I completely agree with your ideas about grieving well being the key to recovery or what Martin Prechtel would call re-membering from trauma; literally taking apart shaking things up and putting it all back together as a new person having fully metabolized the grief. We have mostly lost the grieving process and truthfully, we hsve lost pur ability to really powerfully praise and acknowledge thise important to us especially our children and loved ones. As Martin’s Tzutujil Mayan people of Santiago Atitilan Guatemala say “grief and praise sleep together in the same bed.” His powerful talk about Grief and Praise can be heard on the internet and he hoes even more deeply into it in his beautiful book “The Smell of rain on dust: Grief and Praise.”