and see it as my psyche's instinct to protect my abused self, I get it. It is a pause in my thinking, a time out, an ace up my sleeve, an advantage over others (for a short while). I had the 'switch' to my feelings. Alcohol gave me the super-power to access the appearance of happiness. But the intoxication of spontaneity soon would morph into drunk behavior and future embarrassment - Another mystery? My psyche does not think very far ahead or have a good memory.
Anniek Anniek from Netherlands wrote on February 10, 2024 at 6:54 pm
Dear Daniel, Three and a half years ago I became indescribably ill due to a too rapid withdrawal of two psychopharmaceuticals I had been taking for ten years. There has been no recovery in recent years. This Friday (16th) I will die by euthanasia, due to persistent unbearable suffering. My loved ones have not doubted for a moment that I was harmed by medication, because despite absurd neurological symptoms, I have remained just the same person; there were no psychological issues. But from doctors and psychiatrists, I received hardly any recognition. As a result, I was denied care early in my illness that might have turned the tide. It hurts me and my loved ones very much that I broke down from something that should have helped me. I wanted to let you know that your song "The psych med song" gave me comfort, made me feel that I am not the one who is crazy. Thank you for that! With heartfelt greetings, Anniek (40)
Satoru Satoru from Saitama, Japan wrote on February 3, 2024 at 9:58 pm
Hi guys, I'm Satoru from Japan. I have difficulty of conducting Daniel's self therapy partly because my traumas are a bit different than Daniel's. My traumas are mostly neglects due to my Mom's mental issue (Borderline Intellectual Functioning), according to my fmr psychotherapist. She lacks ability of adequately raising children but she is super kind, caring and honest individual in her own way. I did remember some traumas and did recovered to some extent over the last few years, but I'm still unemployed and on medication, feeling stuck! Isn't it difficult to remember this kinda unintentional neglects? Thanks.
Aris Aris wrote on February 3, 2024 at 1:02 pm
Hello again! Apologies for multiple entries! I was wondering if you could touch on Maslow’s pyramid of needs. I personally have met very few who have self actualised. Many thanks!!
Aris Aris wrote on February 3, 2024 at 12:52 pm
Hello Daniel! I recently watched your video “Parents fighting Traumatizes Children”. It very much struck home. Having grown up in a parental war zone where there was near constant bitterness and dismay over one another, it’s no surprise I ended up with a sub optimal attachment style. It’s relatively easy to understand this on an intellectual level, quit another story to surpass it on an emotional level. I understand that they were both very young, but still, it’s not rocket science knowing this behaviour harms your children. I mean they could literally see how physically distraught their children were. In any event, just wanted to thank you once again for the videos.
Zoe Zoe from Bristol ,UK wrote on February 1, 2024 at 12:24 pm
I left an entry not that long before this ,but I have to write another one now.Daniel ,I am so glad you are in the world ,I get so much comfort from your videos. Sometimes when I'm feeling triggered or traumatized I will do a pot luck and choose one of your videos and put it on to play ,it's comforting to hear you voice. Not only that though .....I will watch one of your videos through again sometimes and get so much more meaning from it and realise that 'you have hit the nail on the head' about something ,when I didn't realise it before.I think ,if we are lucky ,there are people out there in the big wide world who will give you the gift of mirroring you back to yourself .I have had a very intense experience recently where I started a new job and so many things happened there it was profound and magical.I got so much mirroring back of myself (especially from one person in particular) a lot of it was very ,very painful ,but I believe from the pain you can grow. I had so many harsh things happen and such a lot of intense mirroring ,it was a steep learning curve.I also had a very painful 'cutting off' and rejection by somebody. I have been learning so much about myself though. I have just watched your video 'An analysis of jealousy' .I thought until recently I didn't suffer from jealousy at all ,I think I was thinking more along the lines of 'when you are jealous because a boy you likes talks to a girl' ,like school playground stuff,I have always though 'hhmmffhh ...well I'm not a jealous person'.My recent painful experiences have caused me to dig inside myself and I realise (as you explain in the video) ,that jealousy is much more complex than that ,as you say ,there is a sense of entitlement because one believes the world owes back to the parts of ourselves that were never loved ,we are in denial that ,yes,unfortunately, we now need to attend to this ourselves and take responsibility for these parts of ourselves because 'tough luck' the world doesn't owe it to us ,I never realised before that I was acting this out on the outside world ,and that it was a kind of deep jealousy of others! So much clarity and healing ! You help me to process a lot of things and I find so much wisdom buried within your videos.Also ,as you say in the same video ,the uncovering of our true selves is so precious and valuable ,and once we do that ,and start living as our authentic selves there is no longer any need for jealousy
