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Ronitte Ronitte from Brooklyn, NU wrote on December 26, 2021 at 11:26 pm
I agree with everything you say about psych meds Check out my 12 step all natural recovery program for mental health Peace ✌ and love 💚
Christine Brush Christine Brush from Albuquerque wrote on December 14, 2021 at 10:05 pm
I am graduating in May with a MSW/MBA degree. I am over 55, a life of experience, and the whole system of university instruction and the system of for profit medicine is a huge atrocity against our citizens and against humanity. I regret going through all of this only to realize how wrong this profession is for me and for the persons treated. I would like to know what you would do in this case. I will finish my degrees, but I don't think I will be a therapist. Or support that system.
Bart Bart from Canada wrote on October 25, 2021 at 6:44 am
Hi Daniel, I think of you often as the others who have inspired me in being. So, here I go again, giving you a heartfelt thank you for all your selflessness in doing what you do to carry the message. I have you close to my heart as we all continue " trudging the road to happy destiny " TC
Robert Higgins Robert Higgins from Riverside, CA wrote on October 19, 2021 at 5:13 am
I like this guy Daniel. There are many reasons. Here are a few: 1. He left a career he worked hard for. (shows integrity) 2. He could evaluate his family of origin for what it really was, and not stay victim to it (shows honesty) 3. He is vulnerable to share his story on Youtube to help others.(not easy with all of the trolls out there) (Shows good will) 4. He seems to thoughtfully weigh out all of his thoughts and actions (Shows compassion) 5. He has the strength of empathy. (Undervalued strength right there) 6. He has a lot of knowledge and experience to share If you watch his videos, it is heartwrenching to see all of that was lost on his family of origin. Thanks for the videos, and I am happy to sign your guestbook! Daniel, if you ever come out to Southern California. We can grab a meal and chat! It is on me! 👍🙂 From, Robert Higgins
J J wrote on September 28, 2021 at 11:13 am
About 4 years ago I watched your video on why you stopped being a therapist. Thank you for the truth and candor. At that time I thought it was just a negative spin on a someone who soured about therapy. I just came across that video again and one you made on the "tricks" therapist use to keep clients. Well, I was severely conned and preyed on by the therapist I had for 1O YEARS!!!!! He used every trick. I woke up from my my hypotonic stupor and he was pissed and vicious. He is a narcissistic psychopath. My traumas prevented me from discerning between red flags and butterflies. I ignored my gut instincts and intuition from the first meeting. He conned me the entire time and even told me once that he would be "kicked out of the therapy union if they knew how I did therapy with you." I was "special." I have thousands of emails and phone calls from him and now see the utter bullshit he shoveled into me. During the worst session I ever had explaining the most severe trauma imaginable, he burst out laughing. Every cell in my being told me to leave and never, ever go back, but I actually sat there and apologized for him for laughing. More people need to be aware of the con job most therapist do on people who really need the help. You would not believe the things this guy said to me over the years and how he talked about other clients. A real piece of garbage who is still conning people. He has 'forever' clients and then pulls in theirs friend and all the family members in to cash in on them too. A real piece of trash. Thank you for your authenticity.
