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Barbara Barbara wrote on May 19, 2023 at 9:50 pm
Hi Daniel, I just watched your video of why you stopped being a therapist. Everything you say is really spot on, you know the system, the entire trauma process, and yourself extremely well. I commented before, but I didn't see it posted. I just came back to say YOU ARE AMAZING! God planned everything you went through to help so many people by you. I am so glad God gifted you with the power of empathy, compassion, knowledge, understanding, and LOVE. Please don't change (except for in the good sense). Everything I hear you say comes so REFRESHING to me as VALIDATION of my entire life. You need to make a movie about your life! LOL. Your fans love you a TON! From someone who also underwent Narcissist abuse (trauma bond) by a covert Narcissist. I struggle to make friends or emotionally bond with others intimately, due to trust, insecurity, lack of awareness of what is appropriate, right, healthy, or why. I was gaslit to never trust or believe what I think, feel, hear, OR see. It's been a long recovery journey, with just God and me. Ever heard of Reformed theology? It answered ALL OF MY QUESTIONS concerning God with respect to evil in the world (issue of theodicy: "where was God in all of this?").
Thomas Saluto Thomas Saluto from Pasadena wrote on May 10, 2023 at 10:38 pm
Hi Daneil, I've been watching a lot of your videos and started reading some of your essays .... Thank you so much for your generosity of the giving of your self through your work... Wow man... I am really glad that came around via my circuitous personal journey to recognize your presence ... I really appreciate what you have to say and can relate to a whole lot of it... Anyway, I just feel a need to cut it short for now and not make this about me, and just reiterate how much I appreciate what you are doing for all of us here who watch and listen to you.... Kudos to you Daniel, I am so glad that I recognized you at this time in my journey...
Mariah Mariah from Fullerton wrote on May 8, 2023 at 12:52 pm
Hi Danial! So last Friday I was talking to a social worker thinking she would help me and she basically told me I can’t work and that I should basically give up at least that’s how it seemed…can you make a video on how to handle toxic mental health providers? This just sickens me how someone could look me in the eyes and say this. Also before that I reached out to a mental health clinic and it’s been 5 days and I still have not heard anything. Sick! And they wonder why people aren’t getting the help they need and have to turn to themselves. This is rediculous at this point.
diana x. muniz diana x. muniz from Houston wrote on May 4, 2023 at 10:29 am
I was on a self guided retreat in the country looking at therapy videos to educate myself better on being a better pastoral counselor (am a hospice chaplain) and was just left reeling from my last patient who was being brutally terrorized by her narcissistic mother and now dementia patient...she shared that her dementia had been traumatic...the extent of the trauma bond and her dependence on saving mommy were scarier..then you popped up (I forgot the search word) and I have cried for hours and binged watched your vids. (I have never binged a you tube channel) for personal and professional reasons too...all I can say is ? thanks thanks thanks, you helped me welcome my soul back and grounded me after a long season. Many blessings on your life, may your platform and voice resonate and call many out of their gloom and doom.
Lainey aka Indiana SuperTramp Lainey aka Indiana SuperTramp from Taylorsville Ut wrote on May 3, 2023 at 5:29 am
Hello All!!!! First, this is a brilliant idea Daniel to have this be a part of your website. Not only do we have hours of content on youtube and this website from you as a resource but again through all you’ve done we have a connection to each other. With this entry, I need to take a second to vent but first a little background, so, please bear with me. Thank you. I started this journey of course at day one; when my mother was created by her mother and the egg that was to make me was made. I have always (as most humans) been a highly inquisitive person. As a child, I became eerily comfortable with being by myself. I would spend hours outside, in my room reading or staying up extremely late knowing school would follow in the morning. It wasn’t ever more than verbal assault, thank goodness. However, living day in and day out in utter chaos took its toll on me as a young human. Not only were my parents terrible in their own way, they were also extremely attached to the lds religion (or cult). So, during the week, I struggled in school, struggled to stay safe at home, and was reinforced every Sunday at church that my family was perfect and would be together forever in eternity. That last concept really fucked me up (pardon the language, it’s the only word I can think of). My family will live together in the afterlife no matter what. I recently watched your video and others about the concept of psychosis. When I experience those moments of psychosis, of course the idea that comes to mind is to run away. The rant mainly consists of this: My mother and father do not want to know who I am. Not just from the family system trauma but also the religious trauma. My brain goes off in crisis and I never know how to deal with my current issues of daily life. I feel so alone. I do live with my mother and she tries, at least I think she does. Either way, with all that I’ve learned and pieced together, it so hard to have those conversations not just with her, everyone, even therapist (but who knows if they’re even good). I feel lost, I guess. It’s hard. Even harder to be positive and say good things will come. Could they actually come?
