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Hi Daniel: I found your videos a couple of years ago when I was at a very down point in my career as a therapist. I was disillusioned with what I had been taught in school and thought that the training I had received had been next to useless. I went online to find out if any other therapist felt the same. I was so happy to find you saying the same things and explaining why it was so bad. I think that these were things that I could not articulate for myself and you did such an incredible job of it. I continue to watch your videos. I am hoping that you have something to say about Alzheimer's and Dementia. My mother is going through what my sisters say is Dementia and that I believe is her just not wanting to remember things from the past because they are so painful. She often says this. Can you enlighten us on this topic? Thanks so much---Debra
Hi Daniel, I would like to share with you and your readers my psychiatry experiences. I'm trying to get my story out to the public in order to get justice and end coercive psychiatry which is a big challenge. https://www.psychiatrie-opfer.de/english-section/the-story-of-my-psychiatric-abuse/
I'm NOT one who is still / probably will NEVER be@ease with The 1 on 1 .... Typical Therapy Modalities on Offer to date. Strange coming from a rather Extrovert Type .... Perhaps my Hidden Introvert has finally FOUND HER FAMILY + FORUM ☆☆☆☆☆ FINALLY time 2 SHINE ☆☆☆☆☆ THANKYOU DANIEL .... A STAR in my DARKNESS
Hello Daniel. I am from the U.K. I listen to at least one of your YouTube videos every night before I go to sleep. My life is so very similar to yours, childhood trauma to an extreme. Please continue to publish your work as it is helping me enormously. Thank you
Daniel - You are a gifted storyteller. This a rare and wonderful quality; it's part of an ancient, and even sacred, tradition. And it truly is a gift. Thank you for sharing your gift. Listening to your videos is like sitting around a campfire...hearing a story...one that may seem ordinary, but in truth, is one that contains great truths and lasting meaning. It's almost like being in the ancient world, maybe even a prehistoric tribe - for just a few moments - when storytelling was how history and wisdom were passed along - like greek myths or bible stories - and shared freely -around a campfire - when only thing needed was desire to learn, and an open heart. Thank you for sharing your stories, maria
Daniel, What you offer is so unique. You don't just spit out information - endless mouthfuls of meaningless words and complicated concepts. You are different. You're like a guide on the road of self exploration and self healing. You talk about a lot of things and your reactions to them. But you emphsize the importance of exploring and exhuming our own distant past, and how it affects our reactions to present-day life. You explain how cultivating our own self awareness and self reflection is the pathway to healing. Isn't this what self therapy all about? Your videos are the exact opposite of what is dished out (and almost goose-fed) by most therapists (of all persuasions) who worship at the alter of diagnoses and dissociation. Self awareness and self reflection - two words that are bandied about so much they've all but lost their meaning. But you don't lead people to a place of self absorption, self pity, or self loathing - You don't just say a word, you explain it - through your own experience - by giving your own living, breathing examples of what it is, what it means, what to do with it, and how to get there. Thank you, Daniel. Thank you for taking the time, and having the courage to speak not just from your mind, but from your heart. Just by speaking human to human, by revealing some of your own personal experiences (and your thoughts, feelings and perceptions about these experiences) - you let yourself become relatable, which is invaluable, because then, people can identify with you, and from there, identify with themselves. It's how I learned to be self aware, and from there, how to be self reflective. It's like a journey. Thank you for letting people join you on part of your journey.
Dear Daniel, I just wanted to say thank you once again, because the Ionger I hear your videos, the more I learn - and the more I heal. Thank you for letting everyone know - in a kind, respectful, and easy to understand way - that childhood emotional abuse/trauma/neglect - while ancient - is ever-present, and all encompassing, and that it's ultimately the root of all human discord.
Hi Daniel. I just wanted to say hello and thank you for sharing your knowledge and unique perspective on youtube. Thank you for your work! Sending hugs, brother.
