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I was searching for the keyword “outsider” on YouTube and found your video about The Value of being an Outsider. I was feeling lonely during this Thanks Giving as I am alone with my two dogs in a state where I have no support system nearby nor close friends. I subconsciously followed my intuition that guided me where I am now residing, that also led me to strip away of all my old life including breaking away from my dysfunctional family system. I recently came across the terms scapegoat and truth tellers by another psychologist on YouTube and realized that I am one and after watching your video about being an outsider, I just knew I would resonate with everything else you put out on there. Even the self-therapy. …then it does not feel so alone anymore. Thank you.
Thank you for your words @ youtube.... I am convinced....that we become different person's due to trauma & grief....but do not process these 'emotions' correctly, perhaps due to ignorance, & being empathetic....learning to relearn to love oneself is an wkwardd lesson for sure! Most necessary and very liberating i.e being light.....as a butterfly 🦋!
Daniel, I watch your videos and having realized at a late age that my mother is NPD and other family related wounding - Thank you! It's been painful and the healing is partial I suppose but it is the truth that I can live with. I can hear still that tinge of wishing to be believed in your monologs. I sometimes doubt it all happened and have to review the facts to myself again to reprove the case. Thank you for having the courage to change and to share it. You have helped me.
Hello Daniel, as I do not often pronounce myself on the internet through phrases and words. Your existence has made my journey overcome the harsher aspects of this “thing” we call life. Much love. Much respect. Initiatives that I was not aware of dwelling in the deep pit of my capsule. My outlook on living has drastically changed for the best. Your channel Has helped me take my Intensive thoughts turned into reality. A reality of trauma. Traumatic experiences that I myself and my surrounding peers evolving into who I am now forward. had been shoved deep down as This is the turning point. To perhaps open my soul and internally broaden myself.
Hello Daniel. Just came across your YouTube &, wow, I love what you’re doing, particularly within the context of integrating your values with your actions & presence in the wider world. I also loved hearing your reasons for training as, and then discontinuing being, a psychotherapist. Such integrity & self-awareness. So much of what you said resonated with my decision not to train & to find alternative ways to help others, including through creative means. I find your words - written & spoken - really insightful and interesting. Thank you. Wishing you continued healing & happiness in all areas of your life.
Wow...I am also a former therapist in NYC and I'm so glad I'm not the only one who saw the truth of the system and got the hell out. Keep doing what you're doing.
Daniel, thank you for your work and being so authentic which allows me to truly see you and in turn, see myself. I noticed you have been to Africa and wondered if you came across the Ubuntu philosophy? If you haven’t I think you would enjoy learning about it. Again, thank you for your work.
Hi, Self help therapy it is a great tool for people who are willing to take a step and heal themselves from trauma. I was wandering, how childhood trauma can be processed and healed, in a deaf and mute, individual with leaning difficulties/autism and depression? This is a challenge for those individuals and the therapist right?
Just wanted to thank you for your magnificent talks. My experience was almost identical to yours but on steroids. Parents were holocaust survivors and mom had super NPD. Had a therapist for decades. She did no harm. I never had a relationship. Live with 3 cats.......... On the up side I have a great career designing ultrasonic medical devices, and love my work. Lived my life in engineering books / that whole distraction thing. You helped me more than anyone else EVER. I'm OK. At the age of almost 70, it is what it is. Your life is well lived. THANK YOU Daniel!
Thank you for the work you do and the insights you post. It’s a good treasure trove of information and the way present your information is in a very calm, polite, and organized way.
I never find others who know who Alice Miller is! Hey: how can I send an image of the sketch I drew while listening to one of your YouTube postings? It just organically arrived from my pencil and surprised even me.
Hi Daniel, I find your vídeos on YouTube very insightful and want to thank you for them! Sometimes I find myself wondering what you would say about certain topics since I quite trust your opinion. I recently stumbled upon Internal Family Systems and have been doing a deep dive into that therapy modality. I truly feel it’s a therapy that could help everyone heal from all kinds of traumas (especially those rooted in childhood). Any insight you could share on this topic would be greatly appreciated! Thanks again for the work you do.
Hi! I recognice alot of childhood trauma and being a victim of other acting out the trauma. For a long time i thought a lot on biology diet and things in biology that made me hurt. But now I am starting to recognicing the truth of my habitual cage and my self
Hello, I'm a mum of a child who has experienced trauma at a daycare as a baby. Luckily I am a very astute parent and I knew straight away and withdrew. A few years later he was traumatised again, at school and I'm now home educating. I've got no help. Trauma informed classes seem to be for professionals coming into contact with children but not for mums trying to help their own children and protect them from so called professionals. I've watched some of your videos tonight and I really hope you can help. I totally agree with your points on eary childhood trauma and I'm determined to support my son but I can see the 'residual' damage these horrible abusers have put on him, Inc a lack of healthy appetite (need to control?) making him slimmer than he would normally be. I have important questions about my sons development and what a horrible woman did to him when he was 18months old and no one to ask! Can you help?!