Marla Barak Sanders Marla Barak Sanders from New York wrote on April 17, 2023 at 11:12 am
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Brandon Nankivell Brandon Nankivell from Adelaide wrote on April 11, 2023 at 3:20 am
Absolute gold mine. Daniel, you've been a blessing for making the film about coming off medication. I believe my brother can cure bipolar naturally. Its inspired me. Secondly, you are so on point with your critique on psychotherapy. Seeing the brokenness of the medical system growing up + Osho's influence ('psychologists don't know themselves') + meeting an Indian Guru like Ram Dass did, has lead me to similar views on psychotherapy. It is time for a renaissance! I'm 27 and now feel the strong calling to become a psychotherapist but aiming to do so without all the red tape and acadix brainwashing. Big influence also has been Jiddu Krishnamurti, one of the rare ones who I feel has actually figured it out. Keep up the great work.
Laura Gottfried Laura Gottfried from Cedar Falls wrote on April 5, 2023 at 5:25 pm
Dear Daniel, Thank you gentle soul for journeying this world and making it a kinder and more sensible place. If I only ever get to say one thing to you, let it be thank you for laying down so much of the path for others to walk. Why reinvent the wheel? I just watch your videos and learn and build upon a great foundation. If I only ever get to ask you one question: How did you find the courage to travel the world just you and your guitar? It seems like a scary thing to do!!! And if I get to ask you two, would you prepare any differently if you were a woman vs being a man? Thank you Daniel! PS. Not everyone who has children is stupid. Some are just unlucky. I was raped into motherhood recently and I had the choice to kill it or keep it. I didn't wanna kill him. He is beautiful 🙂 I am a good momma because I learn my best, am doing better than my parents did, and I know how to say I'm sorry when I'm wrong, AND I'm willing to discuss that I MAY be wrong sometimes. Some kids will be raised by pretty decent parents 🙂 This world is full of everything both good and bad, but one thing is for certain~we learn while we are here. I liked the lyrics in your one song that go... well, I am not good at verbatim because I remember the jist of things, but the lyrics were something to the effect of how it hurts down here but what is a life without anything bad ever happening in it? How could anyone grow much then? The bad stuff gives us something to build character with. Patience, gentleness, kindness... all that. So, yeah! Loved that song! I wrote one song once from start to finish and I even copywrote it for safe-keeping. It is also folk-y sounding. I agree, this music takes me home and puts me at peace. I like Celtic too! Hey God Bless you, Daniel! Daniel Tender-Heart. That should be your nick name 🙂
Mariah Mariah from Fullerton wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:48 am
Hi Danial, are you able to talk about Aiden Hale and what you think what happened in a YouTube video? I would love to know your thoughts on this. Thoughts on school shootings in general? Would love to hear your thoughts and I hope you see this message!
Ron Ron from Chicago wrote on March 15, 2023 at 1:38 pm
Hi - I saw your video on mother and sons and sexual abuse. I was raped and molested by an older women starting when I was 11 until I was 15. She was a friend of the family, esp my mother. I confessed to my mother this past weekend about it, and she was horrified, saying, "I trusted that woman! I believed everything she said." I can't get into it here, but I really need help - you seem to understand and it's hard bc no one REALLY gets how painful this is - how can I get help? Scary thing - it's been 47 years and I never told anyone.