Daniel... Thank you for your wonderful insights. I would like to share with you some of the discoveries that I made into the programming we all experience. I did an interview two years ago where I describe the discoveries that I made which dramatically changed my life for the better. We are all Pavlovian creatures. https://youtu.be/-a-bmB9stCo
Hi - I'm doing a whistleblower series on Open dialogue. Just got the first part uploaded: https://youtu.be/d4AeD34ixJo Greetings from Finland.
Wow l just came across your Youtube Video on why you quit being a therapist. Ive recently quit being a counsellor because l have Vicarious Trauma and l just cannot stand listening to people talking about their problems. After 2 years of unemployment l am focusing on writing and podcasting. Thank you for your candid evaluation and analysis of the mental health industry.
Everything Daniel says is on point and has helped me heal. I am forever grateful to Daniel Mackler. I wish to talk to him one day in person and just have a conversation. I really admire him.
Hello Daniel, I so appreciate your videos because you have walked the path yourself and are so grounded in your approach. Can I pose a question about the unmet need of receiving care. How do we meet this need ourselves, fill that hole, when the experience involves another. My parents always lectured me about how hard life was goung to be, but never demonstrated how tender it cpuld be. So I grew up hard, and independant declining offers of help and offers of praise. How do you heal that thrpugh a relationship with yourself? Or does it require interaction with others. Thanks
I identify with you and love your videos. My mother is a covert narc and I'm the middle child- scapegoat. The grieving and depression have been all I've ever known. I'm working through it and recognize my trauma, and can pull away from it, unlike my sisters, which I am grateful for. One question. You speak as though you believe that *everyone* is traumatized in their childhood. Do you really believe that?
Daniel, you rock. Thank you for your real logic and honesty.
Daniel, I just happened upon one of your videos cruising YouTube. One. Next thing I know two hours have passed. Lol I don’t have the words. Which is strange for me as a maniacal writer, and overall chatterbox. You have changed my life in a span of two hours. Thank you. From the bottom of my troubled lil heart. xx ~Christy
I am dealing with depression from 2008 and till now its there affecting my life. I am on medication. Not able to find a good therapist
Hi Daniel, I sincerely feel that you have hit the root of all chronic mental illness in humans i.e the flawed family system. I have looked at many therapeutic approaches last many years including cognitive, behavorial, neurolistic, energy healing etc. Most have their advantages and limitations. However your work is unique as you expose the cause of the illness. It only makes complete sense that any problem can be tackled in completeness only from the cause. However how to cure an issue that is denied and taboo in the society. We live in a time of democracy and looking at how issues have been tackled through last decades is using the force of numbers. For example in todays world women rights exist because there has been a strong lobbying from segments in the society for women rights. This was not possible possibly 100 years back. The same example can be extrapolated to many other scenarios as slavery or same sex marriages. I think society will only approve of our concern when our lobbying is strong. Parents have the privilege to be automatically given the label of "holier than cow" and "above judgement". This paradigm surely needs change in today's world. The laws of the democratic society need to accommodate the vulnerabilities of the abused child. The society needs to to be more approving of such children etc. In this perspective I wish to ask you why not start a forum wherein like minded people who have similar views can come together and discuss their experiences. It will be a starting point of such a lobby !!! bye for now Shaun
Hi Daniel, Thank you for putting so much time into helping people. I found your YouTube videos years ago by chance and never heard someone speak as authentically as you. You have helped me a lot. I know you probably get questions all the time, so don’t feel you need to answer but I’m asking if you can give me your opinion. I respect your thoughts over friends, family and doctors. I’ve been engaging in self-therapy since I found your videos about five years ago. I realized that although I’m more self-aware through self-therapy and I’m much more morally conscious and less hurtful to people, I am not any happier myself. I’ve realized after going through years of journal entries that they haven’t changed much. The basic message in them all is I don’t like living. I’ve been to many therapists and it has always seemed superficial and like the therapists weren’t truly touching my inner wounds. After realizing I’m not getting better after years of working on myself, I once again sought out the help of a therapist. I trusted the skill of this therapist because he saw my brother for many years and my brother shares similar thoughts as you and I. He has broken away from family for the most part except for speaking with me. This therapist did not see me at the same time as my brother as he said it was a conflict of interest. This has been many years ago and he is now seeing me. Since seeing him, I feel as if he is touching my inner wounds and it has honestly felt like crap. He has just begun some EMDR therapy with me, and I feel like each session I’m more depressed than I was before. Is this a good or bad sign? He hasn’t done anything to make me question his competency, except that he’s making me feel horrible as we dig deep into my traumas. Is there reason for making myself feel worse and a light at the end of the tunnel or is this putting myself through torture for no reason? Also, what are your thoughts on EMDR? Thank you again for all you do for people. It’s appreciated more than you probably realize.
