Hi Daniel, I have watched so many of your videos and read your book ‘breaking from your parents’. Reading your book was like talking to someone who finally makes sense and is safe. I moved away from home to study as a young 19 year old and stayed abroad thousands of miles from my family. And with that came the courage of growing! It has been and is a challenging road with virtually no one to relate to except some books and videos such as yours. Just today, I was informed of my parent’s death. As relatives are blowing up my phone to make arrangements, I feel quite unmoved. I have contemplated what I would do when this day comes, and I have thought I would probably not go to my parent’s funeral. But I will for sure know what to do when the time comes. And as the time has come, I know from deep within me, that I am not going to the funeral. This is scaring me since it has been 10 years since I moved away and within that time I have changed so much, from being completely enmeshed to this point of even contemplating a life of just me, completely separate from my family system. Not going to the funeral is a definite statement of that life, it is like a ‘coming out’ of how serious I am to the rest of the family. A revelation of how disconnected I feel. I would have loved to revisit a video of yours on the subject of family funerals, but I don’t recall if you have talked on this topic at all. But you are the first person I thought would get my decision and find it even normal. Thanks for being an example!