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There is a false self, there is an authentic self and there is the true self, the nondual observer beyond the construct we call a self. The self that stands when all collapsed and the ego died, the realization that we are the universe experiencing itself. The realization that we are one. Once you allow it instead of fighting it, you shall be free...
Just like political propaganda networks, psychiatry seems to run its own disinformation machine.
It operates like a narrative factory, and (fake) online forums are one of its easiest battlegrounds.
The trick is subtle: fake “patients,” sockpuppet accounts, and staged debates that always end with “See? Meds saved my life.” Even the fake accounts who play to be a bit "against" it start to doubt their view a bit.
That’s not authenticity that’s manufactured consensus.
Controlling the narrative online is cheaper and more effective than any billboard.
A few “friendly” moderators, a handful of sockouppets, and suddenly an entire forum looks balanced and real while dissenters get flagged as unstable.
That’s how psychiatry protects its image:
Not by helping people heal,
but by engineering an illusion to hunt for the vulnerable in society.
Dear Daniel,
Your YouTube videos on how abuse can look when a single mother targets her only son finally allowed me to understand what happened to me. It took me over forty years to get there.
You put into words exactly what I experienced but could never recognize as abuse, since it can be much more subtle when mothers abuse their sons.
I wrote a book about my own experience, exploring how generational trauma and the abuse affected me deeply, especially when it came to forming meaningful romantic relationships with women.
Keep doing what you’re doing. I’m doing the same on my end, so that sons who were abused by (single) mothers not only gain a voice but also the tools to heal.
I wish to reply to Deamon who had an entry from two days ago. It is quite a thorough and impressive list. You originally had 17 items. I am reacting to 12 of them. I was never institutionalized, thank God, never drugged, but still had a God awful experience with my psychiatrist:
1. Selective attention; Narrative distortion
a. Both result in confirmation bias
b. What doesn’t fit the distorted view is either omitted or rewritten
c. The so-called “information” is used against you rather than to help you
I am imagining that confirmation bias is the lifeblood of all that comes after. I think early on with my psych I distinctly recall that his whole MO was to distort the truth and use my information against me. He never had any desire to actually help.
2. Triangulation
a. Peer workers or team workers brought in with the goal being more to add pressure than to collaborate
b. You become surrounded by voices all conveying the same message. In the case of certain patients, that message might be “take the drug”.
As I said I find this really fascinating, and when psychs and social workers are not treated as independently, this is how “teamwork” is manifest in the experience of others. I had the former type, and yes, they kind of sniped at each other in subtle ways. Working as a team never appears to mean that they are on your side as an ally and defender. Maybe some workers on the team stick up for you – there are always rogue elements.
3. Blame “the illness”
a. if you are telling doctors the therapy is making things worse, staff will downplay it or blame “the illness”.
b. The system remains pure, the patient becomes the problem.
That is something I distinctly sensed. They are definitely not here to help in any way that I would benefit.
4. Ordinary pain, heartbreak, fear, and confusion are turned into disorders.
What I sensed here was an utter lack of empathy to the point that I never bothered to tell my psych my problems after a while. I was still confused, and still dawdling in his office each week wasting both of our times. That was until I mustered up the courage to fire him. It wasn’t so much characterizing ordinary human life stress as disordered, but engaging in a concerted effort to rid my narrative of its humanity.
5. Deflection and Topic Shifting.
I had trouble placing this one. But I think this one falls under my psych being generally a weasel. If I confront him about past sessions, he would not remember, and generally make hand-wavy remarks about “context”. Weasel words. I didn’t catalogue any, but “context” is one that stands out.
6. Shifting the blame. If someone becomes suicidal after taking a prescription, it’s explained as “the illness getting worse.” Never the drug, never the process, always the person.
I hear a lot of this. For me, it was in my interactions with others: it was always my fault; asking what was I doing wrong, rather than dealing with the fact my feelings were hurt. The presumption is that it was always my fault.
7. Gaslighting. You describe what you feel, and they subtly question it until you no longer trust your own body, memory, or perception.
