Hi Daniel A second message, to say I\'ve been reading a number of your essays, and I watched your video on confronting parents, and listened to your \'bullshit\' song. I\'ve just been very moved reading your \'The Traumatised Are Safe\' essay. You are a very unusual person, in your capacity for fearless truth telling, even when this will mean triggering people into their fear, with possible nasty consequences for yourself. Although, as you clearly appreciate, what first appears nasty, inevitably is liberating, if it helps you to know the truth more deeply. I feel the same way you do about taking responsibility for healing myself, rather than passing on that burden to a next generation. And my husband has spent his life trying to work out how to help the children who already exist, rather than creating any of his \'own\'. I am hoping we can connect via email (though that obviously depends on your time and inclination). In addition to the docos I mentioned in my last email, I have a couple of long documents about my confrontation of my mother which you may be interested in (a nonviolent action involving a peaceful vigil supporting my request for financial reparation, which landed me in prison for over three months for conscientiously breaking a domestic violence restriction order, and resulted in me defending myself in front of a jury). It was an amazing experience - we felt and learned so much, about my parents, the legal system, humans generally, and, of course, myself. Having been through all that, I resonated with many of the points you made in your video. I like the way you tell people what to expect, but don\'t discourage them from doing it. Obviously, every person needs to deal with their parents according to their own situation and inclination, but it is so often the case that I have to go into a situation, even knowing intellectually what the likely outcome is, to really access the feelings deeply enough to come to a clear and powerful understanding that really changes my sense of self. Anyway, I\'d love to hear where you are up to with your own \'terrifying\' journey foward. Cheers; Anita

i am glad that i broke contact with my parents. when i was together withs them in a room, it was THERE thoughts, beliefs and espacially there need for denial, what counted. i could not stay for some months constantly in contact with my personal feeling (or hopefully inner wisdom), as long as i was in contact with them. there are big problems with that decision of me too, but i would not know a better solution so far. i find it very well explained by you, how the emotional need of parents as well as the young adult having learned to be dependent on them makes the emotional healing impossible. There are surely many exeptions of this rule, but as i don´t belong to these exceptions - thank you for your videos, which encouraged me to this step.

I would like information about purchasing a DVD copy of Take These Broken Wings. Thanks

A beautiful work and very innovative. Something very important to have in mind (and in the body ...or this is the same)! Congratulations!

Dear Daniel, first of all, let me say I\'m truly grateful for your videos on YouTube, I watched all of them and a lot of them 2-3 times (and I probably will buy some of your books when I have more money). I\'m VERY attracted to \"finding my true self\", growth, healing from childhood trauma etc., and I do want to go this way. Unfortunately, I had a discouraging experience lately; it was when I moved to a different city, away from my parents and acquaintances. In the second night, I smoked some pot (never smoked it again since), when suddenly an intense anxiety came up, which was hard to endure, it stayed for days, till I decided to move back, because I felt so damn isolated, helpless.. it was just too much horror, and I feared that I now have lost my comfort forever.. Now I\'m again preparing to move, now to a nearer city... I see that coming again, and it will (I\'m still not completely free of it, after 2 month)... Now I\'m again full of willpower to go through this, but I know all this will vanish again when such a horror comes back.. It was like I was losing myself, I had nothing to hold on to, my usual phantasies, pleasures etc. vanished, replaced with anxiety, fear of losing happiness forever, ending up in suicide.. *sigh* I don\'t know what to write, I just hope you have any tips, you could provide any information, I don\'t know.. It\'s messy. With best regards, Sepehr

I received your documentary \"Open Dialogue\". Watched it today. Very intriguing to see how those family therapists and doctors are baffled by your question \"are you personally at risk by not medicating?\" The only thing that is missing from the film is to interview some policy makers at the municipality level or perhaps the next-higher-up level of governance.

Hi Daniel, are you coming to Melbourne, Australia this month? Cheers!

Just found your website having been reading Alice Miller for some time. Thank you.