Steven Steven from Sydney wrote on September 6, 2021 at 5:00 am
Hello, in rural Australia we have farmers and families traumatised by suicide. I showed your suicide harms video too the suicide support group that has government support. I thought it would be well received. I thought I would share their constructive criticism as I would like your thoughts on it. From Gov group Criticism Re video on YouTube from Daniel Makler. Some valid universal pieces in amoungst his talk. “His terminology isn't inline with 2005 Suicide Prevention Australia or MindMap. The terminology is: Death by suicide, Suicide ideology, Curtailed suicide plan.” I was also told the video was not fit because it was dangerous and used wrong messages I thought your video might actually reduce suicide contagion in rural farming outback Australian towns. Where suicide is glamorised by the community especially if a sheep farmer passes from suicide etc Thank you for sharing your ideas I’m a bit sad it doesn’t relate in my country town people Best wishes mate Steve
Lucia Lucia from Bucharest wrote on August 11, 2021 at 2:35 pm
Hello Daniel! I really enjoy your content and what you have said over the years, it opened my eyes to ask myself questions and try to understand myself better by looking at my past and traumas. But I wanted to ask you if you believe in the idea that trauma travels through generations by DNA, cells and bodies? I read some books that suggest that a child can be traumatised as early as the pregnancy state and even before that. That the trauma of a grandmother can be passed on to her granddaughter even tho they may never have met. This may explain some strage and random illnesses and fizical conditions that someone can have, and that healing the ancestors traumas can heal the actual illness of the present. It makes sense to me because i have a syndrome of infertility and knowing that my grandma wanted so bad to birth boys and not girls that her feelings passed through and my mom felt something like that and now its reality that I cant give birth, ending the "girls" in my family, and that my grandma got her wish... I would love to hear your opinion on this! Thank you Daniel and take care!
Audrey Audrey from Long Beach wrote on August 4, 2021 at 12:56 am
Hi Daniel, I can honestly never thoroughly describe how much resonance I legitimately have about reflective statements about almost every aspect of childhood trauma in your YouTube videos. I would be more than delighted to become a case study for an extremely enlightened person who either aspires to be or is becoming a professional with psychotherapy/hypnotherapy, because I promise you I can provide every self reflective statements that every divinely guided person is looking for about childhood trauma integration. Instead of writing an actual essay or a book as a comment on your website, I absolutely agree and can describe in exact details how daunting yet eternally rewarding the entire process, especially the middle to ending stages of childhood trauma integration truly are. I hit the biggest psychological jackpot, I truly believe. Thorough acknowledgement of your childhood trauma while expressing an incredible amount of self care are imperative all throughout childhood trauma integration. I define childhood trauma integration as acknowledgement of your childhood trauma with a constant focus on healing fractured aspects of it while daring yourself to be more gentle with yourself than you ever were as well as more gentle than anyone else has ever been with you. All throughout my childhood trauma integration process, I would constantly with a lot of patience focus on the root cause of any kind of fractured emotion or thought that I can't psychologically define. Needless to say, the results of my childhood trauma integration consist of no more repressed anger or issues with anger (all notions of outbursts /teeth grinding have been removed from my physilology), extremely little resistance for immediate self reflection and an incredible willingness to proceed with a psychological completion process. Even though I am completely unaware whether or not you have heard of or have actually listened to any of Teal Swans videos, Teal Swan designed a revolutionary healing process called the Completion Process which enables an individual with any degree of trauma to minimize their fractures as much as possible and you have provided hundreds of videos that actually resonate with a lot of Teal Swans principles such as prioritizing self care at all costs, especially if you are single, have no children or are in an unhealthy relationship with anyone, with children. Nonetheless I am legitimately delighted every time I come across someone who always wants more enlightenment. Thoroughly enjoy the rest of the year and many years to come, Daniel. Sincerely, Audrey
Benoit Anand Benoit Anand from Cambridge, UK wrote on August 2, 2021 at 11:29 am
