Jesus Rejected His Mother

[Written around 2005.  Commentary in 2013:  Just to be clear, I have no clue whether or not Jesus actually lived as they said he did.  I take him to be a very unusual and mythological person, and that’s how I’m writing about him…]

Jesus was a warrior, and his prime enemy was the family.  He advocates open rebellion of children against their parents.  Take Matthew 10:34:

“Think not that I have come to bring peace to the earth; it is not peace I bring but a sword.  I have come to set son against father, daughter against mother, daughter-in-law against mother-in-law; a person’s enemies will be the members of his own household.”

Jesus says reject your parents, reject the lies they raised you on, and find the honest truth within yourself.  That’s why they killed him, Jews and Romans, and even one of his own disciples.  Jesus threatened their way of life, and created a new mold.

Take his celibacy.  This gave him the opportunity to avoid externalizing his internal conflicts.  Few can handle the frustrations of conscious celibacy, and most who are celibate simply do so through unconscious defense, by splitting off and repressing their sex drive.  This death-celibacy does not lead to enlightenment.  It leads to disease.

And take his lack of having children.  He never recreated the cycle of bringing others into the world to rescue him.  It is difficult, if not impossible, to attain enlightenment when one becomes a parent.  Projection, that most basic defense mechanism underlying acting out, becomes too easy and comfortable when one has offspring.  They’re like magnets for parental projection of denied material, for one’s own unresolved childhood traumas, and are a time-tested vaccination against healing.

And take Jesus’s forty days and nights in the desert:  his time of profound introspection – and temptation.  Before Jesus could move forward cleanly he had to know who he truly was, where he was heading, and what was tempting him back.  And his temptation was his family, their perks, and their ways.  And once he’d figured this out he no longer had to mince his words.

Take his line to his own biological mother and brothers when addressing a crowd of his followers, from Matthew 12: 48-50:

“Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?”  And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers!  For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”

Or this, from Luke 14: 26-27:

“If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, his wife and children, his brothers and sisters – yes, even his own life – he cannot be my disciple.  And anyone who does not carry his cross and follow me cannot be my disciple.”

Jesus hated his family because they betrayed his soul, and he made a new true family for himself – a family of true soulful companions, people open to his new, true, honest self.  He had to reject his old self as well, the false self that he created to survive amidst them, and hate all that went with it, all the parts of himself that were just like them.  However, as to his line about hating one’s own children (assuming he’s talking about young children), he’s totally off there.  No child deserves the hate of his parents.  After all, Jesus wasn’t perfect.  He went far, but he still had his emotional work cut out for him – and he agrees!

Take John 14:12:

“He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do…”   [italics mine]

Jesus realized that even he was an evolving person who had not reached the pinnacle of man’s consciousness.  He was a person of his time, and one who died young, at a mere thirty-three.  What might he have become had he kept on exploring, maturing, growing, developing his thoughts?

This he leaves to us to find out for ourselves…through our own lives, through our own healing processes.

10 thoughts on “Jesus Rejected His Mother

  1. ““If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, his wife and children, his brothers and sisters – yes, even his own life – he cannot be my disciple.”

    This implies that to join Christs discipleship, you need to halt the manipulation of your emotions and mind by family members, in fact not listen to the words of others. If you’re not repelled by the things they do to you through words, you are not at the right stage of your own personal evolution to take the lessons thereafter.

    It implies you have enough understanding as to what is the source of the problem, in essence. I will not tell you this though. It is called realisation for a reason.

    Take up your cross daily, means nail your ego to it and leave without it.

  2. Hi Daniel. Just one thought:
    Jesus rejected his biological family not out of hate, as acting out of hate is anathema to his teaching.Rather, he rejected his biological family out of Love and his drive to protect them. Rejecting them before the crowds of “followers” who would later demand his crucifixion and seek out any of his relations to lynch mercilessly.
    I believe, in my heart of hearts, Jesus rejected his Mother in our to protect her from the mob he knew would betray him and hunt down his survivors.
    Thank you for letting me share.
    Please let’s remember All-Holy Mother Mary’s incredible pain and suffering, to have to watch her child being led off to slaughter by popular demand.

  3. Hello sons and daughters of the one true living God, please pray always that you will be accounted worthy to escape the hour of temptation that is going to come upon the entire world. And pray always that you will also be accounted worthy to stand in the presence of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, the Son of God.

  4. First of all, let me say that I do enjoy your original and thoughtful (though disturbing to me as someone who has parentied three wonderful and challenging children) commentary about therapy. However, I think you’re trying to use Jesus’ credibility to support your ideas about parenting.

    I would like to try to address why your enterpretation of the above scriptures are subjective and erroneous, but I will defer to a late, ancient literature scholar from Oxford university. He would tell you that an objective reading of the biblical texts, based on commonly used literary criterium, would lead you to only one of the following conclusions:

    “I am trying here to prevent anyone saying the really foolish thing that people often say about Him: I’m ready to accept Jesus as a great moral teacher, but I don’t accept his claim to be God.That is the one thing we must not say. A man who was merely a man and said the sort of things Jesus said would not be a great moral teacher. He would either be a lunatic — on the level with the man who says he is a poached egg — or else he would be the Devil of Hell. You must make your choice. Either this man was, and is, the Son of God, or else a madman or something worse. You can shut him up for a fool, you can spit at him and kill him as a demon or you can fall at his feet and call him Lord and God, but let us not come with any patronizing nonsense about his being a great human teacher. He has not left that open to us. He did not intend to.”
    ― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

    • hi Mark,

      i agree that this essay/interpretation could well be subjective and erroneous — as i have no idea who jesus was. i was writing it in part (now that i think about it) to make the point that you can even intone biblical scripture on jesus to back up a point of view as presently unusual as mine. as i wrote in 2013 (in the intro to this 2005 essay): “Just to be clear, I have no clue whether or not Jesus actually lived as they said he did. I take him to be a very unusual and mythological person, and that’s how I’m writing about him…”

      by the way, i think C.S. Lewis is way off here — lost in his own religious faith. i always did like his narnia series, though…

      greetings,
      daniel

      p.s. i like this related gandhi quotation, though (not, by the way, that i think gandhi was the world’s best parental role model): “I may say that I have never been interested in a historical Jesus. I should not care if it was proved by someone that the man called Jesus never lived, and that what was narrated in the Gospels was a figment of the writer’s imagination. For the Sermon on the Mount would still be true for me.”

