Hi Daniel, your website and truth has had a profound impact on me. The other day my wife brought home the book \"The Body Never Lies\" by Alice Miller. I\'d never known of her before and upon looking her up online I came across your review of one of her books which is how I happened upon your website. Thank you for your courage to self heal and your transparency in your writings. This site has been hugely grounding and enlivening to my soul. The truth found here regarding the insidiousness of the parental dynamic makes sense to me on gut level and resonates in every way with my personal philosophy and life journey. The stance you take with regards to having children prior to fully healing is the exact reason I got a vasectomy prior to marrying my wife (though I wasn\'t fully aware at the time). Your the first voice of reason I\'ve heard that has made that decision of mine not seem so crazy afterall. Your also the first voice of reason that resonates with the truth of my soul that I\'ve always know to be true from the beginning but had been conditioned to deny because my very survival depended on it as a child. At 17 yrs of age I was involved in a form of chi gung, a kind of breathwork. I began to experience my true Self again but also began to prematurely awake to the traumas of my child within. It was overwhelming and I went through a nervous breakdown as a result. Because I was living at home with the perpetrators of the trauma, the twisted power plays and manipulation kicked into full gear. The pain of the trauma became a literal living hell to me that my parents took full advantage of to further their manipulative and sick agenda. They in essence made it very clear to me that my real Self was not welcome in the family and only the charade of denial and self hate would be adequate if I were to be welcome or accepted. It is so wild to me now to see the role I played in my family as the proverbial dumping ground. I was coerced into wearing a cloak of shame that perpetuated itself because it was the only way I knew to be. I\'m 37yrs old now and have gone through extensive psychotherapy and bodywork over the last 7yrs. I\'m on a healing journey but only because I\'ve learned it\'s ok to have permission to call bull shit on the cult of family; to grieve and process the pain of the deepest, most wounded parts of myself. Learning to feel acceptance and what real love actually is. The Spirit in me Is Unconditional Love! Your message, Daniel, has been a windfall for me because it deftly summarizes what my instincts and heart have been trying to tell me all along. I feel permission to feel more fully now in ways that just weren\'t being accessed before because of the limitations of therapy (and limitations of the therapist). Your message to \'go inside, take back what is yours, mourn and grieve over the evil that was done to you and alas deliverance will begin to unfold\' is the most damn refreshing thing my heart has taken hold of since my healing as an adult had started it\'s course. This tiny shift of pointing out the real root of all insecurity and realizing to what extent the motives of my parents were, has been a windfall for me. It\'s brought clarity of mind and continuity to my philosophy that had been, up until 6 days ago, still rather fractured and segmented, despite how far I thought I\'d come. My deepest appreciation and gratitude extends from my heart to you, brother.