Hey Daniel, Just writing today as I wanted to thank you for trying to share what you believe with the world. Your videos came into my life at the right time and helped draw out my deepest feelings about myself and about life. Maybe it would have happened anyway at some point, but I can say for sure that your videos gave me the courage to trust that voice inside me telling me to treat my parents as the flawed human beings that they are, to hold them accountable for their actions, and in so doing, to treat myself as the adult I've always wanted to be instead of the terrified child I felt sentenced to be stuck as for all eternity. It's now been more than 6 months since I've spoken or seen any of my elderly family members, and although in some ways it's been the toughest 6 months of my life, it's also been by far the most beautiful and meaningful. You never really learn to love yourself until you start assuming that no one else will! Thank you so much for having the courage and passion to share your truth. It's made more of an impact than you could know 🙂
Suzanne Lerner Suzanne Lerner from Monterey wrote on June 10, 2021 at 9:04 pm
Louise Hansen commented (shared with permission) on new film about Gabor Mate: "The Wisdom of Trauma, and my response, recommending your Film: "Take These Broken Wings" Psychosis: “A mantra is a beautiful thing, there is no question about it, but nothing is bigger than silence.” - Sadhguru “What if psychosis is not losing touch with reality? What if it is us touching reality?” - Dr Louise Hansen The portal for genius is also the same portal for insanity. Like the matrix. There is no key. There is no door. There are no walls. The highest realisation: freedom. So how does one break the boundaries of their physical body and psychological structure? Clarity. A large scale vision, Borderless and boundless, The highest realisation, I am that which is not. My brother always said that I should write a book. I never saw the point when there are a million books that use the same old words simply to transcend them. It would mean nothing to a child joyfully whole in their ordinariness and make no sense to an adult practiced in judgment and criticism. How did they get like that? Narrow. Rigid. Inflexible. Divided. A scientist knows a frog with his intellect, through means of dissection. He pulls it apart, knows all its pieces, and then it is dead. However to experience the same frog, or love, requires a different intelligence: awareness. To simply embrace it as it is. I had my first experience of this during my PhD on the neuroscience of emotion. I asked the question where is emotion in the brain? Well it was not just in the brain. Turns out this is a living cosmos! As I experienced myself as a piece of the entire universe, I made the mistake of assuming others would understand. They did not. A PhD is meant to be an original contribution to knowledge. How does one explain to their supervisors, family and friends, that the entire cosmos dwells within each and every one of us? They thought I was mad. I ended up in a psychiatric hospital for six months with psychosis. I went from teaching psychology at the University to a disability pension, put on every medication and had twelve sessions of electroconvulsive therapy. It took approximately three years for my brain to recover. My treasured insights I had forgotten and were buried deep in my subconscious. Remarkably, seven years later as a Provisional Psychologist I had exactly the same experience. This time completely grounded. The only way I can explain it is that my psychosis was not losing touch with reality; it was touching reality. Reality simply is; neither this nor that. It is what it is. There is only life; the rest is imagination. The difference between a mad man and a Guru is that the madman experiences this unwillingly and the Guru experiences it willingly: freedom. This time I knew I had not discovered anything new. Wisdom traditions and mystics have always known this. You cannot squeeze the universe, nor a precious life, into any box, including science. Life is a far larger phenomenon than any thought or instrument or label. Hence the pointlessness of this book. My brother was right though. I was in a unique situation because I had an opportunity to share the experience from the inside out. I am a licensed Psychologist and a Doctor of Philosophy in Psychology, with 20 years experience. I’ve had psychosis, completely destroyed myself, recreated myself, and overcame a second episode knowing fully what was happening. Apart from feeling unable to share this with my family or colleagues, in fear of being re-hospitalised, or reported to the psychology board, what was most terrifying is that this second episode would be classified as “Schizophrenia” in the West, and yet similar experiences are embraced as “Enlightenment” in the east. What was one to do? “A mantra is a beautiful thing, there is no question about it, but nothing is bigger than silence.” - Sadhguru Today the top neuroscientists agree that our reality is an illusion and that we are all hallucinating. When we agree on a shared hallucination we call this normality. When we disagree we call this insanity; or genius. While Western psychology labels and pathologises anything abnormal and rejects anything it cannot measure, Wisdom traditions knowingly encourage and prepare you for this. For Wisdom traditions, the intellect is limited for it is a cutting instrument and narrowly focused in its scope: