Dear Daniel, I've been inspired by you, thank you. I'm interested in relationship in particular. We all carry wounding and health. I agree, be in a good place, love from surplus. I'm thinking at the moment that I/ we can only get to this through relationship(s). We need relationship(s) to grow and mature in relationship and heal. I know it's been transformative to end a relationship, to say no. But right now I'm staying put in something that feels grim a lot of the time and has done for a long time. But growth can be like that, (horse chestnut buds look so violent around the time they split the sheath to emerge) so why not in relationship? We don't know if we're transforming to die, or to blossom anew. If I don't learn what I'm learning within relationship, can I learn it? I could leave, take the iron out of the fire to let the heat sink in, and start again more whole. I think that's a wise path. But I'm not convinced it's the only one, though I have no idea if that it wisdom or fear! I can grow, do it in this one and then review. I think Rilke talks about the conventional path, obviously at a time when divorce/ separation was less easy, was to numb, or find some arrangement, at least that worked for the man. But he saw even then, that to leave and split up, is the same. So I'm curious what you think about transforming relationships from within. And navigating the subtleties of growth and turmoil and toxicity. Turning lead into gold means handling lead. Warmly, Amanda