I completely agree with your ideas about grieving well being the key to recovery or what Martin Prechtel would call re-membering from trauma; literally taking apart shaking things up and putting it all back together as a new person having fully metabolized the grief. We have mostly lost the grieving process and truthfully, we hsve lost pur ability to really powerfully praise and acknowledge thise important to us especially our children and loved ones. As Martin’s Tzutujil Mayan people of Santiago Atitilan Guatemala say “grief and praise sleep together in the same bed.” His powerful talk about Grief and Praise can be heard on the internet and he hoes even more deeply into it in his beautiful book “The Smell of rain on dust: Grief and Praise.”
Thank you for inspiring me to trust my own intuition when it comes to life's path and healing. I have been in and out of therapy and using medication since I was 14 despite my intuition telling me it is not the best path for me. Seeing your videos gives me comfort in knowing I can trust myself and that I am on the right path. I thank you sincerely.
I'm writing a book. It's my only option to deal with the topic of your YouTube video, “Sexual Abuse of Sons by Mothers” as I've found no other way to resolve it in my life. Both my biological mother continues with her version of inappropriateness and blames both me and my ‘inner child’ for it, and my stepmom simply hates boys. She grew up with only sisters. Kids can be taught hate, that much we can all agree on. However, I can't imagine how her childhood went wrong. I believe it was her mother who was abusive, as I've known both parents when they were alive and witnessed very angry and aggressive abuse mother to father - who was one of the nicest and kindest men I've ever known. He had no hate in his soul. With my biological mother, her mother was extremely abusive. So, in my case, I believe both moms had abusive mothers, and they really have their own unreconciled issues for which I've taken my experiences to the level of psychiatric help and my psychiatrist broke down and cried. Alas, I found another dead end in coping with my issues. I'm 53. I have a couple close friends that have both told me, they can see how my life suffers from abuse, and they don't know how to help but be supportive in my efforts to overcome it. I'm writing a book. "Breaking the Cycle". This video helps validate there is actually a problem. Not a surprise to me at all, but sometimes in life validation is key to starting the healing process. Yes, there is a problem, proceed to the next step. In my book, I've also covered that this absolutely is a taboo subject. Of all the jaw-dropping reality TV talk shows I've seen in my time; nobody dare touch this. Ratings would drop off the edge because we as a society can't accept or even conceive of this to be a real issue. I once asked a random person what they thought about all this, relative to my writing - and they said this to sum up how they felt I should manage my relationship with my mom, who lives 1700 miles away: "Well, it's your mom, so you have to go (visit her)". Mothers have exactly what you are saying, a sacred - even holy - immunity. That is exactly how the abuse happens in the first place. Mothers have a LOT of power. Nobody questions it. In my case and from horrific abuse I've witnessed - any thorough questions would have resulted in incarceration. It was that bad. I don't want to ever talk about it because it would resurrect pain for my siblings that is greater than we can bear. But no one asked a single question with severe brutal injuries and in conditions of filth worse than most can even imagine. If it's the only scenario that ever happened in human history, I for one saw it firsthand at the age of 7. No matter what logic tells me, I feel so guilty I did not stop it. I could have been murdered for interfering but if I could go back, I would take that chance without hesitation. End this nightmare and what I saw my brother go thru? How about this is how I feel.... GIVE ME LIBERTY OR GIVE ME DEATH. So yeah, it's a real issue in my life. Try the story of my life. So far, the effects have yet to cease, and hard as I try to be "normal", it resurrects itself in many unexpected ways because nobody knows what happens next - because we simply don't talk about this. So, I'm writing a book.