that is why in the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities; in the expert’s mind there are few. For Wisdom traditions, the mind is insanity; the only sanity is reality. So unlike the West, they embrace and prepare you for this. For it is not a case of if, but when, this happens to you. Beautiful and plentiful tools are provided of what to do: Wisdom. So what is a genius in a world of illusion? My hope is this story will shed some light. They say a fool does what he does not like. An intelligent man does what he likes. And a genius does what needs to be done. He not only masters his threat system, for survival, he also develops his self soothing system, for peace, joy, love, compassion, blissfulness and ecstasy. For if one is unable to drop their fight mode, they will unknowingly conquer and divide in many disguises. And when the entire universe resides within you, what is there to unnecessarily gain or lose? This story is dedicated to every human being who has been hospitalised or incarcerated, for having the highest realisation and a large scale vision; that what lies within each and everyone of us, is neither this nor that: for it can never be named, to remain borderless and boundless. Dr Louise Hansen Psychologist PhD in Psychology Human Rights Activist *This piece is in no way intended to minimise psychosis or mental illness. It is a simple interpretation of my lived experience of psychosis. There is no question both episodes I was unable to function or care for myself. Both required hospitalisation. Both took months, the first took years, to recover from. Thank you to my family, friends and medical team who kept me safe and supported my recovery. This piece is also not intended to criticise Psychology or Western science. It is simply pointing out the limitation of using intellect alone with phenomena like the mind and existence. Self-compassion (kindness, common humanity and mindfulness) also exist. #HealingTrauma #Justice4Humanity #WeAllBelong my reply: Thank-you for this very personal and very inspiring story. I am so grateful to you for this. I had depression and numbness, which is much more "culturally acceptable." I don't know if this would be of interest to you or not, but I found Dan Mackler's films available for free on Youtube, really helped me realize how we all are conditioned to fear Craziness, and are "brainwashed" at a very early age to fear Madness and so called Schizophrenia. In Finland they have an 80% "cure rate" for so called "Schizophrenia" mainly through non-profit, community based Mental Health Care, with medication used as the last resort,not the 1st. It is my belief, that Culturally, we are taught to fear "Madness" and "inner voices" in part because with have Inner Divine Guidance//Bodily Knowing that would continually Guide us to "Do the Right Thing" if only we would listen. I have had powerful, "irrational” >>more accurately “a*rational" inner guidance several times, including guiding me to sit with one of my root Teachers, Papaji. For some reason, I never feared this Inner Guidance...It was more the Courage to follow this Guidance, when it didn't go along with the larger "Cultural Narrative." Who closes down her Psychology practice, just a few months after attaining my license, and about to make a "good career" and instead goes to India to sit at the feet of a man who laughed a lot, could stop just about anyone's mind, and whose biggest advice was: "Just Be Quiet!" I am only BEGINNING to appreciate that the verbal, logical narrative going on incessantly like tickertape in our heads, including the "Inner Critic" is only a very small part of all that is available, especially through the Body//Embodiment, through Spontaneous Creativity, through Entheogens, Through Love! Thank-you Louise, Gabor, Zaya, Maurizio and special thanks to the panel today on Indigenous Perspectives on the Root Causes of Addiction, with "Woman Stands Shining" //Pat McCabe, Gina Perez-Baron and Daniel RYNO Herrera.
Sasannejad Behnaz Sasannejad Behnaz from Geneva wrote on May 24, 2021 at 4:47 am
Love you Sir! Your great video "Why is it a bad idea to have kids" truly deserves an Oscar. It took me out of my endless doubts, feelings of envy & regret. Thanks a million! Hugs from Geneva, Switzerland
Srina Srina from Medan, North Sumatra, Indonesia wrote on May 23, 2021 at 8:10 am
Hi Daniel, I'm pursuing an education to be a counselor. I've been volunteering as a Listener on 7Cups for 9 months and I have a great mentor who has a background in psychology. Today we had a mentee-mentor chat because I kept having difficulty not crying when listening to a member. He gave me a link to your YouTube video, and I learned a lot from it. I just wanna say thanks a lot for what you do. I've been watching your YouTube video a lot and plan to learn some more from you. If you could give me suggestions on how to be a better counselor, I would love to hear and work on it! Hope you have a nice day, Daniel, God bless!
Bart Bart from Red lake ontario canada wrote on May 11, 2021 at 7:48 pm
Congrats Daniel on 36k subs
Andrew - AP Andrew - AP from Lake Placid wrote on May 9, 2021 at 1:29 am
Dropping by, after hearing about you on 5/8/2021. Thanks.