Diane McAllister Diane McAllister from Northville wrote on February 15, 2023 at 10:35 am
Every few years I revisit my childhood trauma because of difficult Life triggers and the subsequent pain of my reactions. I found your channel a while back when researching the “borderline” features my family has been labeled with. I found you again this week along with trafficking survivor, Anneka Lucas. You’re on my Spotify play list now. I wish we could get you in the public school system to talk to kids about sexual abuse if that could ever be permitted. I’d also love to see a video on your perspective of 12 step programs, particularly Adult Children of Alcoholics, of which I’ve been in and out of for years with mixed feelings. Thank you for sharing your gifts
Regina Regina from Stade wrote on February 1, 2023 at 9:36 am
Hi Daniel. My friend posted a sheet with little every-day-challenges for February. The one of today is to write one person how much they mean to you. I definitely only know you from your content online, but throughout the past 5 years you have helped me so much with that. Especially becoming aware on how important the process of grieving and building the relationship to myself is for my healing journey. And reading that challenge question … I asked myself: who’s my safe space? And it’s your videos. I feel safe with your content and and want to express to you how much it means to me and how grateful I am for the work you are doing and sharing your path. Best regards, Regina
Emmanuella Contopoulou Emmanuella Contopoulou from London wrote on January 27, 2023 at 3:10 pm
Hi Daniel. I just saw the following joint interview of Gabor Mate and Daniel Mate (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YHO0Fs0I9oc) and I could not stop thinking of all your youtube videos. I was wondering if you have seen it and if you would like to make any comments. You have made me question Alice Miller and now there is another Guru of childhood trauma that I admire, but something seems to happen when the guru is challenged by its own child... It would be really nice if you could reply.
Forest Forest wrote on January 3, 2023 at 6:43 am
Hello friend. I am also on Olanzapine. I found your songs on youtube and really enjoy them.
Elaine Beitelspacher Elaine Beitelspacher from Moorhead wrote on December 27, 2022 at 6:24 pm
I wish I could adequately express how much I appreciate your videos. They have been tremendously helpful and comforting to me. I can resonate with so much of what you have to say. You are a light in the darkness. Thank you for being you.
Hunter Hunter wrote on December 22, 2022 at 8:04 pm
I just finished watching your youtube video on the six reasons you quit therapy, and I wanted to give my gratitude. I've probably seen over 15 - 20 different therapists throughout my young adult life, and what you said in that video really validated most of the things that I found frustrating, if not sometimes infuriating about therapists in general. So it was nice to hear someone basically tell me that I'm not crazy to feel the way I feel when I immediately have to for instance, close myself off like I'm in a police interrogation when my therapist ask me if I have thoughts of suicide. And then they all ubiquitously gas light me about my fears of opening up about those thoughts and other things in my life while they sit behind 5 layers of psychological concrete walls. And then some of my family members, even as brain-dead as they are also gas light me about the same issues. So I just wanted to say thanks for validating how I feel and having the courage to use your own common sense in a world run by lunatics.
Katie Katie from Sacramento wrote on December 18, 2022 at 9:44 pm
Thank you for doing the work to show up authentically and speak the truth! Your videos have helped me both in terms of content and the spirit you exude. I hope you never stop being you and rocking the boat! Rock on!
Fila Kyle Fila Kyle from Prague wrote on December 10, 2022 at 9:40 pm
Hallo Daniel. And hello all guests here. Daniel. I realy liked your videos on Youtube. It got me as you talk differently about "Borderline Personality Disorder". I was told I have it many years ago. But I actualy just started to hate this kind od diagnose. It never explained anything, just it gave other people reason to bully me. And mostly psychiatrist doctors and also some very cruel therapeut I had. Like a sign on my head telling people what an idiot and uncooperative uncureable I am. I spent about 1 and half year in some Comunity Therapy. Where you live in a house with few same diagnosticed people and some therapeuts. It was metn to be cure and help. I made it to the end as very very few people who didnt run away. It turned out to be most horrible thing I had to go throw. I never emagined I could suffer so much. And It was for nothing! I just carry many wounds from that creazynes and feel like peronality my changed into something super small and lonely and ugly and super stupid. And now many doctors realy told me I fucked it up and it is my fault, get out! And much horrible things I had to listen about me. I wish It never happen to me. Only few people in medical enviroment I have found helpfull. And thay also didt say anything about this diagnose. Thanks Got! Thay just pointed out I have scrued up self confidence. And probbaly ADHD. And I realy was understanding it finaly. And actualy was happy I am not what thay were telling me. And whatever diagnose I have. Most ok psycholog I had said "I dont care about what doctors say, lets just call it Sensitive Flower. I was smiling and happy. Althow I am not cured or ok. I wish I start new life. I am moving from my girlfriend and hope to get some playce to live. I some years back realized I am transgender. It made me most happy. And loving my self again after many years. But i got bullied again. Becouse of this. From some people I trusted. That is why I am trying to live along new people. Also going to mental hospital now. I just canot want to live. Stuck. I wish to You all good people around you! Fila Kyle
Brief Signal Brief Signal wrote on November 29, 2022 at 9:14 am
Your honesty and openness has inspired me. Thank you.