Agnus Agnus wrote on January 24, 2024 at 10:26 am
Hello Daniel, First I wanted to Thank you for your beautiful existence, work, engagement, art and brilliant mind. Second, do you know the works of dr James Davies like “Cracked: Why psychiatry is doing more harm than good?” And third I would like to ask you if you agree with what I have written below: The naming issue - importance of language Psychology vs. psychiatry. List of medical specialties by nomenclature: endings: gr. -logía, eng. -logy “study of”: Audiology and Phoniatrics - fields of Otolaryngology Allergology Anesthesiology Cardiology Neurophysiology Dermatology Venereology Endocrinology Gastroenterology Gynecology Microbiology Neonatology Oncology Nephrology Neurology Ophthalomology Traumatology Pharmacology Pneumology Radiology Rheumatology Urology Proctology Immunology Podology and Podiatry Endings: gr. -iatreia eng. -iatry "treatment" Geriatrics - from Greek gēras ‘old age’ + iatros ‘doctor’, on the pattern of paediatric . There is a distinction between geriatrics and gerontology. Gerontology is the multidisciplinary study of the aging process, defined as the decline in organ function over time in the absence of injury, illness, environmental risks or behavioral risk factors. However, geriatrics is sometimes called medical gerontology. Pediatrics - Greek words: παῖς (pais "child") and ἰατρός (iatros "doctor, healer"). Obstetrics - From a Medical Latin obstetricus (“belonging to a midwife”), from Latin obstētrīx (“midwife”). Field combined with Gynecology Phoniatrics - Phoniatrics and audiology is one specialty within otolaryngology. Psychiatry Podiatry and podology - here is the same problem as with psychology and psychiatry Other endings and file names, e.g.: Surgery Emergency medicine Internal diseases, internal medicine Infectious diseases Orthopedics QUESTIONS: 1. Why has the name 'psychology' not been adopted by medicine as the name of the field? Why was another name invented for the field that deals with topics of the psyche? 2. Why don't we have ‘otolaryngiatry’, ‘endocrinoiatry’, ‘oncoiatrics’, ‘uroiatrics’ and so on? If we create the name ‘socioiatry’, will we create a branch of medicine dealing with the treatment of society? If we add “iatry” to geology, will we create the profession of an earth doctor? 3. What would happen if all psychology were transferred to the medical field? Is full medicalization of the psychic world the right move? I don’t think so, so... 4. For the logic of naming maybe we just transform psychiatry into a clinical psychology? Quote from Wikipedia: clinical psychology - a branch of applied psychology dealing with the prevention, diagnosis and therapy of mental and behavioral disorders, i.e. disturbances in the regulation of human relations with their environment. What about disturbances in the regulation of relations between the environment and the individual? Does this already belong to sociology, or maybe ‘sociatry’? 6. Why can't a psychologist or a psychotherapist write a sick leave from work? Why can't they have the ability to write a sick leave and I have to rely on the insight, judgment and will of a group of people I don't trust? The conclusions of Allen Frances - “the lead editor of the fourth edition of nt the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (universally known as the DSM-IV), the guy who wrote the book on mental illness, confessing that ‘these concepts are virtually impossible to define precisely with bright lines at the boundaries.’ ‘There is no definition of a mental disorder. It's bullshit. I mean, you just can't define it.’ Frances argued (in Gary Greenburg's 2013 book about the DSM-5, The Book of Woe) that these labels are still crucial to treatment, and he warned, ‘If you puncture that noble lie, you'll be doing a disservice to our patients . . . . A lot of false beliefs help people cope with life.’ Have Allen Frances just said that you can treat delusions with delusions? … https://www.wired.com/2010/12/ff-dsmv/ https://www.madinamerica.com/2023/01/acknowledge-psychiatry-religion/ In summary my main ideas are: 1. Transforming psychiatry into clinical psychology 2. Meeting of whole world's Psychological Associations with Psychiatric Associations and Patients Associations to conduct joint conversations about Mental World and Mental Health.