Jeremy Koyle Jeremy Koyle from Vacaville wrote on April 22, 2021 at 10:19 pm
Just wanted to drop by and offer my gratitude for the work you have done and been involved with. Ran onto your videos on youtube feel it a great work. I feel there is a huge need for your sort of work, but alas the need is the silent majority, those in bad and hard situations. We are brothers at arms. Please don't ever become disillusioned or give up the fight, the world needs more people like you, with love, Jeremy.
Bart Johnston Bart Johnston from Red lake wrote on April 8, 2021 at 2:20 pm
Daniel, i love you. Thanks so much in helping with my breakthrough, also, with helping with my 3 beautiful daughters in their grieving. I am a patrion but they are slow in returning an email when you forget your password. Anyways, I love you, thanks for liberating people 🙂
Ankhiel Populver Ankhiel Populver wrote on March 28, 2021 at 10:50 pm
Thank you for posting your videos. Yes, it's incredibly difficult for a man to talk about being molested (physically or emotionally/psychologically) by his mother. For me the most damaging were physical. I can recall 15 - 20 incidents. Each brief, but just 1 was enough. But I also recall incidents like you describe. When I had my first and only girlfriend in HS I was 16. I told my mother nothing, somehow knowing on some level that she would sabotage it. I walked my GF home for weeks. After leaving her at her house, on the way home I went by a factory where an older brother worked. He saw me and waved. A couple of days later, in front of my mother, he asked if I took an indirect route home to avoid someone bullying me. I felt trapped and fessed up to having a GF. My mother said "ooh, you have a little girl" and laughed. As if I were a child. Somehow I knew it was over. I just didn't understand why. In the next couple of months she would ask "so how are you and the little girl?" She would ask as if she were talking to a little boy. I broke it off with my GF after about 4 months. I knew better than to have another GF while I still lived at home. I never had an experience like your description of the pornography story. But it "felt" familiar. She was, and remains, a vile and manipulative human being. She's over 80 years old now and she still manipulates. I see her for what she truly is and have no contact with her. Everyone else sees her as a victim/saint. As you said, the perfect. I'm glad you brought the issue to light. I've never been able to hold onto a relationship with a woman. And I was 50 years old before finally talking to a professional about my abuse. I'm no longer young. But strangely enough I finally have some hope that I may yet be able to navigate a good relationship. Thanks again for posting. Every little bit helps.
Carla Carla from Pittsburgh wrote on March 21, 2021 at 11:42 am
Hi Daniel, I found your videos on YouTube, and wanted to mention I really appreciate what you are doing! Also, so sorry to hear about your mugging, and the subsequent invalidating remarks you've been subjected to by 'Commenters' trivializing your pain. I understand what that is like, and come from a family which could be the "Poster Child" of trauma and multi-generational dysfunction (so I get that things are not always what they seem to a casual observer). You don't know me obviously, but I really like you! You seem way cool. I hope you are starting to feel better. Send me an email if you are ever in Pittsburgh, I'd like to meet you in real life! Keep on smiling, and grow your hair long again, it looked very cute that way! Lol, sorry, hope I'm not over-stepping to say that!
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Thanks Carla!
Brandon Brandon wrote on March 18, 2021 at 10:15 pm
Opinion on Internal Family Systems? Molyneux seems to really like it and its making a lot of headway. Seems very cognitive and self-empathetic.
Sherie G Sherie G from California wrote on March 15, 2021 at 9:21 pm
Sherie G. Hello. I live in California near Los Angeles. About 3 years ago I ran across one of your first videos explaining why you left the psychoanalysis field in New York. Impressive. I learned a lot from watching that and others you have since sponsored. I am not actually employed in the Mental Health Field, however, I have done a lot of research on the horrible side effects of ECT (Electro Shock Treatment) and the psychotropic drugs given. Including Prozac, Xanax, Ritalin and others. From my own research I have actually helped people get off of "mood altering drugs", and have helped them return to a normal life, drug free. My own sources include books I have read by Thomas Szazs, Peter Breggin and others. Also, Leonard Roy Frank, an ECT survivor in San Francisco has written some telling books on the subject. Many years ago Thomas Szazs started a group that I have volunteered with - located in Los Angeles. Citizens Commission on Human Rights. They have a lot of free literature that I have used and/or given out. I am impressed with your decisions. Continue doing such wonderful work. Sherie G.