      • If by “mythological” you’re questioning whether Jesus actually existed — no credible historian questions that , any more than the existence of Abraham Lincoln. There is just too much secular literature from that time period that testifies to his existence. If you mean you doubt he did miracles or was raised from the dead, that’s another matter. A lack of openness to those possibilities can come from being “lost” in an anti-supernatural or new age spirituality bias. Of course, we all come at these things with our own preconceived biases. Lewis began studying the question of who Jesus was as an atheist in his 40’s.

        My point in citing Lewis was that, as an ancient literature scholar, he is in the best position to objectively determine what the biblical texts were saying about Jesus and what he claimed about himself. It’s clear that the texts claimed that he rose from the dead and was therefore something more than a mere guru. Whether one accepts the testimony of those texts as factual in another matter.

        Finally two unrelated things things: 1. I enjoy having these kind of discussions/debates and may be inclined to carry it on beyod the point of obnoxiousness. (I’m sure you’ve figured out I’m one of those bible-banging-evangelical types) If so, just let me know and I’ll leave it alone. 2. Do you know of any resources whereby I could find a psychiatrist or doctor who is willing to help people get off of medication? I met Whitaker when we appeared on a local NPR program together here in Columbus, Ohio and Suzanne Beachy, who you may know from her involvement with MIA, is a good friend of mine. Despite these contacts, I have failed in my attempts to find any doctor’s in this area who sympathize with the recovery movement. Any help you could give would be appreciated

        • hi mark,
          hmm….i presently lack the energy to get into the religious discussion — though i grant it has value…..i am just fried!!! but hmm, columbus……. i don’t know any good psychiatrists there. or any psychiatrists at all…..

          i did look on the ISPS-US member list — http://isps-us.org/membership_main.php?orderBy=lastName&city=*&state=OH&country=* — and saw Derrick Watley there, in cincinnati. at first i didn’t know who he was, but then i recalled him — he’s not a practitioner, but a very lovely guy who’s done a lot of research looking for good practitioners, and he might know someone. his email is public on the link. also, i saw there was a protest against forced psychiatry in columbus this past january. maybe you were there? if not, here is the facebook link, and you might find someone who has some good connections there: https://www.facebook.com/events/929668307067824/

          and are you connected with Pat Risser in Ashland? i imagine you are…. he might know some good folks, and certainly would be a good person to talk with. (i can connect you if you wish.) he actually got me invited with his group to speak out there some months back, but then the bigwigs found out about my stance on psychiatry (not even what i think of parents, haha) and i got disinvited. that was just too bad. my final possibility is larry leitner, a psychologist and professor in oxford, ohio. he’s a radical guy, and here’s his university webpage. he’s trained some good folks and probably has some good ohio contacts. wishing you the best! daniel p.s. wouldn’t it just be easier if people were demon-possessed and we could figure out how to get the demons to go into a herd of swine?

          • Well, where else would you expect a Jewish rabbi to cast demons? Pork phobia, I guess?
            Seriously though, I’ve seen some of this kind of thing. My friend, Mike Husch, was cured of 25 years of severe epilepsy through an exorcism. We prayed for him several times and he’d start growlig and foaming at the mouth. He’d get relief from his frequent grand mal siezures for a week or so and they’d return. We asked this guy, John Wimber, to meet with him to see what he thought (He was a seminary professor known for teaching churches about healing) to meet with him. He prayed for Mike, said it was demonic and told Mike to go back to his doctor to get checked. In fact, his siezures were cured from that day on. He was taken off of all medication. This was all medically documented at OSU Medical Center where Mike recieved his medical care. My friend Scott, who injured his shoulder in a mountain biking accident years ago, was healed at a healing conference last summer at church. I know because He showed me the next day when we went trail riding. I was praying about a question that troubled me deeply when my father was dying. That night my wife and two of my children had the same dream, which completely answered my question. A woman came in for counseling and was very vague about whatever was bothering her. I had a reocurring thought that she was having an affair with a guy named Mike. Somewhat sheepishly (God speaking to me? That would get me thrown into the psychiatric slammer pretty quick!), I told her what kept coming into my mind and she admitted it was true. I could go on with other things I’ve experienced, but suffice-it- to-say, this God thing is real. He/She is literally real, personal, relational and knowable in Christ.
            Anyway, that’s my sermon for the day. No response expected. Just felt like sharing that.

      • Hello, do you have a personal relationship with our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ? The Son of God. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. – John 3:16

        • Jesus has known the joy to be raised, as a boy, in a Jewish family . And that mean an overbearing, castrating mother that will never allow him to have his own independent live. Jesus could have been Italian or Greek… in a way these families have similar ties and overbearing mother son relation. You will never be free and able to praise God unless you put your family and especially mother at their place : They are parents not partners.

          This is from the Bible and not respecting this is what gives most divorces : “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

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