Zoe Zoe from Bristol,UK wrote on January 24, 2024 at 9:09 am
'Our Options for Old Age: Wisdom or Decrepitude' - just watched it on your youtube ,absolutely love that video ,so profound and true ,very helpful to me at the moment
Marnie Marnie wrote on January 22, 2024 at 1:49 pm
You are a light in the dark - a truth teller. We need more. Never stop....and thank you.
JE JE wrote on January 20, 2024 at 10:29 am
63 y.o. dealing with cptsd from childhood trauma. father sexually abused me from age 12-13. Mom was clueless, older brother was an extreme and hateful bully. Been “in” therapy for 3 decades with various practitioners, but still feel broken. Father died about 6 years ago and I still cannot cry about it. People probably think I am cold-hearted, but I can’t force tears. Will be checking out your books. I find the concept really intriguing. Thank you.
Niels Niels from Copenhagen wrote on January 20, 2024 at 9:21 am
Dear Daniel, I have been watching all of your videos over the past couple of months and found your content compelling and theories very explanatory. I am wondering what your thoughts are on the relative influence of genetics and other environmental influences compared with that of parents..? This is not a challenge or critique, but would be helpful for me to hear your nuanced analysis. Best wishes, Niels. Se for example this article: https://markmanson.net/parents
Edwin Rivera Truth Finder Edwin Rivera Truth Finder from New Britain CT wrote on January 17, 2024 at 8:09 pm
Cowabunga!
Aris Aris from Montreal wrote on January 15, 2024 at 9:37 am
Hello Daniel! I am writing to express how much I have enjoyed your videos. You are, to my knowledge, one of the few people who emphasize grieving as a path to personal growth. I also particularly liked your video concerning Jordan Peterson. I was wondering, time permitting, (apologies if you have already spoken on the subject) if you could touch on romantic relationships in relation to what seems like an addiction to them amongst certain people? The value, if any of consciously choosing to remain single as and things of that nature! Many thanks!
Charlene Coscarelli Charlene Coscarelli from Chico, CA wrote on January 10, 2024 at 10:29 pm
Hi Daniel, I’m a psychotherapist in Chico, CA. Your story really resonated with me. Hearing you talk about focusing on our own (my own) feelings, our repression, perfectionism, self-loathing, lack of boundaries instead of trying to empathize with those who harmed us is so powerful. Your video was the best therapy I’ve gotten in months! I couldn’t help but imagine what you endured & you’re right - we HAD to forgive, we had no choice - we had to forgive or rot away - & the only we could do this was to distance ourselves from who we actually were/are - Healing is a gradual coming back to that authentic self - embracing, even reveling in that which we had to discard - the pain, the loneliness, the rejection, the isolation. If you ever feel so inclined, please reach out. The tears I shed while watching your video was one of the very few times I didn’t feel bitter. I felt seen, mirrored & understood in my desire to grow & distance from a pain we will always carry.
Sandy Sandy from Kent, England wrote on January 9, 2024 at 12:48 pm
Hello Daniel - I've known about your work for a while but recently it has started to mean more and more to me. I think that you would enjoy the books of Dr Dorothy Rowe, an Australian psychologist who died about 5 years ago. She was unable to get a publisher in the US I seem to remember, as her books were so anti-establishment. But they were translated into many other languages. On the UK Amazon site, here is a link to them: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dorothy-rowe/s?k=dorothy+rowe One book she co-wrote with Peter Breggin. Anyway, have a good 2024! xx
katy bauer katy bauer from penzance wrote on January 7, 2024 at 3:20 pm
Hi Thanks so much for your YouTube videos. I just shot a film of my boyfriend's brother who has been sectioned for 31 years after a psychotic breakdown at 22. His childhood was extremely traumatic. Anyway, I wonder whether you'd take a lick at his interview and consider giving it a boost via your channel. It would make him really happy, but of course, only if you think it is of value. I believe it to be. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQnIVlG6Cmc&t=46s Thanks again! Katy
jules jules from singapore wrote on January 6, 2024 at 8:20 am
hi Daniel, I found your videos on New Year's Day and I felt, for the first time in my life, that I finally found a voice that resonates with my experience and thoughts about childhood trauma. It's given me courage to trust myself more as I continue to figure out self-healing, adulthood, relationships while trying my best to live as a better person and to have a better life. I'm now in the midst of reading your book and it's provided so much clarity. Thanks for your work, it's really helpful for those of us who are working hard to heal and be better people in this world.