Nicholas Nicholas from Eugene wrote on March 14, 2021 at 8:26 pm
I once owned a copy of Alice Miller's "The Drama of the Gifted Child." Although I had only read the first chapter I gave it to a friend of mine as a gift a few years ago. Then, this February, my father (drug addict, narcissist, comedian, and guitarist) fell victim of a violent crime which left him in critical condition for a week. Doctors were uncertain of his fate in the beginning. Fortunately, he has recovered physically. During this time I felt a need to retrieve that copy of Alice Millers book. It popped into my brain during this emotional storm. I just knew I had to have the book. I found a local bookstore and found a copy of "The Drama of the Gifted Child" once again. I read all of it that night. Feeling mostly empowered and validated I still felt a creeping need to verify Alice Miller's work. That's when a google search of feedback and updates on her material brought me to Daniel Mackler's writings, essays, and a critique of her material. I have since been journaling everyday and trusting the difficult journey inward. I suffer from the need to please everyone else, sacrificing my own autonomy and agency. This creates ample opportunity for increasing resentments and poor choices. Among other shortcomings, I am happy to say that I finally feel like there is some hope in enduring my life-- warts and all. I couldn't be more thankful to have found another humans voice that taps into the many things I've always thought and felt but couldn't describe or even allow myself to describe. I appreciate the honesty, vulnerability, and willingness to share the gems of what makes us human. Thank you.
Hugh Hugh wrote on March 9, 2021 at 5:27 pm
Hi Daniel, I've already commented recently on your welcome page. Hope it's okay to write another one here. First, just watched your video on being mugged. I'm very glad you're okay. What a thoughtful, good way you responded to the two young men by allowing for your common humanity to manifest in the context of their otherwise dehumanizing act. Second, I have three questions about what might be called the anatomy or architecture of trauma. (If you do wish to respond to these questions, please don't rush on my account under the circumstances you're in; I express this now while the spirit moves me, not with any expectation for you to respond). Before I ask the questions explicitly, let me try to set the context, which has to do with a central theme of yours, namely the root of trauma in childhood experience, particularly people's childhood experience of having their sense of themselves shut down by their parents (who were likely acting out of unresolved trauma from their own childhoods). You've also pointed out that society beyond the family unit is a potential source of trauma (e.g., in the excessive authority and thereby de facto freedom to traumatize that parents often have over the children, who are often not believed, for example, when they report their parents). And you've also pointed out, or effectively revealed, that formal education can itself be a source of trauma (e.g., insofar as the field of psychotherapy is more preoccupied with profit than helping people equally,or insofar as the field de-emphasizes the significance of trauma in order to placate professionals who have their own unresolved traumas). My first question: are the above three sources of trauma (i.e., parents, parent-centric society, and profit-oriented/trauma-placating professionalism) a kind of perverse trinity? That is, are they three dimensions of the same phenomenon of trauma, meaning that an authentic triad of parents-society-professionalism is necessarily part of trauma's resolution (allowing that these terms can be played out in unconventional ways, for instance by recognizing the role of an authentic parent in people who aren't necessarily one's official parents)? My second question: if the above line of thought has any truth to it, is it not possible, if only in theory, for a particular experience of trauma to be explained by one of the dimensions - or by one combination of them - more so than any other? For example, could one be traumatized not by one's parents per se, but by the broader parent-centric society? To elaborate on this theoretical example: say one's parents do a beautiful job of validating and fostering one's identity, only for a school system to indoctrinate one into believing that parents, whether good or bad or some mixture, by default have the primary say in their children's development (e.g., by a teacher not believing a student's reason for missing a class unless a parent has signed an explanatory note, which could be a traumatic experience if, say, for instance, the reason has to do with a terrible accident involving the student's parents, rendering them unable to write a note). Or, to give one more theoretical example, say one's parents and one's society have been nothing but nurturing, yet the formal knowledge that one studies suggests otherwise. To extend this example: say one well on the path to enlightenment until, for some reason, one becomes enthralled by Jordan Peterson in a university setting and thereby believes in his approach to parenting, overlooking its authoritarian implications (which you do a splendid job of critiquing by the way)? In short, it seems to me, that one can have good parents and live in a bad society with bad forms of education in it; or one can have good parents and live in a good society but get a bad formal education; just as one can luck out in all three areas, and so on and so forth. So, third question: am I confusing issues or is there any truth to my meanderings?
