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Hello! What’s your opinion on Albert Ellis? Could you make a video on this? 🙂
Dear Daniel! I watched your youtube videos and want to thank you for sharing your philosophy. Your thoughts on family, personal growth and everything else are very interesting and touching. It is like meeting the only honest person among fake ones. You feel things so deeply. You are the first person who acknowledged that all sorts of stuff happening in the world is wrong but considered by society as normal. Family lies, living live with false purposes etc. I am also having issues with my family and at 30 I started to see how delusional my parents are and how miserable they made me. There was no “big trauma”, but they belittled me constantly and ignored me and want me to earn their love with “right” behavior. And I used to hate myself so much and blame myself and feel that everything was wrong with me. It took years to overcome it, to start to love myself. This was so frustrating to hear from everywhere: my parents are great, I love them, my mom/dad is the best person in the world. I thought: why I did not feel that way, but now (after watching your speeches) I am realizing that they all (or most of them) are dissociated from their own feelings. They prefer to believe happy lies rather then to see things in a real way, because it is painful. I am glad that I am “not crazy” and I am not alone, that other people too feel that their family is a prison, is a cult, as you named it. I do not know how to express my gratitude to you. It is very brave to be true self. Please know, that we, people from different side of a screen, love you and wish you all the best. To defeat your fears and to grow more in any way you choose - as a musician or filmmaker or else. I am glad I have found such a great person in the Internet. Good luck.
Hi Daniel. I just want to thank you for being strong enough to make videos about childhood trauma. I'm 21 and I've been isolated by my parents but you make me feel less alone. You're very important.
This web-site is awesome. Thank-you for being a responsible citizen and speaking out. My dad has a twitter account with millions of followers in Dunwoody, which has tons of wealthy influential people who are mainly republican. He talks politics. I don't have a blog. I was recently accepted into a masters of counseling program at the University of Cumberlands. This website doesn't make me want to proceed with that too much. Maybe i'll go for graphic design instead. I feel just as empathetic as you do and I don't think I could deal with treating the mentally ill any worse than they've already been treated. Have a good night and please keep sharing your experiences. I don't feel I should put you on a pedestal, but I do feel you are a good example of a more fully actualized human being. I think as time goes on people will more and more see the truth of your words.
Dear Daniel, How do you manage to live in the 'civilized' world? How do you manage to not get retraumatised by others? Thanks
And I spelled my name wrong in the "from"section of my previous post. Fail!
Hey Daniel, love your work and would hopefully love to visit new York and have coffee with you or something some day. For now I want to know your thoughts on how to know when/if we are lying to ourselves and why do we do it. And when we do it what perpetuates it? Thank you for all you do, from southern Ontario Canada. -TK
Thank you for sharing your voice with others. Your clarity, insights, respect, and compassion are inspiring. Far too many therapists use counseling sessions to direct clients rather than genuinely supporting healthy growth. I am very grateful that you've touched my life.
Dear Daniel, Your video today really affected me. I’ve watched your content before, mainly for your thought-provoking critiques of the mental health field - frank, original and, at times, bleakly humourous. Well done for the great job there. I continued to watch for your raw truth, because in some intangible way it showed me I can speak my truth too. I can be vulnerable too. How is it that somebody on YouTube can practically permit me to be myself? I imagine if growing up I had that from just one person…I would have been flying. So, today I was crying before you even got to the poem. Tears of relief to hear it wasn’t just me. And I remembered deciding to wear that heavy monkey suit when I was in a similar position to you, as a private school scholar from a working-class background. And warning my adult self to never judge me for that decision, because it couldn’t have been any other way. In short, your honesty is contagious to those of us who can smell BS even - especially - when the BS starts to infiltrate our own selves. I’m probably around the same age you were when you quit being a therapist and I’m about ready to do the same as a pharmacist. Any benefit I’m giving to patients on a personal level is drowned out by being a cog in this messed up system, and you amongst others have woken me up to it. Anyway, you should know you’re making a real difference out here 🙂
I find you fascinating and true.I am gradually working my way through your videos.Thank you so much for sharing.xx
Thanks Daniel. What I'm writing it's not a spam. I've watched many of your videos. What you bring up is a kind of challange which I appreciate. I'm a therapist and still think it was a good choice. But I value your criticism. All best!