Hi Danial, I just finished a book, a true story, on healing from childhood trauma, which includes a 12-step process, and was wondering if I could send you a copy to read and review since it is a lot of what you are saying, and some you are not that may interest you. Mind Surgery, Consciously Healing Thrgpouh Self-Enlightenment on Amazon. Steven Thistle
Hi Daniel, I was a victim of child sexual, physical and emotional abuse, mostly by my mother, i.e. mother on daughter incest - violent rapes. My mother wasn't a victim of child sexual abuse herself, instead she started sexually assaulting younger children when she was 9 if not younger. She was a grandiose narcissist and according to several of my doctors who have met her, more of a psychopath than a sociopath. She was also very religious (she nearly became a nun) and 'respectable'. Being born into the upper class (French aristocrats) helped, even though her family were not that wealthy. The physical abuse started before I was born (attempts at inducing a miscarriage), she took drugs (benzos, opiates, tricyclic antidepressants - the level of opiates she takes is just as bad as if she was injecting heroin) throughout the time she was pregnant with me and as a result I was born by C section 3 weeks early and spent the first 2 weeks in an incubator, being weaned off the drugs, while she was demanding more opiates for heself and saying that I should be put down. When she saw me for the first time, she said 'It looks like a rat!' (I had lanugo) and turned towards the wall. I went home with her after 2 weeks, then the social services (who had been alerted by the hospital) found out that I wasn't being fed, my nappy wasn't being changed, and I'd lost weight since my release from hospital, so they forced my father to hire a nurse (they coulndn't get my mother to sign adoption papers to give me away and were too cash strapped to take her to court to put me into foster care), the nanny found me unconscious in my cot when she arrived and called an ambulance, I had brain trauma (probably from shaken baby syndrome) and had to have surgery to relieve the pressure on my brain. I then went back 'home' but the nanny protected me against my mother until I was 3... when, again, the nanny, the neighbours, the kindergarten teachers and the other kids' parents had to contact the social services to force my mother to let me see a doctor (I had lost the sight in one eye. Thankfully I only needed glasses). My mother then moved to a differnet part of France, I lost my nanny, and the sexual abuse started a couple of weeks later. I actually distinctly remember the first time she raped me. My mother also liked suffocating and strangling me, stabbing me, mostly with sewing needles, burning me etc. She gleefully told me numerous times how she tried to suffocate me when I was an infant. I am now in my late 40s, went no contact with my mother when I was 25, and moved to a differnet country in my 30s. My father was non existent (just a sperm donor) and the rest of the family were no help, and I've never dated, I am quite a loner. I have found Pete Wlaker's book extremely helpful, as well as Dr Judith Hermann's book, and Andrea Dworkin's books and talks (I attract pimps and narcissists and have been offered jobs in the prostitution/porn industry throughout my life, though mostly when I was in my 20s). Just now, in the UK, a nurse, Lucy Letby, has been convicted of torturing and killing babies on the nenoatal unit where she worked. Her victims were premature babies or twins, 2 of them were triplets (the third triplet survived because his parents demanded that he be transferred to amother hospital). Several of her victims, who survived, suffered permanent brain damage and will never be able to live a normal life, at least one of them requries 24/7 care,she is tetraplegic and has cerebral palsy. Some of the babies she targeted were only 1 or 2 days old, some of them had been on the unit for a while, and were about to go home. The nurse enjoyed trying to 'save' the babies after they had collapsed, a fairly typical case of Munchhausen by proxy (which my mother also had. She diagnosed me with brain tumour, leukaemia, brain tumour and rapidly progressing MS when I was only 8, etc.) The case has made me very jittery and has caused flashbacks. I could have fallen victim to someone like Lucy during any of my stays in hospital during the first 3 years of my life, and of course, my mother was very much like her: superficially charming, butter melts in her mouth, good Christian etc. If you could make a video around the subject, it would help me. I have already listened to Dr Todd Grande's, which helped a little. I guess that one of the ways I am going to manage this grief, fear and anger is by militating for an independent ombudsman/regulator to be creasted, so that patients and whistleblowers have someone to take their concerns to. Sorry for the long post and best wishes!
I just happen to come across your YouTube videos. What a blessing! I wish I discovered it sooner. You are magnificent. Thank you for having the courage to share your wisdom and truth.
I listened to your story about trauma and grief or grieving. For me when I listen to your talk of self actualization .. it actually seems that the crying is a from of compassion for the wounded part. A form of nurturing of acknowledging the inner you. For me that is different grieving. Grieving for me is an expression of loss … for someone who is not there as in a death. In which the grief contracts the heart not allowing the person the experience expansiveness of their energetic which would allow them to experience where the soul is rather than where they are not. So perhaps the dissociation of your true self which was healed through crying was a way to open your wounded contracted heart with with compassion. Which represents an evolution and associated expansiveness in the recognition of realization your true nature of .