susan susan from Toronto, Ontario in Canada wrote on March 2, 2021 at 5:34 pm
Hi Daniel, it was good watching your videos and agree with alot of what you say. I really need help though and don\t know who to talk to, to help my daughter, she is on olanzepine, seroquel and ativan, becoming manic and i am scared which way things will go. I don't know what to do and don't want her back in hospital or on a treatment order, it all doesnt help do anyone, a therapist similar to how you were, here in Toronto? or anyone online that can help?
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hi Susan, Here is one possibility: Also, perhaps: Wishing you the best! Daniel
Brandon Brandon from Florida wrote on February 24, 2021 at 10:25 pm
Hi Daniel. Wanted to know if there are any hubs for therapists who have the same convictions as you. I wanna find a good one instead of endlessly sifting through the bargain-bins of pill-pushers and mystics. Its taking so long and has sucked a lot of the drive out of me searching for that one therapist. I would appreciate if you could point me towards any database of some kind, or some rubric of how to find a good one (I've also watched your YT vid on it). Maybe one day you or others could create a website or app that centralizes actual therapists, like Psychology Today but without the pop-psychology and pills. Thanks for fighting the good fight.
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Perhaps has a listing of such therapists... I just checked and found this: However, I have a lack of faith of people on lists... Often ending up on a list is just good marketing -- and who knows how they really are as therapists! Greetings--Daniel
Sam Sam from Brisbane wrote on February 18, 2021 at 6:22 am
There are u tubes on how adult orphans cope when they have been bereaved. But how does an adult orphan come to terms with the loss of their parents and family system if parents were severely personality disordered (narcisistic) and you were abandoned, scapegoated and disguarded when you woke up a realised the lie, they dump. How to cope with the final dumping after a last confrontation which was futile in the first place. How to rebuild if your family were migrants and there is no extended family to lean on and you are literally alone in terms of family. Also to make worse people say you're an adult you shouldn't care anymore or need family as 40.