Mason Biamonte Mason Biamonte from Washington DC wrote on November 24, 2022 at 9:07 pm
Thank you Daniel for your obstinate courage. I am currently reading "Breaking From Your Parents" during my breaking from my parents. Your words are exactly what I needed to here and are speaking loudly to my authentic, higher self. I've been making some progress on my addictive patterns thanks to your YouTube videos and this book.
Andrew Andrew from Kyiv wrote on November 24, 2022 at 2:51 pm
Hello Daniel! I am a big fan of your Blog. I beg you to help me with advice. My name is Andrew. I am 35 years old. I live in Ukraine. 8 years ago I was diagnosed with UC. I took medication for a very long time, but it did not work. This summer, I had to give up medicines due to problems with supplies to Ukraine. Now I'm trying to follow a specific diet and it helps me. But I have a VERY low iron level in my blood (anemia). All drugs that I tried cause terrible diarrhea, blood and exacerbation. Please tell me what methods, means or drugs helped you improve the level of iron in the blood? I would be very grateful for your help!
Dusty Dusty from Riyadh wrote on November 22, 2022 at 4:39 am
Hello I'd like to suggest a book, The Abyss of Madness by George E. Atwood. It's about new research to treat patients with severe psychological issues, in a humanitarian way. It also looks at the root causes of some disorders like schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. You can find a pdf of the first 4 chapters online for free I believe. I highly suggest reading it. Thank you,
Paul King Paul King from Mississauga, ON wrote on November 21, 2022 at 8:19 pm
Hi Daniel I have an article I wrote on my blog that, if you have time, could you read? I will understand if you don't have time. It is not often I get the inspiration to write an article on humility, but some videos (including yours, which I don't have the link to) mentioned enough about the topic that I was starting to have some ideas for an article. It is about a 9-10 minute read. I thought you would be interested, since I have watched enough of your videos and read an article at MadInAmerica.com that I thought you would take an interest in it. Take heart, there is no advertising, tracking or any of that nonsense. I run this blog entirely at my own expense. http://sj.foodsci.info/2022/11/21/a-humility-cage-match-schmitz-vs-mackler-vs-tolkien/
Mariah Mariah from Fullerton wrote on November 12, 2022 at 1:46 am
I’m glad you exist. ???
Diana Diana wrote on November 11, 2022 at 9:46 am
Hi Daniel! I watched on of your videos and found it really inspiring. I'm grateful for what you are putting into the world and the work you are doing. I remembered the experience meeting you at a peer activism event in Great Barrington years ago! You have a bright light! I hope life is going well for you in these times.
Daniel Daniel wrote on November 10, 2022 at 7:40 am
Hi Daniel, My deepest gratitude for your views , angles , ideals on doing the work to grieve traumas . For myself, it opened me up to go deeper into my core . I have thanked you many times throughout the years . A heartfelt reflection on someone or something which nudges us back on the path to liberation . My healing is your healing . Peace
Anu Anu wrote on November 7, 2022 at 8:43 am
Hi Daniel, Your channel has helped me a lot, I just wanted to thank you for your work. If you don't mind the suggestion, I think you should upload clips of your work on TikTok, it would get a lot of traction and probably really boost your Patreon. Anyway just a thought but either way I'm really grateful to you for making Take These Broken Wings. Love, Anu
John Hoggett John Hoggett from Reading wrote on October 19, 2022 at 3:54 pm
If you were in the UK I would ask if you would like to make a film together. Not sure what about but it would be fun.
Ashley Ashley wrote on August 6, 2022 at 8:31 pm
Hi Daniel! Wow, you are so cool! I wonder if you may be the NTP Philosopher/Debater Myers Briggs personality? It is so good to meet you ?
Adele Adele wrote on May 12, 2022 at 11:07 am
Hi Daniel, thank you for being so boldly and bravely uniquely and unapologeticaly you. Helps me a lot. Love your original ideas and content and the values you endorse. Gives me the strength to break away from the toxic ideas perpetuated in our culture and reclaim what's truly, authentically, wildly me. Please keep being you. ?