Sandros Sandros from Miami wrote on January 5, 2024 at 2:25 am
Daniel your forgiveness video was on point and relate alot. Thanks for this authetic message and words to actually describe this frustration.
Mr. Lister Mr. Lister from Charnel Dump, USA wrote on January 1, 2024 at 4:45 pm
I have been watching you for a very long time ... and I could help but laugh out loud while watching the video you made about being "Tea Bagged" ... I won't go for so far as to make any hard and fast rules about what to eat or drink in the morning, but apparently being "Tea Bagged" in the morning, doesn't always work for you?
Brenda S. Brenda S. from Conway wrote on December 11, 2023 at 1:30 am
Hi Daniel, I love your content. If you mean our society becoming increasingly emotionally and mentally unsound as demonstrated by a lack of rationalization, I agree. Rapid-fire emotions trump all else. The more I try to reason with my family, the more emotional they become. The more fearful and threatened. How dare I disrupt their codependent state? Is the damage permanent that I'm wasting my breath? After all they have a death wish in place for me. If that isn't love I don't know what is. JK. But they are all much healthier than me.
Blu Blu wrote on December 3, 2023 at 6:42 am
Hi Daniel, You speak the truth. Thank you. I’m wondering if you can help me. I’m an MFT student and am seeing what you saw. I’m not sure what to do. I’m seeing a lot of gaslighting and manipulation. Thank you for being courageous.
Joan Cabarrus Joan Cabarrus from Austin wrote on December 1, 2023 at 8:28 pm
Last one and it's not self-therapy related. I will soon quit my career in medical field and will finally pursue my art business full time... and oh, my right thumb carpal tunnel-like pain from writing so much artbooks has subsided after watching your YouTube video about your thumb pain from playing guitar and how you did this back stretch that relieved it. Oh my goodness gracious, it solved my pain issue. I don't know who you are but you are certainly healing me from so many areas of life. Thanks for your presence. I am on my way to living almost 100% of an authentic life.
Greg E. Greg E. wrote on December 1, 2023 at 2:07 pm
I have done THERAPY and Daniels TALKS are turning out to be the best I have ever had ! .......... Leaves you with no more Questions !!! * REAL Human SHARING his experiences & knowledge GOOD WORK ! Must be rewarding now !
Joan Cabarrus Joan Cabarrus from Austin, Texas wrote on November 26, 2023 at 1:15 am
I was searching for the keyword “outsider” on YouTube and found your video about The Value of being an Outsider. I was feeling lonely during this Thanks Giving as I am alone with my two dogs in a state where I have no support system nearby nor close friends. I subconsciously followed my intuition that guided me where I am now residing, that also led me to strip away of all my old life including breaking away from my dysfunctional family system. I recently came across the terms scapegoat and truth tellers by another psychologist on YouTube and realized that I am one and after watching your video about being an outsider, I just knew I would resonate with everything else you put out on there. Even the self-therapy. …then it does not feel so alone anymore. Thank you.
Marlyse Marlyse from Fort Walton Beach FL wrote on November 23, 2023 at 3:07 pm
Thank you for your words @ youtube.... I am convinced....that we become different person's due to trauma & grief....but do not process these 'emotions' correctly, perhaps due to ignorance, & being empathetic....learning to relearn to love oneself is an wkwardd lesson for sure! Most necessary and very liberating i.e being light.....as a butterfly ?!
Crawford Crawford from las vegas wrote on November 7, 2023 at 8:31 am
Daniel, I watch your videos and having realized at a late age that my mother is NPD and other family related wounding - Thank you! It's been painful and the healing is partial I suppose but it is the truth that I can live with. I can hear still that tinge of wishing to be believed in your monologs. I sometimes doubt it all happened and have to review the facts to myself again to reprove the case. Thank you for having the courage to change and to share it. You have helped me.
M. Chase M. Chase from Iowa City Iowa wrote on November 7, 2023 at 6:28 am
Hello Daniel, as I do not often pronounce myself on the internet through phrases and words. Your existence has made my journey overcome the harsher aspects of this “thing” we call life. Much love. Much respect. Initiatives that I was not aware of dwelling in the deep pit of my capsule. My outlook on living has drastically changed for the best. Your channel Has helped me take my Intensive thoughts turned into reality. A reality of trauma. Traumatic experiences that I myself and my surrounding peers evolving into who I am now forward. had been shoved deep down as This is the turning point. To perhaps open my soul and internally broaden myself.