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Hi Daniel, I found your videos on YouTube, and wanted to mention I really appreciate what you are doing! Also, so sorry to hear about your mugging, and the subsequent invalidating remarks you've been subjected to by 'Commenters' trivializing your pain. I understand what that is like, and come from a family which could be the "Poster Child" of trauma and multi-generational dysfunction (so I get that things are not always what they seem to a casual observer). You don't know me obviously, but I really like you! You seem way cool. I hope you are starting to feel better. Send me an email if you are ever in Pittsburgh, I'd like to meet you in real life! Keep on smiling, and grow your hair long again, it looked very cute that way! Lol, sorry, hope I'm not over-stepping to say that!
Opinion on Internal Family Systems? Molyneux seems to really like it and its making a lot of headway. Seems very cognitive and self-empathetic.
Sherie G. firstname.lastname@example.org Hello. I live in California near Los Angeles. About 3 years ago I ran across one of your first videos explaining why you left the psychoanalysis field in New York. Impressive. I learned a lot from watching that and others you have since sponsored. I am not actually employed in the Mental Health Field, however, I have done a lot of research on the horrible side effects of ECT (Electro Shock Treatment) and the psychotropic drugs given. Including Prozac, Xanax, Ritalin and others. From my own research I have actually helped people get off of "mood altering drugs", and have helped them return to a normal life, drug free. My own sources include books I have read by Thomas Szazs, Peter Breggin and others. Also, Leonard Roy Frank, an ECT survivor in San Francisco has written some telling books on the subject. Many years ago Thomas Szazs started a group that I have volunteered with - located in Los Angeles. Citizens Commission on Human Rights. They have a lot of free literature that I have used and/or given out. I am impressed with your decisions. Continue doing such wonderful work. Sherie G.
I once owned a copy of Alice Miller's "The Drama of the Gifted Child." Although I had only read the first chapter I gave it to a friend of mine as a gift a few years ago. Then, this February, my father (drug addict, narcissist, comedian, and guitarist) fell victim of a violent crime which left him in critical condition for a week. Doctors were uncertain of his fate in the beginning. Fortunately, he has recovered physically. During this time I felt a need to retrieve that copy of Alice Millers book. It popped into my brain during this emotional storm. I just knew I had to have the book. I found a local bookstore and found a copy of "The Drama of the Gifted Child" once again. I read all of it that night. Feeling mostly empowered and validated I still felt a creeping need to verify Alice Miller's work. That's when a google search of feedback and updates on her material brought me to Daniel Mackler's writings, essays, and a critique of her material. I have since been journaling everyday and trusting the difficult journey inward. I suffer from the need to please everyone else, sacrificing my own autonomy and agency. This creates ample opportunity for increasing resentments and poor choices. Among other shortcomings, I am happy to say that I finally feel like there is some hope in enduring my life-- warts and all. I couldn't be more thankful to have found another humans voice that taps into the many things I've always thought and felt but couldn't describe or even allow myself to describe. I appreciate the honesty, vulnerability, and willingness to share the gems of what makes us human. Thank you.
