Hi Daniel A second message, to say I\'ve been reading a number of your essays, and I watched your video on confronting parents, and listened to your \'bullshit\' song. I\'ve just been very moved reading your \'The Traumatised Are Safe\' essay. You are a very unusual person, in your capacity for fearless truth telling, even when this will mean triggering people into their fear, with possible nasty consequences for yourself. Although, as you clearly appreciate, what first appears nasty, inevitably is liberating, if it helps you to know the truth more deeply. I feel the same way you do about taking responsibility for healing myself, rather than passing on that burden to a next generation. And my husband has spent his life trying to work out how to help the children who already exist, rather than creating any of his \'own\'. I am hoping we can connect via email (though that obviously depends on your time and inclination). In addition to the docos I mentioned in my last email, I have a couple of long documents about my confrontation of my mother which you may be interested in (a nonviolent action involving a peaceful vigil supporting my request for financial reparation, which landed me in prison for over three months for conscientiously breaking a domestic violence restriction order, and resulted in me defending myself in front of a jury). It was an amazing experience - we felt and learned so much, about my parents, the legal system, humans generally, and, of course, myself. Having been through all that, I resonated with many of the points you made in your video. I like the way you tell people what to expect, but don\'t discourage them from doing it. Obviously, every person needs to deal with their parents according to their own situation and inclination, but it is so often the case that I have to go into a situation, even knowing intellectually what the likely outcome is, to really access the feelings deeply enough to come to a clear and powerful understanding that really changes my sense of self. Anyway, I\'d love to hear where you are up to with your own \'terrifying\' journey foward. Cheers; Anita