There is that “technique” my psych had. This is where I would talk about something positive and life-affirming, and I would be cross-examined about it. I got to the point where I could confront him immediately about it, and he would sit stone-faced – a “face set like flint”, as they say. Not only non-reactive, but barely acknowledging my presence. I guess you can call it a technique. Farting with your armpit takes a certain talent too. But I wouldn’t brag about it or put it on my resume.
8. DARVO (Deny, attack, reverse victim and offender) When you confront them with wrongdoing, they deny it, attack your tone, and flip the roles. Suddenly you are the aggressor, and they are the victim.
I don’t recall any DARVO. That sounds like a league beyond my experience. I just get gaslighting from a person who seemed talentless in every other way.
9. Intermittent reinforcement: After periods of coldness or deliberate misunderstanding, they suddenly act kind and empathetic. That brief flash of warmth keeps people hoping, waiting, cooperating.
It’s emotional conditioning disguised as care, and proof that a parasite never kills its host. I know it well. It was my psych's MO as a fake therapist. It is the kind of emotionally manipulative activity that makes them feel like therapists but are really not therapists.
10. Framing Emotion as Risk: Every reaction is weaponized against you.
That’s a bit extreme for my experience. But I can still think of an anecdote characterized by more “normal” therapists and recalling my remark that a lady I once knew said she was mixed up because "maybe she was seeing a psychiatrist" hit too close to home for a later good therapist I had, and he immediately ended the session, escorting me to the door. It was the last session we had, and I didn’t care for another session, although I am sure I could have arranged another one, but just didn’t care to. It was also the last time I saw Angel in person.
11. Jargon as Armor.
It is the air they breathe as professionals. But this is a side issue.
12. Narrative Hegemony - Psychiatry doesn’t fight for truth, it fights for ownership of the story. Whoever owns the story, owns the power.
And here I am after 40 years of diary writing, owning the story. I know the whole thing about power. As a follower, you give power to leaders you trust. When you no longer trust them, you can simply choose to no longer follow them. It is a very simple philosophy. Sarah Knight 8 years ago, in a Ted Talk referred to all of us as having a “f*ck budget” for the sake of things we care about, and thus only so many “f*ck bucks” to spend. You certainly wouldn’t want to waste your f*ck bucks on people and situations that are toxic, cause problems, and have no benefit. Those end up being the people you shouldn’t give a f*ck about.
Because of your stance on psychiatry, I love to share this text with you:
The Most Common Manipulative Tactics in Psychiatry
1. Selective Perception and Narrative Distortion.
(→ Confirmation bias, Selective attention)
They listen only to the parts of your story that confirm their existing model.
Everything that doesn’t fit is omitted or rewritten.
Gradually, your file becomes the record of a stranger, a tool that can be used against your own life story.
2. Triangulation
When you resist, they bring in a third party, a colleague, a so-called peer worker, or even a fabricated “person or team discussion.”
The goal isn’t collaboration, but pressure.
You are surrounded by voices all pushing the same message, take the drug, or take more of it.
3. Denial and Minimization
When someone says a drug is harming them or that therapy made things worse, staff downplay it or blame “the illness.”
The system remains pure, the patient becomes the problem.
4. Cognitive Reframing of Emotion
(→ Reframing, Euphemistic labeling)
When medication dulls a person’s emotions, it’s presented as “recovery.”
Emotional flatness is renamed “stability,” and numbness becomes “balance.”
The less you feel, the healthier you’re told you are.
5. Misattribution
Withdrawal symptoms are labeled as “relapse.”
With a single word, the story flips, suddenly the damage isn’t caused by the drug, but by you, for stopping it.
6. Pathologizing Normal Reactions
If you question something, you’re “resistant.”
If you’re angry, you’re “unstable.”
If you cry, it’s “a sign you need an SSRI.”
Everything human becomes a diagnosis.
7. Reductionism
(→ Reductionism, Biological determinism)
Real-life suffering, grief, trauma, poverty, stress, is flattened into “brain chemistry.”