Hi Daniel, I've already commented recently on your welcome page. Hope it's okay to write another one here. First, just watched your video on being mugged. I'm very glad you're okay. What a thoughtful, good way you responded to the two young men by allowing for your common humanity to manifest in the context of their otherwise dehumanizing act. Second, I have three questions about what might be called the anatomy or architecture of trauma. (If you do wish to respond to these questions, please don't rush on my account under the circumstances you're in; I express this now while the spirit moves me, not with any expectation for you to respond). Before I ask the questions explicitly, let me try to set the context, which has to do with a central theme of yours, namely the root of trauma in childhood experience, particularly people's childhood experience of having their sense of themselves shut down by their parents (who were likely acting out of unresolved trauma from their own childhoods). You've also pointed out that society beyond the family unit is a potential source of trauma (e.g., in the excessive authority and thereby de facto freedom to traumatize that parents often have over the children, who are often not believed, for example, when they report their parents). And you've also pointed out, or effectively revealed, that formal education can itself be a source of trauma (e.g., insofar as the field of psychotherapy is more preoccupied with profit than helping people equally,or insofar as the field de-emphasizes the significance of trauma in order to placate professionals who have their own unresolved traumas). My first question: are the above three sources of trauma (i.e., parents, parent-centric society, and profit-oriented/trauma-placating professionalism) a kind of perverse trinity? That is, are they three dimensions of the same phenomenon of trauma, meaning that an authentic triad of parents-society-professionalism is necessarily part of trauma's resolution (allowing that these terms can be played out in unconventional ways, for instance by recognizing the role of an authentic parent in people who aren't necessarily one's official parents)? My second question: if the above line of thought has any truth to it, is it not possible, if only in theory, for a particular experience of trauma to be explained by one of the dimensions - or by one combination of them - more so than any other? For example, could one be traumatized not by one's parents per se, but by the broader parent-centric society? To elaborate on this theoretical example: say one's parents do a beautiful job of validating and fostering one's identity, only for a school system to indoctrinate one into believing that parents, whether good or bad or some mixture, by default have the primary say in their children's development (e.g., by a teacher not believing a student's reason for missing a class unless a parent has signed an explanatory note, which could be a traumatic experience if, say, for instance, the reason has to do with a terrible accident involving the student's parents, rendering them unable to write a note). Or, to give one more theoretical example, say one's parents and one's society have been nothing but nurturing, yet the formal knowledge that one studies suggests otherwise. To extend this example: say one well on the path to enlightenment until, for some reason, one becomes enthralled by Jordan Peterson in a university setting and thereby believes in his approach to parenting, overlooking its authoritarian implications (which you do a splendid job of critiquing by the way)? In short, it seems to me, that one can have good parents and live in a bad society with bad forms of education in it; or one can have good parents and live in a good society but get a bad formal education; just as one can luck out in all three areas, and so on and so forth. So, third question: am I confusing issues or is there any truth to my meanderings?
Hi Daniel, it was good watching your videos and agree with alot of what you say. I really need help though and don\t know who to talk to, to help my daughter, she is on olanzepine, seroquel and ativan, becoming manic and i am scared which way things will go. I don't know what to do and don't want her back in hospital or on a treatment order, it all doesnt help do anyone, a therapist similar to how you were, here in Toronto? or anyone online that can help?
Hi Daniel. Wanted to know if there are any hubs for therapists who have the same convictions as you. I wanna find a good one instead of endlessly sifting through the bargain-bins of pill-pushers and mystics. Its taking so long and has sucked a lot of the drive out of me searching for that one therapist. I would appreciate if you could point me towards any database of some kind, or some rubric of how to find a good one (I've also watched your YT vid on it). Maybe one day you or others could create a website or app that centralizes actual therapists, like Psychology Today but without the pop-psychology and pills. Thanks for fighting the good fight.
There are u tubes on how adult orphans cope when they have been bereaved. But how does an adult orphan come to terms with the loss of their parents and family system if parents were severely personality disordered (narcisistic) and you were abandoned, scapegoated and disguarded when you woke up a realised the lie, they dump. How to cope with the final dumping after a last confrontation which was futile in the first place. How to rebuild if your family were migrants and there is no extended family to lean on and you are literally alone in terms of family. Also to make worse people say you're an adult you shouldn't care anymore or need family as 40.