Dear Daniel, Thank you for creating this forum. It’s the best on the web. And many special thanks for calling out psychiatry for what it truly is - nothing but hogwash, filled with toxic thinking and poison pills - truly an abomination of warped ideology, and a sick suppression of vulnerable human spirit. And thank you for your many videos and essays on psychotherapy, as it too can be just as harmful. I never thought I’d come across be a therapist wise enough and brave enough to see and publicly name psychotherapy’s potential downfalls. The other day I came across the term “spiritual abuse”. And while I don’t like to use the word “spiritual” because of its religious connotations, I think the definition could include psychiatric/psychotherapeutic abuse as well. These abusers seek to destroy people’s self confidence and self trust, to discredit their common sense, to talk people out of trusting their own intuition - to trust the therapist/pastor/counselor more than themselves. Your advice is the opposite - you advise people to trust their gut. Thank you for this. Hearing this from you, a licensed professional, has helped me more than anything. You gave me permission to trust myself, and I needed permission. Thank you for this. I’ve yet to figure out how or why anyone in their right mind would ever claim to think they know what anyone else else truly thinks or feels. And they never doubt themselves. How sick is that? I think most therapists are by far the the most arrogant and egocentric people the world over. I have found that Self- therapy based on your books, videos and website to be helpful in many ways large and small. Truly healing indeed. All my life I’ve sensed that upbringing affects people into adulthood, but I never realized how much and profound it can be. Childhood trauma really is where it begins. For the most part I tuned out this thinking because I found most, if not all, psychotherapists’ manner to be smug and conceited. No humanity or humility at all. They never doubt themselves. It just made me feel worse. I think more than anything people need to find a way to trust themselves, to trust their gut, to believe that if they know something themselves, that’s enough. Otherwise there’ll be no peace. And moments of peace, however faint and fleeting, can be the beginnings of, or retclaimation of, some kind of joy. Psychotherapy wasn’t helpful. It just wasn’t. All I felt was more confusion. And I don’t need to figure it out. I gave it enough time and chances. It fosters dependence, and that’s not good. People need trustworthy relationships. It’s called friendship. Even kindness from total strangers can be remarkably healing. Most of all, reading and hearing your good, sound and compassionate thoughts has been transforming. I just wanted you to know how grateful I am. And I write in hope that it miight help someone else. maria
Just finished the towards truth book i am happy you are trying to make a difference in the world through your books podcasts and vidros very inspirational. I look forward to reading more of your books.
Hey Daniel, First, I just want to thank you for making your videos/documentaries/books. Thank you for sharing your experience. I found your videos at a turning point in my life last year, age 26. I had just started working at a group home/CMHC. I was contemplating medical school, and your videos (along with my experience at work) pushed me towards counseling instead. I identified somewhat with your history. More subtle, rather than extreme traumas, which still managed to separate me from my true self and leave pretty serious damage. Slowly started healing through high school. Studied Biology in college, partially to please my parents and give them hope that I may become a doctor in the future. I threw in Anthropology as well as a means of rebellion. Then after graduating, I took off 4 years to work at a record store and travel on tour with bands. I plan to go to ICSW in Chicago this coming fall (they have a more psychodynamic leaning program). In counseling, I would like to work with people that have received more severe diagnoses (i.e. schizophrenia, bipolar, etc.) Wondering if you have any general advice on school, becoming a therapist, or recommendations on texts/case studies related to resolving schizophrenia through intensive psychotherapy.
I am so glad that I came across your videos. I am trying to heal a lot of trauma and I feel so misunderstood by my therapist. I have been going back and forth wondering if I am making the right choice by ending our relationship but I am sure now that I am, He has been pushing forgiveness onto me for the last few sessions and I feel so unheard. I told him that tonight. He has a daughter and I think his issues are spilling over and I no longer feel safe with him to process things. So anyways, I think you are absolutely brilliant, human in every sense of the word and I wish I could call you my therapist. Best of luck to you!