Once your story is reduced to serotonin and dopamine, your voice disappears and their control grows.
8. Medicalization of Humanity
(→ Medicalization of normal distress)
Ordinary pain, heartbreak, fear, and confusion are turned into disorders.
It’s no longer about understanding you, but about keeping you inside a treatment plan, indefinitely.
9. Deflection and Topic Shifting
(→ Deflection, Distraction)
When medication harms someone, acknowledgment is rare.
Instead, the dose is increased, or the drug is changed.
The focus always shifts away from the damage, back to the illness they themselves labeled you with.
10. Reversal of Blame
(→ Blame shifting)
If someone becomes suicidal after a prescription, it’s explained as “the illness getting worse.”
Never the drug, never the process, always the person.
11. Gaslighting
(→ Gaslighting, Reality manipulation)
You describe what you feel, and they subtly question it until you no longer trust your own body, memory, or perception.
Once they control your sense of reality, they control everything, and, of course, they suggest another drug, often the newest one on the market.
12. DARVO
(→ Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender)
When you confront them with wrongdoing, they deny it, attack your tone, and flip the roles.
Suddenly you are the aggressor, and they are the victim.
The result is predictable, an increased dose, “for your own good.”
13. Intermittent Reinforcement
(→ Intermittent reinforcement, Operant conditioning)
After periods of coldness or deliberate misunderstanding, they suddenly act kind and empathetic.
That brief flash of warmth keeps people hoping, waiting, cooperating.
It’s emotional conditioning disguised as care.
14. Framing Emotion as Risk
(→ Emotional invalidation, Risk framing)
If you cry or get angry, it’s recorded as “agitation” or “risk behavior.”
Authentic emotion isn’t understood, it’s punished.
Anger is especially dangerous, every reaction is weaponized against you.
15. Jargon as Armor
(→ Language obfuscation, Authority through technical jargon)
They hide behind terms like “evidence-based,” “expert,” and “professional.”
The language sounds scientific, but its true purpose is to make meaningful dialogue impossible.
16. Symbolic Dominance
(→ Symbolic authority, Institutional power display)
The white coats, the framed diplomas, the meetings with ten professionals facing one patient, all rituals of hierarchy.
Theatre designed to remind you who owns the narrative.
17. Narrative Hegemony
(→ Control of narrative framing)
Psychiatry doesn’t fight for truth, it fights for ownership of the story.
Whoever owns the story, owns the power.
Thanks for helping me when the ones who could have just held me down. I’m sober from weed for a month and have been off my meds for a month and feeling these emotions have been the hardest thing I’ve ever went through. My ex doesn’t get it cause he is too afraid to feel him emotions which is why he’s my ex. But if one can get off meds and drugs that is the most profound thing anyone can do. When I want to kill my self you make me feel alive again so thank you. We need more people like you in the world so thanks
Dear Daniel,
today I saw your wonderful video "Why I quit being a therapist", https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0Fi32LbXHA. I can subscribe really most of it and I keep on recommending your films and works. I just adore your film "Take these broken wings" and I think it should be shown in the psychoanalytical trainings. 🙂 Best wishes for you and your work - and your life of couse 🙂 Dunja
Hi Daniel, I really appreciate your videos. Have watched many of them. I'm curious, you speak a lot about the lingering impacts of early childhood trauma. I wonder if you might make a video in the future about how adult siblings negotiate their relationships the context of each having experienced unstable and unhealthy household dynamics set by the parents in early childhood. In what ways is it possible, or desirable, for such siblings in adulthood to talk openly about the matter? Can they help each other? How might it be difficult? What might be good approaches to broaching the subject with an older sibling with whom there is some friction and the conversation doesn't come easily? Thanks for your thought provoking, hard work.
Dear Daniel,
thank you very much for all your videos on youtube. I'm watching them, thinking, feeling... You are opening a lot of new questions in my head and in my heart, a lot of insights, a lot of aha moments. Today, after watching one of your videos I felt so easy, so light, so soft...that video gave me something that I really needed all these years (I'm 34 now). A true validation, the explanation, a HOPE that it can become better. I love how honest, smart and precise you are when explaining emotions, traumas, etc. I'm a psychologist, master student, and still learning. Thank you once again, and wish you all the happiness! I'm sending you a big hug!