Hello Daniel: I have just recently found your website and looked a little bit into your work and your approach to your life. The ideas and comments really resonate with me as a parent of 3 adult sons. My middle son has fairly recently decided to distance himself (essentially stop all communication) from my husband and me. He is married and his wife has had breast cancer which has resulted in their not being able to have children. I am sure this is extremely painful for him. I unfortunately commented on his simultaneous very significant weight gain which could certainly damage his health. Since expressing that concern, the door has shut and no communication is accepted or acknowledged Has been a couple of months and could go on indefinitely I suppose. I am trying to prepare for that potential reality. I just wanted to tell you it is so helpful to watch your video and read about your life and your "advice" for parents who have to face up to a child deciding to pull away from a parental relationship. As I look back at my own background ,weight and appearance were a constant theme in my family of origin which in retrospect was not a healthy approach to living one's life. Wish you the best in your work and will keep following!! Best. Phyllis
Dear Mr Mackler, Intellectuals/intellectualism, the condescending know it alls, or the psuedo know its alls..I'm curious about your take on them, I was one. My forte was philosophy, the self absorbed existential kind with the cynical, nihilistic ruminating about the meaning of it all. Turns out, therapy (psychology) answered all my philosophical questions. Growing up with both parents having personality disorders left me very empty inside and all the insecurities of inadequacy drove me to overcompensate by over intellectualizing everything when the only intellectualizing I had been doing all all along was around buried feelings. To sit and feel them has been so redemptive that the narrative in my journals/diaries nowadays is pretentiously poetic as opposed to pretentiously academic. All the flowery language i find I cant help but use is an authentic expression of an exuberant empathy for life itself...anyways, I was wondering if you could, kindly, make a video in the future on your take on intellectualizing, I'm sure it would be just as insightful as every other subject you vlogged on, thanks, sincerely, your fan and student, frank
Interesting stuff about sexual orientation. If there was an intervention to make someone bisexual or pansexual would that be acceptable?
Hi Doc Mac, I've seen your videos on YouTube and love your perspective. I've had the "there's something wrong with me" idea in my head for as long as I can remember. My parents were great, but not perfect. I've figured out some major issues recently that caused several decades of depression. I'm in a trauma WRAP program now. I had to push for that, since I was diagnosed with BPD vs. CPTSD. I finally made it clear the issue was trauma, not my personality. I'm 52, I'll be 53 in September. I've always felt different. Like an alien dropped off on the planet and left here. I am SO different from other people - I've never fit in. I get what people say when they say a diagnosis helps! You're looking for a label that will explain WHY you feel like an outsider looking in on everyone living life! I've spent a lot of time trying to get that idea OUT of my head. Then I saw your video today. Sometimes we need to hear it from someone else. Not just an expert, but someone, like you, who is unique - who tells the TRUTH about the world, and about TRAUMA!! I also listened to your video about finding a good therapist - which confirmed that a few of my therapists were crappy. The experts who really got me rolling when I started researching were Robert Whitaker (Anatomy of An Epidemic) and Peter Breggin (Your Drug May Be Your Problem). Between the two of them, I figured out no, I don't have bipolar, and most, if not ALL mental illness is caused by trauma. Plus psych meds are VERY toxic to the human brain. I appreciate your honesty about how painful trauma work is. People need to know. If they aren't ready, it will break them. I'm mentally strong as heck. Emotionally I'm a wreck, but I know I can deal with anything mentally. Thank you. These words are not enough, but will have to be. Thank you for saying that there isn't anything wrong with us, any of us. There isn't, but SO many people NEED to hear it! I NEEDED to hear it! I know the world is crazy - but it took me SO long to figure it out. I hope for a time when every child who is different, like I was, like you were, isn't told they are "wrong" and isn't rejected by society, peers, in every life situation. This rejection is HORRIBLE and HURTS people. There is NO need for it. We need to EMBRACE our differences and rejoice in diversity! We are too afraid of change to do that. Humanity loves the status quo. Or.... the powerful love it - and they oppress everyone who doesn't FIT in their model. Of course I don't fit. Anyone who questions authority doesn't. I abhor authority. I don't think there's any legitimate reason for ANY person to have authority over another. Which makes me an anarchist. Oh.... well, that's a big problem in American, lol.....
Hi Daniel. I was just wondering how you've been. We spoke a few times in the past at events in NYC. I appreciate your work you have done and enjoyed speaking with you in the past. I have been free from psychiatry/mental health system for some time now and live in The City myself now. That move alone probably saved my life. Thanks and be well.
