[Written around 2006.]
People who are not fully enlightened have children to be rescued by them. This goes for parents who adopt as well as for those who procreate. Those who adopt at least are not responsible for the creation of a new perfect existence to be twisted, which is good, but this does not change the illness in the motive. And often it makes the illness more virulent, because many adoptive parents feel more justified acting out their unconscious needs in exchange for the service they’ve done.
An adopted child has suffered the primal loss. His biological parents failed him, and in his deepest soul he knows it. There may be a beauty in adoption, but underneath it there is a hell. People drawn to adopt have not dealt fully with the hell of their own abandonment, and think they can undo their own denied childhood truths by becoming saviors. They cannot. They may help the adopted child, and may enhance his chances in life, but they cannot inoculate him from receiving their own denied wounds.
Truth seekers must first take full responsibility for the inner child orphaned within their own breast. They must nurture him, guide him, and let him grieve the losses of his own tragedy. This is the only way to achieve enlightenment. Until then, whenever they are given full responsibility for a child’s life, be he their biological child or not, they will not be able to provide him with the full emotional nourishment he needs to become enlightened himself. Thus they will fail him at the parents’ greatest mission, and with full justification his soul will read this failure as yet another parental abandonment.