* Should masturbation be done when the body feels it?
Is trying to not do it repressing and more harmful than good?
*Should people with trauma do silent meditation retreats?
I grew up with divorced parents. I distinctly remember the pain every time I had to go to my dads house. Everything in me said dont't go.
Thank you Daniel!
hi daniel. i have a suggestion: why dont you make new yt videos on old topics you covered before so more people can find you? and could you please make a video on what you can do instead of admitting yourself to the psych ward? i checked all 12 years of your channel and you didnt cover that. thanks for being such an amazing being!
matteo
Hello,Daniel.Thank you very very much for the documentary you made about schizophrenia Could you share with me the phone number or emial of this Finnish hospital that does not treat mental illness with medication?Thank you
Hi Daniel!
I really enjoyed your book about Traveling to China! You mentioned about writing 3 unpublished Travelogues in your other book (''Breaking from your parents'') and I wonder if you ever feel like publishing the 3rd one 🙂
Hello Daniel. I watched your documentary, "Take These Broken Wings." The interviews and the information were superb. I found out about your work from Russell Stence, who was featured in an article he wrote for Mad In America. I am working on a documentary on the crisis affecting children's mental health and would like to know if you might be interested in being interviewed or having any other involvement with this project. Please contact me if you want more information. Thank you.
Dear Daniel.
I;m sorry for my english.
Feel grateful that I Found you.
I;m 36 years old and don;t know how to go on. I Was in the System for 15 years and it was so harmful. Took so many medicine and had to coldtaper the neurolepticum last year i took for 15 years, had a bad reaction after that long time and i;m paradoxically with my parents since them, because theres no place to go anymore.
I became worse Under the medicine and so bitter and Toxic, nothing could heal in this time, it was burried.
I loose trust in everyone and feel like the bitterness and the anxiety makes people avoid me, also professionals.
Try to Move on because i still live after the Procedure.
Wished so badly for my younger self i had a therapeut like you.
Thank you for your beeing.
Laura
Hi Daniel I'm really glad that ı found your chanel ıt made me look deeper to myself and made me understand my anger. I'm only 19 now and ı heard how you get out of your sitation which gave me hope. I hope you have amazing day thank you.
I wonder if you would consider doing a video on how harmful it is to spread the lie that children chose their own parents before birth. I have heard this from many quarters and after working with the damage caused by parents whose abuse of children is beyond horrific I think spreading this lie should be illegal. No one would dare tell a parent they chose to be mugged or raped. I don't understand how anyone can tolerate this nonsense.
If not, maybe I'll do my own video.
Thanks
Hello Daniel. I was wondering if you could share your thoughts on “sitting quietly in the company of another”. Many thanks
Hello sir! I wrote back to you about feeling suicidal a while ago and you recommended some of your videos. I just watched them. I was feeling really overwhelmed today and felt like I can't take it anymore but your video Helping Suicidal People in Psychotherapy helped me feel better. I got a tiny, tiny spark of hope and motivation. Tiny but significant. Tiny and rare. And for that, I am extremely thankful. I hope to become a therapist like you someday. Thank you so much for everything! Beyond grateful.
Working in the social work and therapy fields have caused me to experience a lot of burnout and vicarious trauma that has impacted my competency and ability to carry out the work effectively and ethically. The worst part of this impact is feeling so alienated, particularly the inability to discuss these struggles openly and honestly in professional spaces. Your videos offer such clarity and insight on these issues which has brought me great comfort and understanding. Along with this, your helpful wisdom on so many prevalent topics are brave in their honesty and express a deep knowing and care. These things are rare to come across in this life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Hey Daniel. I am writing you from my hotel room in Tunisia. I wanted to tell you a little anecdote that happened to me earlier today, as I arrived with the ferry from Palermo to the port ofTunis. There was an older man that approached me on the way out of the ferry. Turns out his name is Daniel, an American from Chicago, 74 years old, traveling the world. I couldn’t help but think of you (not because of the age 😆), because it was you and your videos that sparked the fire in me to start travel more again, something I was not able to do in the last few years, even though it is so dear to my heart. This Daniel I met on the boat ended up paying for our taxi ride to the Tunis city center, as I had no money on me. It was a truly magical encounter that felt like a sign. I want to thank you for your work and your perspective on life. Maybe we will meet one day while traveling. Love, Marco.