Thank you for generously sharing your knowledge about childhood trauma and how that is linked to mental health. You'r so straightforward and truthful. I noticed that a lot of your information is quite similar to what I hear from Divine Truth so I thought I'd share with you: https://youtu.be/OxvyBKZv5oE Thanks, Helena
Interesting stuff you have written. What do you think there is still to learn about sexual orientation?
I had been diving down the rabbit hole of my family's deep dark secrets and avoidance of trauma for a few years now, but your videos are very much like talking about it with a very understanding friend. Thank you for sharing your life and your work with us.
Hey, just want to thank you a lot because of your video's on your youtube channel. It inspired me a lot. Keep on doing the good stuff!
Hi I was stunned to hear your video on your journey to growth. I nodded all the time. It was like you were talking of me. I started my journey with a psychotherapist that in the beginning helped me a lot, then there was a major change in him and I "met"upon his trauma. He said it all was in me. Very very dangerous , it nearly ended with the worst case senario. It has been a struggle back to life , but paradoxically because I had started my journey, it didnt collapse. I have noone that has traveled these roads in them selves and that is hard. I understand why you called it , gold , finding someone. Thank you. Gina
Infant circumcision is Blackout Sociopathy. It is Nazism for newborns. The movie 'Conspiracy' demonstrates the meeting process at places like AAP, hospitals, etc. Author-Jesus & the Unabomber
Hi Daniel . Thank You for what you do with . Speaking Out . for the Vulnerable & Disadvantaged that's Awesome ! Would it have been possible to covert movie film the Tragedy of Lives for those detained as Staff . I found that my Mobile Phone was confiscated . my room searched . other Patients found also conversations listened to from Staff & any mention of recording was responded to with the Patients mobile phone being confiscated . Staff & the Conditions were blocked from being reported to the outside world . Notices were put on the wall banning bringing in & the use of Laptop Computers because as staff manageress said " don't like issues being reported on social media "
Hi. I love what goes on. I honestly find psychiatry to be satanic witchcraft. I wish i can tell you more about it.
Hi Daniel, I listen to your videos a lot, and you even inspired me to make my own (although I don't have the knack of it yet - getting there). I am a Certified Substitute Teacher, currently out of work because of Covid 19 and life devastation - also hold a BA in Psych and partial MS in Education/Special Education. I also started an MS in Clinical Counseling once, but dropped it due to the system I cannot believe in. I'm a musician as well - and just enjoy your perspective.
another person who makes me feel more sane is douglas rushkoff
feeling rough in this era, you´re one of those who make me feel less insane. thank you
Daniel every week I check your YouTube channel and watch what you have posted. You are the human being on this earth I most look forward and enjoy listening too. You make me feel normal and okay you make me want to keep living. Thank you for everything for the expression of you and the divine spark of life and the soul that you are best wishes Kate
Hi Daniel. I just wanted to express some gratitude for your documentaries and videos, which I devoured last summer as though I hadn't had a bite to eat in years. They felt like the first deeply relatable thing I'd come across since becoming an adult. I'm 22 and was becoming increasingly numb and schizoid until I figured out to look back at my foggy history, and to dig up my deep feelings about my parents and childhood. Well on the path now - feeling more alive every month. Cheers! - Darius
Hi Daniel I saw your video about the reasons for leaving psychotherapy. I know what you mean. Although I am a startup of this profession now. I consult in Russia. It's different from USA. Trere is no lisence for psychotherapy work. But this is what you said about responsibility to Customers. We can't get out of head that we've heard . I worry about everyone. I'm learning to detach, but not to get stale. But for each person, we become a part of Life, just as each Client brings their own into the life of the therapist. Irwin Yalom is not afraid to be a friend to Clients. I understand you when you say that Customers also give support. I think you were a great psychologist. It is a pity that this attitude to the profession often brings burnout. I think it must be great to be friends with you. You have a lot of sincerity and openness. There is a lot of romanticism in this. It doesn't save the world. But it is definitely necessary for the world. Thank you. Let everything work out in the best possible way. As they say in yoga - Namaste Natali