I listened to your youtube about leaving behind the field of psychotherapy. I am going through my own disenchantment with the field. It was very validating for me to hear your thoughts as I seem surrounded by practitioners that I cannot talk to about my disenchantment. I have been doing a lot of journaling and following my dreams, taking some art classes, and plotting my exodus. I appreciate your thoughts. Blessings to you.
Hi, Daniel. Just having found you and watched many of your wonderfully, revealing and insightful vidoes on YouTube has had the positive effect of feeling you would have been a great therapist and delightful person to have known as a friend. I admire your courageous openness in sharing your life's experiences and your thoughtful reflections on their meaning for you, especially childhood trauma which we all have suffered. I admire the rich life you have chosen for yourself--your world travels, learning & speaking other languages, your many friends . I particularly applaud your analysis of Alice Walker. I am 73, retired from the teaching & legal professions. Wanted to be a child advocate. Was told: you won't have any cases Children don't have any rights. Celebate & single since 1980. A life-long learner, writer & poet. 40 yrs of therapy with 4 therapists & 4 psychiatrists. On meds but still depressed (treatment resistant brain). Diagnosed complex PTSD & MDD from child sexual abuse lasting from 2 till age 16 when I threatened to run away from home of pedophile/ sociopath father-a Methodist minister in VA now deceased, and narc mother who molested my brother, both deceased. Divorced from parents & estranged narc sister.still living, I was a musician too--piano, organ, flute, piccolo, guitar. In teen years banged out Shostokovitch & Rachmaniff on my antique Steinway ivories to deal with my anger. No longer play. B.A. & M.A. in English &;Speech from UK & GSU. Made it through 2 yrs of law & took bar review. Had to quit to take care of disabled dyslexic daughter as single parent. Though I was accepted in 1974 as a contributing poet .to the Breadloaf Writer's Conference in Middlebury, VT, had never published or given readings. Your videos gave me the courage to give my first reading at a small gathering of poets last night 2.12.2019. 2 poems allowed for each of 10 poets. Here are some lines from one I read titled: "B" IS FOR THE BLUES. This is no balderdash. This is no baloney. This is as bare as a beggar. I was born in Babylon, A beast of burden. I was bastardized from birth Without a bill of rights. They said they were my benefactors. They said they were benevolent. But they badgered and bantered me. They made me kiss the Blarney stone and baptized me into the blues. Now I am binary. Now I am bittersweet. **************** Thank you for inspiring me! My new hobby: studying astronomy & astrophysics.
Dear Daniel, I am beyond appreciative of your work. You don’t mince words and you get straight to the point, diving deep into truth. At 42 years old I am still learning. Your YouTube videos found me at just the right timing along my journey of healing. Our world needs more people like you. Thank you for being a trailblazer. Thank you for your bravery.
Just thought I'd stop by. I watched a few of your videos. You express in words your thoughts on things pretty well. I'm not good with words or expression. Also, I'm depressed all the time. I don't feel apart of this world, so I think about eternity in the next life. It's a very strange feeling indeed. Take care.
Finishing "Breaking from your Parents" book right now. Great peace and resonance to be reading this. I broke with family August 2018. Has been liberating and frightening and many things. I am finishing a MA program for Social Work. When I started the degree I was in a very different place. So much has shifted since then I have found it hard and often meaningless to continue the degree. Yet, it is last semester so...onward, I guess. Every bit of my life was infested by the emotional incest and cult like drug trance I was conditioned into since my early childhood (me as the drug of choice for family to base their sense of self-hood and validation) that separating from that has opened up a major void. The old identity is gone, or on its death bed. This MA degree, too--nearly $20,000 into it and 2 years of commitment--seems based on my needing to rescue others and sacrifice my needs for others. I feel deep commitment to heal and to spiritually seek. I can't continue to live this way; 32 years as a kind of undead blood-supply for the world. I feel close to breakdown/breakthrough but must stay dissociated and distracted until the degree is over. What comes next? Ayahuasca ceremony seems right. Live in a spiritual community where I can collapse and let the rebirth of ego death move through me. I want to face this fear, these wounds, this trauma embedded in me, this pain in my intestines; this world-weariness; this numbness. Any thoughts? Thank you for the book and your courage.