Daniel,
If you ever visit Washington, DC please meet me at the Old Ebbitt Grill (near the White House) for a drink. I feel the need to explain to you just how much I agree with your general philosophy on life, and how much your YouTube channel has benefitted me.
- Kathleen (an artist currently living too frugal a life to afford visiting YOU in Manhattan)
Daniel wow. I am inspired. Your Chanel has given me the strength to start my own on YouTube. Just watched your video on stockholm. Posting is indeed terrifying.
I just finished my PsyD but I decided to not pursue licensure for many of the reasons you left being a therapist (thank you for that video).
After graduating this past August I finally grew the strength to leave some really problematic dynamics at home and in my community of origin. I blocked my mom and have been physically free for 7 months. I'm still pulling off the emotional chains layer by layer.
I have a running theory around not just enmeshed families but "enmeshed communities" that I have been playing with. I come from a problematic insular community of nearly 100,000 people. Check out my page if your interested in learning more. I imagine we'd have a lot to discuss.
Anyway deep deep gratitude. Thank you for your courage and for helping to inspire me. I appreciate that you exist.
Your most recent video on sex positivity spoke to me. I agree with you, I was taught to protect myself, to acquire consent and all that good stuff and I had agreed… and especially recently I was very honest and communicative about what I struggle with to my partners… yet I just allowed other traumatized adults to re-traumatize me… and perhaps I also hurt others as well. I had no idea I was readily handing other people, effectively strangers, they key to my undoing. I hadn’t realized I was ‘acting out’ my trauma in a sexual manner at all… I was in pursuit of love and affection—what my childhood lacked. My first instinct is to say I didn’t understand so much, about my own trauma and the world… I want to know what true healing is now, and for certain I won’t find my healing in another person. I’ve lost all desire towards sexual relationships and people in general—that may change with therapy… However again this video is very timely… I will looking at sexuality and the sex positive space VERY differently, as now I understand the severity of my own trauma and the trauma of others… Thank you for your work. Cheers!
Hi Daniel.
I want to give you a note of my appreciation, a question, as well as a humble request.
You channel completely changed my life. I came to a video of yours - the analysis of the novel "Siddhartha". This got me intrigued. When I first began watching your videos I was an 18 year old studying in a foreign country having experienced sexual abuse from a partner, and having failed a year at university. You gave me the courage to speak up for myself, break away from my parents, confront them, keep believing in my truth, and finally decide not to have children. I especially love your "The Baby's Manifesto". Since then, you, and a another channel online by Heidi Priebe, gave me the tools and the vocabulary to have a dialogue with myself. And for this I am ever so grateful that words cannot capture it. What I love about you is your courage to be honest.
On to my question. I am curious about your thoughts on Carl Jung. I know you do not believe in dream analysis based off of a generic guidebook of symbolism. But your concept of "breaking away from the parents" seems to align to his concept of the "hero(ine)s journey". But more generally, I wonder if you believe in a common consciousness. Forgive me if you have covered this elsewhere. I am very curious about your thoughts.
As for my request, something that keeping arriving in my life cyclically is a period of procrastination. From what I know, there is no antidote other than facing the fear of the task head-on and trying to understand what is it that I am so afraid of with this particular task. Although things have gotten better over the last few years, somedays I still find myself so paralyzed and unable to leave my bed. I wonder if you would consider making a video on procrastination?