I begin this in tears. Daniel, your struggle is so mine wouldn’t be alone. If you wanna assign a purpose to it. Use that. My parents did not ever love me either. Ever. I’m 61. The Bible says the truth sets us free. But how could I face a truth like that alone. I am. Except your videos. My parents jailed me. They said I had a genetic defect. I lost babies. I was perfect not defective. At sixteen. I was like you. Sensitive to the truth about the world in a world that won’t see hear or speak about or acknowledge negative things. If you don’t how can you ever know the urgency upon us to insist we all have no room for anything but creating good things. You and Laura Delano are examples of the best and most necessary things I know of. I love your song called “Bullshit”. It’s great. I feel like you’re my friend. If I ever saw you in person the only fear is I’m sure I’d fall in love with you which would not be cool probably. You’re just so handsome and sweet on top of being so compassionate why wouldn’t anyone love you? This is just pure fan mail. I hope it makes you happy. That’s my intent. I live in Southwest Florida and I hope to form a group Just some hand picked people locally who want to talk about getting depsychistrized. Like maybe fundraise for Inner Fire. Or Inner Compass project The new Soteria Beatrice Birchs inner fire. She called me. I’m getting myself ready to do something soon. This grief sucks though. I wish you were my in person best friend. I’m needy as heck for a friend like you it’s better I don’t meet you. If there were a lot like you it would ease a lot of needy pain a lot of people require to get free of ...Bull shit.....Bullshit.... I see so much bullshit for miles and miles. Bullshit bullshit. My parents natural instincts were rendered not accesssble because my moms a therapist and my dad a big time corporate attorney. And they both were programmed by lethal BS doses from the Nazis I guess and the drug companies and Meyer and friends of the DSM so I was ambushed with Thorazine at twenty then again with closeril at menningers in Topeka I got off it in 2001. I think I was Ginny pigged. No informed consent. I wasn’t a candidate. No reason. Whatever. I got off prosac in 2007. I was jailed like MLK civilly disobeying the ER. Lee County is bad. NAMI my former employer is a child abuse front group for white coat dope dealing and istrogenic metsbolusm and invasion of America via the route of the frontal lobe. My parents jailed me saying elder assault. To get me drugged. All this meant. Bye bye mom and dad. Some things you gotta not automatically forgive Hence. I get you. Totally. And your videos. Thank you Daniel Mackler abd thanks too for the two email responses you sent awhile back. They are prized possessions and sources of great encouragement and it is an honor that you replied. If I can ever support you please do ask me. I’d relocate. To work for you. You’re that great.
I refused to take the drugs I would probably have become hooked on. Your site and videos are a source of reassurance.
I really love your work and recommend it to many. I have been involved with “mad” folks all my life and am often considered as one myself. I help run a hearing voices group in the New York area and have been involved with hearing voices folks for many years. I am in hopes with having a dialogue with you about breathing and madness as I find learning to breathe properly conserving CO2 allows for easier processing And unraveling of Disturbing thought much of which may well be PTSD from early or even later trauma. Ron Robbins developed and has had it duplicated and early research about it published as a one session effective treatment for panic attacks called the panic protocol which can be seen on the internet. I pointed out to him that “body starter” that trips a person post hypnotically into the start of a panic doesn’t work unless they are already over breathing usually outside their awareness until it really accelerated in the panic and they are usually mouth breathing as well losing the calming effects of adequate CO2 maintenance especially in the brain as well as the significantly reduced release of oxygen from the hemoglobin which takes place in over breathing as per the Bohr effect further robbing the brain of its fuel to think clearly creating more right brain survival processing and the further generation of the sympathetic fight or flight effects I.e.danger danger danger. I would like to open a dialogue with you about the research going on about this and possibly be connected with other interested researchers.