Hi, I just wanted to say that your recent video where you breakdown the differences between trauma and grief is very enlightening. It’s people like you, Carl Jung, Alan Watts, Aurelius, etc., that inspire others. You seek to distill the human experience rather than just take your winnings and exit the casino. It’s admirable. It inspired me today to continue writing. I suffer from inescapable chronic pain, and I only would have found folks like yourself BECAUSE I sought to learn to handle my physical limits. I failed at any sort of escape from pain, but I HAVE escaped emotional suffering. I still experience physical and emotional pain, but the emotional is much more manageable, in part due to my own vain search for physical relief, but mainly due to guidance from people like yourself. Thanks to the message you are helping to spread, I personally can vouch for an acceptance of life that I can call on at any time of day. I can continue living. I am no fervent believer in the bearded man, but all the same, I found God. There is no doubt. He is infinite and the mind goes as deep and wide as it needs to in order to survive. Thank you.
Hello Daniel, What is your opinion on people's right to self determination when it comes to physical self injury? Sometimes I think that I should be allowed to cut myself, that it isn't the absolute worst coping mechanism in my arsenal (though I acknowledge that it is also not the best). I give myself stick-and-poke tattoos to self-soothe sometimes as an alternative, and I see no functional difference in this behavior and cutting... except that when others see the results of my actions they do not feel the same discomfort/disgust/fear as when they look at a large ugly scar. But it makes my loved ones extremely upset and makes them want me institutionalized. I am wondering how I can talk to them about this, and if maybe my perspective is flawed.
Hi Daniel, i discovered your channel almost 2 years ago and i've been watching a lot of your videos since. I appreciate your ideas and opinions and im doing my own self therapy along with that. You have helped me a lot. I would like to ask if you could make a video on panic attacks, why they happen, what are they and how can we heal from them? Thanks a lot and greetings from Greece!
I visited my family home in Athens a couple of weeks ago where my elderly father and mother still live. My mum has declined so much that she relies 100% on carers. I do not think she even recognised me this time, which may look (and is) sad, but I finally feel safe that she cannot harm me anymore, despite being still "alive". My dad, on the other hand, who is also very old, is still fully functioning (working and taking care of mum). He was always the "good" one, but lately I realised that he has never protected us from her destructive influence. When I attempted to open a conversation about these issues he denied it and that frustrated me so much that I left the house and started wondering in the nearby hill (the house is in a remote suburb of Athens) feeling completely alone in my journey towards Truth. I started crying, because I knew that I could not speak about this to anyone and then I realised that I have at least one ally in this. You. If our value in this life is measured by the number of hearts we have touched, you certainly are a truly rich person. And if you ever come to London for any reason, you could stay with us if you want (myself and my daughter). This is the least I could do. I wish I could do more to Thank you for what you have given me the last months that I discovered your work. From all the people in the world, you feel more "family" to me than any of my family members.
Hello Mr. Mackler. I am one of your followers or someone who watches your videos, and I really find them all interesting and meaningful... I would like to know if you could do a video about your experience of what true humility is? Thank You , take care and may you continue making beautiful, amazing and thought provoking content. 😊🙏
Hey you might never see this, but I love your videos. I want to be a psychiatrist (not the kind that just prescribes drugs and forces diagnoses down people's throat) and I just wanted to know if you knew how to do this!
As a parent, I am humbly asking for help. I will try to be brief. I value and appreciate your important insights, which my 33-year old son introduced me to. I was a severely codependent mom, with an unstable and emotionally abusive husband, and 2 kids much younger than that first one. Believing I was caring for everyone and juggling everything well enough, in spite of my own illness and misery, I now realize that he endured profound feelings of neglect, abandonment, and betrayal because of the situation I allowed to continue. After several years in Codependents Anonymous, I am much more aware, independent, and healthy.....and working on making amends. My son has already broken from his stepfather. How do I convey to my son that I understand, acknowledge, and accept responsibility for what I allowed to occur, even though (for numerous reasons) I have not completely cut his stepfather out of my own life? I want to maintain a relationship with my son. I am grasping and grateful for any guidance.
Daniel -- The profession lost a mensch when you left. Your videos have helped me so much. Could you tackle psychedelics? There's a lot of hype. I would trust your take!
Hi Daniel, Thank you for your beautiful you tube channel. I am learning so much. Also have you heared of rapid Transformational Therapy by Marisa Peer? I'm currently in training at the moment. It's such a beautiful Therapy. So life changing so transformative. Thank you for being out there and so open. You are phenomenonal! Lelaya
Congrats on 100,000 subs , you deserve , we deserve, peace bro
For some reason YouTube suggested your video. And I thought I'd hear a little bit. I liked that it wasn't a viral video and it wasn't big production. Well I've been hearing a lot of what you have to say and it makes me feel more at ease with who I am. I've been working on a memoir but it is more about the insight than the events of my life journey so far. I worried that I was sounding too negative about society or too 'notes from the underground' but hearing your consistent perspective and reading some of the comments has been empowering. I wonder if there are events or festivals that you have found free minded people who are grounded in acknowledging the world we live in without the safety goggles which defense mechanisms of delusions provide. Also that those types of gatherings are not a cult recruitment lol there's that.
Hi Daniel, I am so glad that I’ve found you on youtube! The first video that I watched was about you quitting your job as a therapist, to be honest it scared me a little bit because I want to become a psychotherapist myself. I’m writhing this to thank you for just being on this planet:) You are really inspiring me to be a kind person. When I’m watching your videos I see your love for people and it brings me so much joy. Thank you!