Thank you and my best to you on your healing journey,
Gayatri
Hi, Daniel. I just want to say, that you are inspiring to me. Your thoughts about being OK with not having children completely changed my world. Well, at the same time I feel a lot of anger towards my parents…
It is me who should take care of myself.
I found your videos a year ago, but then stopped watching (don’t know why). Now I enjoy watching your videos, even though sometimes I can’t accept some scary facts about life…
Thank you for your videos. I appreciate your openness and truthfulness.
Sometimes I think that it would be great to have such a friend as you are!
Best regards,
Ana
Hi Daniel. Your videos remind me that I'm not alone. Healing and finding my way back to myself has been one of the most painful things I've ever had to do, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. I have made amazing progress over the last year after experiencing a rough phase stemming from unresolved trauma. As soon as I decided to open the door to years of repressed emotions, my anxiety was so high that it caused me to lose sleep for days and go into psychosis. It was like everything was flooding out as soon as I surrendered to all my coping mechanisms/addictions. I was hospitalized, and It was horrifying, but it was also one of the best things that happened to me because it forced me to look within. Now, I choose to approach my pain from a place of compassion. I'd like to share that I'm finally graduating this spring and also continuing my education for the career I always wanted but was too scared/insecure to chase. I was reflecting on my past and where I want to be, and I wanted to share this and say thank you for staying real.
P.S. One of my favorite quotes is - "The only way out is in."
Cheers.
Hello mister Mackler,
I want to deeply thank you. One of your YouTube videos has been the reason I have finally been able to move over childhood trauma. Two things you have said in particular has helped me greatly. 1) Acknowledgement of trauma. I've been bullied every day by my eldest brother in a pretty relentless way for the first 10 years of my life. I wanted to kill myself when I was 8 years old. Everyone was always telling me that this is normal. That I should stop acting like a victim. Older brothers bully their younger brothers. I told my mother I probably need to see a psychologist but she told me, nah, you're fine. The first time I felt someone acknowledged my trauma, in my entire life, was when I heard you say in a video that most people are traumatised and don't even know it, because trauma is normalised. When I heard this I cried everyday for a week straight, at the ripe age of 33 years old. Something finally clicked. I'm not crazy, everyone else is. I've become increasingly happier ever since. I've FINALLY been able to move past old trauma thanks to your video. So thank you.
2) The second thing you've said that really helped me during this period, was that dealing with childhood trauma is like a grieving process. This is the first time I've ever heard this and I was amazed at how accurate this statement felt. It did felt like grieving. I was grieving all the years of pain I went through. I was grieving that I lost part of my childhood. And in this process of grieving I've finally been able to reach a point of mental stability I didn't think could be possible for me. So thanks again! Keep up the good work.
Hey, i just came across one of ur video on self pity. the way of looking at life this way is really radical but it seems to make sense. though even thought of criticising ppl who had a tough time in life seems callous but may be this is the only way to break free from this pattern of helplessness. thanks for sharing 🙂
Hi Daniel. Your talks are greatly appreciated.
I discovered your channel about three years ago and began watching you again recently. I think your perspective is refreshing, and you come across as quite authentic.
When you talk about your travels it’s really quite inspiring - as someone who struggles with low confidence and a lot of discontent, I too want to take up an adventure. I suppose I want to ask: what instigated your want to travel? Was it difficult to muster the willpower to escape for the first time? Was there a specific moment in which you felt free?
I also want to say that I really admire the fact that despite having been through hardships you retain a positive attitude. I find it’s so easy to become bitter and arrogant, so much so that we can lose parts of ourselves. And to who’s benefit? It costs nothing to be kind yet it costs us everything to be hateful. (That’s my spur of the moment sentiment, lol).
I will say also that you’ve helped me reconnect with the parts of myself I have lost or had forgotten about. I have been journaling a decent amount - just making accounts of my dreams, my thoughts and feelings towards the people I meet, reflections on my childhood and so on. I doing so I am beginning to see my true self again - hardly without obstacles along the way!
Anyhow, thanks for doing what you do - a lot of us really appreciate your videos and I wanted to share that with you.
Yours sincerely
-a random 22 year old from England