Hi Daniel. I have no website. I just want to say congratulations to you for claiming your freedom. There is so much more to say. However, I am pleased to know that there are others who are willing to challenge the "norms" of our mental health system and expose it for its lack of empathy for those really needing help. At any rate, much peace to you and enjoy your travels and life-enhancing endeavors. I try to do the same as a photographer who also travels when I get a chance. AK
I miss Your new Videos. I'm a Loyal Watcher. Thanks for Your ideas & helping support. Peace, Richard...
Dear Daniel, I am overwhelmed with gratitude for “finding” you on YouTube. I am just now beginning to process my life’s trauma with a therapist a bit further along in the same process in his life. The book “The Body Keeps the Score” will be a part of my process as will regularly listening to you on YouTube for which I am extremely grateful, thank you. In the past 8 years I have experienced traumatic loss capping what I now realize has been a lifetime of trauma. My recent losses include those of my mother, partner, father, cat, career, and home. Those are on top of devastating bullying for being gay by friends, fellow students, teachers and family, among many others for over 50 years. I suddenly find myself alone with myself. Single and celibate. Sound familiar? Between my work with myself, my therapist, appropriate books and your deeply insightful wisdom I hope to heal. In my deepest core I identify as a pianist, having been strongly drawn to the piano since I was 5 and I will be 65 in April. Thank you for your messages online which will aid me in this difficult journey and process. By the way, I adore Tchaikovsky 5 among many other musical gems written by genius composers who were/are also horrific individuals. The “MeToo” movement has brought this long-standing issue to the forefront. Highly respected music critics have written about the abuse committed by highly respected musicians and how that is affecting their musical library choices. But I digress. In closing, all I can say is thank you, dear Daniel.
I discovered you recently on Youtube. I have barely scratched the surface on the material you offer and I'm... astonished. Your experiences sound so similar to mine. Except I never got out of the pit of despair my family pushed me down to. Now I'm beginning to understand. Now I can start to work on the tools to get me out of this hell. Thank you. Why aren't more people talking about these things??
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I love your blogs because you are so authentic. I am 65 years old. I have been working as a nurse for about 45 years. I am proud and happy that I have spent almost every day loving people trying to make their lives little more bearable. BUT I should have been what I wanted to be, An artist.........As I have always been obsessed with Philosophy and the search for understanding this thing we call reality. — Now I am retired and unfathomably depressed that I did not do more with my life. And that nobody understands my existential crises. Would you mind if I lived vicariously through yours?
thank-you for the much wisdom you share,I also have a great passion to see more people come free from the medications they take and still arent well,,Medication truly is abused big time in america,,I for one have started taking a pure full spectrum cbd oil with great results,,There has got to be a better way!
Thank you very much for your work Daniel especially to give voice to the victims of the mental health system god bless you!
Hello Daniel, Just found you on YouTube, such a delight to listen to you talk, especially on childhood trauma and how it disconnects you from yourself, how it silences you. So many things you talk of, I have personal experience of working through and coming to the same conclusion. So keep talking, keep making videos, keep shining... a great many silent ones may come out and be seen and heard, as a result. Kate xxx
Hey Daniel Just want to say thank you. I love your reflections and hounersty in your videos. So relieved hearing your views on therapy, what works and what doesn't work in your personal opinion.. It brought some really quality reflections to my own perspective across the sea.. Thanks for beeing yourself! Now I know, that there is someone out there like-minded within the therapeutic field, or well, not anymore, but your reflections on the topic brings value. Thank you.. and Merry Christmas very soon