Phyllis Cook Phyllis Cook from Phila wrote on February 17, 2021 at 8:01 am
Hello Daniel: I have just recently found your website and looked a little bit into your work and your approach to your life. The ideas and comments really resonate with me as a parent of 3 adult sons. My middle son has fairly recently decided to distance himself (essentially stop all communication) from my husband and me. He is married and his wife has had breast cancer which has resulted in their not being able to have children. I am sure this is extremely painful for him. I unfortunately commented on his simultaneous very significant weight gain which could certainly damage his health. Since expressing that concern, the door has shut and no communication is accepted or acknowledged Has been a couple of months and could go on indefinitely I suppose. I am trying to prepare for that potential reality. I just wanted to tell you it is so helpful to watch your video and read about your life and your "advice" for parents who have to face up to a child deciding to pull away from a parental relationship. As I look back at my own background ,weight and appearance were a constant theme in my family of origin which in retrospect was not a healthy approach to living one's life. Wish you the best in your work and will keep following!! Best. Phyllis
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Thank you Phyllis. I am wishing you and your family all the best. Daniel
Frank Frank from Chicago wrote on February 11, 2021 at 10:35 pm
Dear Mr Mackler, Intellectuals/intellectualism, the condescending know it alls, or the psuedo know its alls..I'm curious about your take on them, I was one. My forte was philosophy, the self absorbed existential kind with the cynical, nihilistic ruminating about the meaning of it all. Turns out, therapy (psychology) answered all my philosophical questions. Growing up with both parents having personality disorders left me very empty inside and all the insecurities of inadequacy drove me to overcompensate by over intellectualizing everything when the only intellectualizing I had been doing all all along was around buried feelings. To sit and feel them has been so redemptive that the narrative in my journals/diaries nowadays is pretentiously poetic as opposed to pretentiously academic. All the flowery language i find I cant help but use is an authentic expression of an exuberant empathy for life itself...anyways, I was wondering if you could, kindly, make a video in the future on your take on intellectualizing, I'm sure it would be just as insightful as every other subject you vlogged on, thanks, sincerely, your fan and student, frank
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That sounds like a good idea, Frank! Thank you. Daniel
Simon Stiel Simon Stiel wrote on January 14, 2021 at 12:52 pm
Interesting stuff about sexual orientation. If there was an intervention to make someone bisexual or pansexual would that be acceptable?
Laura Manville Laura Manville from Detroit (suburb), MI wrote on January 5, 2021 at 12:56 pm
Hi Doc Mac, I've seen your videos on YouTube and love your perspective. I've had the "there's something wrong with me" idea in my head for as long as I can remember. My parents were great, but not perfect. I've figured out some major issues recently that caused several decades of depression. I'm in a trauma WRAP program now. I had to push for that, since I was diagnosed with BPD vs. CPTSD. I finally made it clear the issue was trauma, not my personality. I'm 52, I'll be 53 in September. I've always felt different. Like an alien dropped off on the planet and left here. I am SO different from other people - I've never fit in. I get what people say when they say a diagnosis helps! You're looking for a label that will explain WHY you feel like an outsider looking in on everyone living life! I've spent a lot of time trying to get that idea OUT of my head. Then I saw your video today. Sometimes we need to hear it from someone else. Not just an expert, but someone, like you, who is unique - who tells the TRUTH about the world, and about TRAUMA!! I also listened to your video about finding a good therapist - which confirmed that a few of my therapists were crappy. The experts who really got me rolling when I started researching were Robert Whitaker (Anatomy of An Epidemic) and Peter Breggin (Your Drug May Be Your Problem). Between the two of them, I figured out no, I don't have bipolar, and most, if not ALL mental illness is caused by trauma. Plus psych meds are VERY toxic to the human brain. I appreciate your honesty about how painful trauma work is. People need to know. If they aren't ready, it will break them. I'm mentally strong as heck. Emotionally I'm a wreck, but I know I can deal with anything mentally. Thank you. These words are not enough, but will have to be. Thank you for saying that there isn't anything wrong with us, any of us. There isn't, but SO many people NEED to hear it! I NEEDED to hear it! I know the world is crazy - but it took me SO long to figure it out. I hope for a time when every child who is different, like I was, like you were, isn't told they are "wrong" and isn't rejected by society, peers, in every life situation. This rejection is HORRIBLE and HURTS people. There is NO need for it. We need to EMBRACE our differences and rejoice in diversity! We are too afraid of change to do that. Humanity loves the status quo. Or.... the powerful love it - and they oppress everyone who doesn't FIT in their model. Of course I don't fit. Anyone who questions authority doesn't. I abhor authority. I don't think there's any legitimate reason for ANY person to have authority over another. Which makes me an anarchist. Oh.... well, that's a big problem in American, lol.....
Anthony Anthony from Manhatttan wrote on December 13, 2020 at 12:15 am
Hi Daniel. I was just wondering how you've been. We spoke a few times in the past at events in NYC. I appreciate your work you have done and enjoyed speaking with you in the past. I have been free from psychiatry/mental health system for some time now and live in The City myself now. That move alone probably saved my life. Thanks and be well.