Daniel, I am so glad to have been able to buy all four of your DVD\'s. You are doing good work and are a true inspiration. I am glad to have found your blog - I just read some of your writings about dreamwork and agree - I have done minimal dreamwork but find it fascinating. Dreams can be one way to deepen our understanding of ourselves. I have found miraculous physical and emotional healing through nutrition, supplementation, Energy Medicine and Energy Psychology, and feel truly blessed in that sense. It is something I want to share with the entire world, but unfortunately, there are those who just don\'t want to believe that if it isn\'t in the form of an FDA approved prescription, it can\'t possibly work. How frustrating!! Thanks again.

Hello Daniel, how are you? I am sorry,but my sister ordered the wrong DVD without german Subtitles,could she send you the DVD back? And trade it to a DVD with german Subtitles? It would be nice. The name of the DVD is \"Take these broken wings\". Greetings, Alex

Hey Daniel, I tried ordering the 4 DVDs from the DVD page but couldn\'t get the purchase to go through. Wanted to see if you were having problems with paypal or anything. I can also send a check. Lemme know what the best way is, thanks! j

Hi Daniel, i thank you for your work in looking for cures for mental illnes without any medications. My sister has been at the hospital for schyzofrenia, just 1 month ago. i\'m sure this desease has causes in the childhood, and not (only) in biological system of anyone of us. Hope science grows up in resolving mental illnes just with psychology! tahnk you.

Hi Daniel, your website and truth has had a profound impact on me. The other day my wife brought home the book \"The Body Never Lies\" by Alice Miller. I\'d never known of her before and upon looking her up online I came across your review of one of her books which is how I happened upon your website. Thank you for your courage to self heal and your transparency in your writings. This site has been hugely grounding and enlivening to my soul. The truth found here regarding the insidiousness of the parental dynamic makes sense to me on gut level and resonates in every way with my personal philosophy and life journey. The stance you take with regards to having children prior to fully healing is the exact reason I got a vasectomy prior to marrying my wife (though I wasn\'t fully aware at the time). Your the first voice of reason I\'ve heard that has made that decision of mine not seem so crazy afterall. Your also the first voice of reason that resonates with the truth of my soul that I\'ve always know to be true from the beginning but had been conditioned to deny because my very survival depended on it as a child. At 17 yrs of age I was involved in a form of chi gung, a kind of breathwork. I began to experience my true Self again but also began to prematurely awake to the traumas of my child within. It was overwhelming and I went through a nervous breakdown as a result. Because I was living at home with the perpetrators of the trauma, the twisted power plays and manipulation kicked into full gear. The pain of the trauma became a literal living hell to me that my parents took full advantage of to further their manipulative and sick agenda. They in essence made it very clear to me that my real Self was not welcome in the family and only the charade of denial and self hate would be adequate if I were to be welcome or accepted. It is so wild to me now to see the role I played in my family as the proverbial dumping ground. I was coerced into wearing a cloak of shame that perpetuated itself because it was the only way I knew to be. I\'m 37yrs old now and have gone through extensive psychotherapy and bodywork over the last 7yrs. I\'m on a healing journey but only because I\'ve learned it\'s ok to have permission to call bull shit on the cult of family; to grieve and process the pain of the deepest, most wounded parts of myself. Learning to feel acceptance and what real love actually is. The Spirit in me Is Unconditional Love! Your message, Daniel, has been a windfall for me because it deftly summarizes what my instincts and heart have been trying to tell me all along. I feel permission to feel more fully now in ways that just weren\'t being accessed before because of the limitations of therapy (and limitations of the therapist). Your message to \'go inside, take back what is yours, mourn and grieve over the evil that was done to you and alas deliverance will begin to unfold\' is the most damn refreshing thing my heart has taken hold of since my healing as an adult had started it\'s course. This tiny shift of pointing out the real root of all insecurity and realizing to what extent the motives of my parents were, has been a windfall for me. It\'s brought clarity of mind and continuity to my philosophy that had been, up until 6 days ago, still rather fractured and segmented, despite how far I thought I\'d come. My deepest appreciation and gratitude extends from my heart to you, brother.

Hi, I was wondering about something. Great work by the way with this site, espescially the psycological reasons to bag on this site, as soon as I saw the humor one I couldn\'t help but laugh X) anyway I stuck around because I thought it would be intringuing to take some of this advice. So about the dream analysis concept, will recording these dreams improve my focus in life, will it make me smarter as a person and open up more cognotive ablilities, I might not have considered buring all that emotion as I grew up and what not?