Dear Daniel, By accident I ve seen the video about the reasons that you have quit psychotherapy! I wanted to say that I appreciated a lot all this truth bomb and I respect you for being such a great and intelligent human!I couldn't comment to the video so I found your linked website just express this. I thank you so much, finally someone from the psychic field says the things as they really are! After a long period of research about psychology and the human behaviours to solve my personal issues and traumas I realised that I got into the trap of believing that I'm sick. I ve been diagnosed with personality disorder -disorder of feeling-bipolar and I saw people stigmatizing me for that especially close people.So with my research I found out that all these personality disorders that the doctors are diagnosing not only are stigmatizing innerly and outerly the people, but they are not solving their complexity of traumas.Because this is the truth everyone is carrying all along a complexity of traumas and they find it really difficult to roll through this life! So thank you for saying the truth out there,you are a real human,a real giver,a real healer,courage to your path I wish as an empathetic person and take care of yourself! Lots of friendly regards Vaia
Hi Daniel! First I would like to thank you immensely for your material on self therapy it has helped me to discover a painful truth about my past. I was sexually abused as a child by my father. Now that one is aware of ones trauma and can try to choose different actions aren't this actions also a reaction to the past?I feel like when I was unaware I was acting out past experiences on an autopilot now that I'm aware I still in a sense am controlled by the past experiences. So do you even have a free choice?If I am aware that I self abuse or reenact because I was abused than if choosing not to abuse also is a programming due to the past?Or is this a form of self sabotage? Hope it makes since it is really hard for me to put it in words. All the best!Love and healing from Sweden.
Hi Daniel. I couldn't have stumbled upon your YouTube channel and website at a more perfect time in my life. You are so inspiring and original it is refreshing to see. Thank you for your brutal honesty and for telling it like it is. I have suffered from anxiety/panic for years and have had terrible experiences with "the system." You made me realize that I do not have to hire a therapist and that I am capable of doing the introspective work myself. I just had a terrible experience yesterday meeting a new therapist who tried shove meds at me and essentially fired me for not agreeing to take them. You are truly an inspiration. I am in awe that someone could have such a positive experience on me overnight. Thank you!!
I am new to this site and to your methods of healing. I have dealt with depression all my many years . Now , at 85, after many forms of counseling and therapy, I have found that works best for me is the practice of stepping out of my suppositions and usually corrosive thought processes and seeking another reality than the one that causes me to be despondent and suicidal. There is a reality beyond the one we create for ourselves that strives to justify depression and binds one to the constant task of "licking the wounds" . I realize that is a work that is always in progress and that I must revisit the methods that keep me somewhat "sane" I will try to attend some of your talks in Cincinnati , though the movie on certain drugs does not interest me as I have liberated myself from all and any medication for depression and have never had to deal with psychotic problems.
Dear Daniel, thank you for your answer in 2016 when I was also reading you (It was about gender issues in connection with your thought of celibacy). I am from Budapest, Hungary. Thank you for your posts, I find them helpful. I am just starting jurnaling with the help of your instructions. If you have time could you please let me know that is psychography a form of dissociation as well? Thank you for your answer in advance! Emese
Hi Daniel, I follow you regularly on youTube, and I have seen a couple of your films. I have been attempting (for the past decade) to advocate for healing options that do not involve coercion, humiliation, or use of medication to "control" another person. Thank you for your inspiring work -- which I also find to be an accurate presentation of what often occurs in our mental health system (at least in the U.S.). I am currently licensed as a mental health counselor, but I am far from satisfied with the general direction of "mental health" (whatever that really means??) treatment. I would love to have a conversation with you some time about some work that I am doing in Utah. Thanks again!
I'm a huge fan of you! Your bullshit song is ingenious, I've just been listening to it over and over again.
I just watched Open Dialogues and Healing Homes. USA life seems so fake now. Authenticity, common sense and humanness is out of the window. Your work is transcendent Daniel. Thank you.